A new 'tougher' thread... and so it continues

smileyt_2

Wow, Mrs Chip, they are amazing! I am stuck on my cross stitch now because one side of the chart says one thing, and the other side of the chart (which has the bits for back stitch, french knots and other fancy stuff) says another. So I am about to e-mail the manufacturer and scream for help! Don't suppose your brother could do a stint or two for me, could he .....

Kidcat I read somewhere that it's not a parent's job to be popular and if you are in your kids' good books all the time then something is wrong! Which means in this instance that you must be doing something right!

As soon as I've done the e-mail I'm off to bed. I've cycled about 12 miles today and walked the poochies for a couple of hours, which isn't much really, but it's enough for me on top of a couple of hours on the allotment yesterday. It's times like this when I realise I really am in my forties and not still in my twenties!

kidcat

Smiley - I was asked to do a Race for life by some mums at school last week - after I had finished laughing I actually started to consider it, but having chased DS for half a mile today I realised there is no way I could possibly do it.

mardatha

If you give into blackmail where does that leave you??? Yur a mum not a doormat x

EstherH

KKIDKAT: I don't suppose it will make any difference me saying this, but DON'T FEEL GUILTY. While you dd won't think about anyone but her and her boyfriend, and that's normal because she is a teenager, it doesn't mean that you should fall in with her plans or feel guilty. Giving in and doing too much for our kids means that they will always expect us to carry on and won't ever begin to get more thoughtful. My friend only had one child and doted on her. Gave her the world and she took it all for granted and never learned that she couldn't have just what she wanted. My kids, because we couldn't give them everything, didn't appreciate it growing up but are much better adults now.
HTH

Esther x

kidcat

mardatha wrote: »

If you give into blackmail where does that leave you??? Yur a mum not a doormat x

Thanks, sometimes its hard cos so many of her friends parents only exist to fulfill their little darlings every whim, one of her friends (16) has for the last six months been having her boyfriend to sleep over every other night, and then on the alternate she sleeps at his house. Her dad says we arent happy but she insisted:eek:, and we have told her that they are just to sleep in the room nothing else??

With that kind of example we seem positively draconian and its sometimes hard to see if we are doing right or being too harsh. In this case I am sticking to mu guns - she was asked in advance she chose to say nothing although a detailed conversation did happen with his parents, so she doesnt go. Have told her if they want to meet in town at lunch time I am happy to drop her off on my way out but thats as far as I am budging.

have been pricing up these dine in deals and they positively exortionate £20 at M&s for whats basically a posh ready meal :eek: beginning to think it may well be a none starter for that price we could eat out at the local two for one place and still have change!

mardatha

The thing with teens is that, whatever you do, if it goes wrong then its ALL YOUR FAULT. And if they get bored with the moon that you gave them on a plate and dont want it any more, then that also is ALL YOUR FAULT.
So its a total waste of time trying to be Mrs Nice Mum cos its not possible!:rotfl:

mardatha

Sky News today says inflation is at a 2 year low. Who are they trying to brainwash? Do they think that anybody at all believes them?? Maybe the prices arent going up weekly at all - maybe its mass hysteria:rotfl::rotfl:

scrabbles_2

Kidcat 'no' was 'no' in our house without any need for discussion or explanation. I know that things have changed in the family world but if she keeps on I would explain all of the reasons why 'no' is justified and stick to my guns. You are the parent and she is the child - you have the final say, end of. Of course being childless I don't have much to base this on but my own childhood!

I have friends who spent literally thousands indulging their little one every Christmas because Little Johnny wants it and they don't want to shatter Little Johnny's illusions by not giving in to every little whim. And I pointed out this Christmas gone, Little Johnny is now thirteen. He knows you aren't millionaires. He's old enough to live in the real world! Come his fourteenth birthday last week, there was major Monsteritis because he didn't get the right phone or the right laptop. He got an additional birthday gift (courtesy Auntie Scrabbles) of a flea in his ear about how his Mum has a second job cleaning his school in the evening, all year round, including the disgusting loos, to pay for all the terrible birthday and Christmas presents that aren't quite good enough for Little Johnny.

Kids have always been selfish and ungrateful - but only if you let them be. And I spent approximately 20% of my teens believing that my parents hated me and were trying to spoil my life, but I still love them and will care for them when they're old

Don't look on it as a 'no' or letting her down. Look on it as a life lesson you're giving her!

Hobsons_Choice

Mrs Chip: That Xstitch is just amazing! I also know of a 60something guy who does the most incredible embroidery. His wife sells them for charity sometimes (they have so many) and they fetch really good prices.
Teenagers: I have two lads, the eldest was a nightmare as a teenager, the youngest was sweetness itself (and still is). They were both brought up the same way, so there's no telling. I also worked with a chap who's kids were dragged up, always coming in to our workplace, dirty and asking for money for chips,(both parents were fond of the pub). Now they're adults and can't do enough for their parents, pay for holidays for them and treat them like royalty.
Life's a lottery.

scrabbles_2

Ah teens are teens eh?

Happy Valentines Day all :happylove I hope you are all having a good day. No Valentines for Scrabbles... OH is a moany sod and anyway, it is a waste of money. I know he loves me, I don't need him to buy me some overpriced roses or blooming cuddly toy to prove it. But I hope those who do celebrate got something lovely and those who are single have oodles of secret admirers who haven't quite plucked up the courage to tell them yet

I am spending the morning before w**k sorting out the spare room. It's a box room really, but I need somewhere to put all that loo roll and an approved food order coming that I have to hide before I get OH's standard lecture on hoarding