A new 'tougher' thread... and so it continues

kidcat

Byatt - contact your GP - your needs are just as important as your DD and your GP will at least be on your side as it were. Take care ((hugs)) we are all here for you

smileyt_2

MrsLurcherwalker wrote: »

Dere Bruno - I hopes you is still recoverin an has your staples. I cant talk to you again till Satiday cos they're comin to take Mumi away - oh, sori she's goin away for a few days inna big tin pigeon wot flys inna sky wiv lites on. She's goin to where my friend Gordon cums frum its Scottyland to see somefin called pandas! I cant get into Dadis hed like I can hers cos hes always thinkin bigg thinks bout fishin or lottiements or beer so I cant make him use a pooter. It probly means I'll have to go to a pub alot but vats ok cos I has lotsa friends vere and sum peoples get under my table with me for chats so vats alrite. Dadi sez oh goodie lotsa peace an quiet an beer - shame she hasta come back, but I fink he will be glad a bit when she dus! Keep gettin betta an I'll write agen next week - luv frum Doc xx

Hello Doc. Bruno is busy at the moment supervising my lodger in the kitchen but he says to try and cadge some crisps off your Dadi's friends in the pub. Make like he's forgotten to feed you, look as sad as you can. The killer move is to rest your head on someone's knee and gaze up at them mournfullywith your big, brown eyes.

Byatt I hope you are feeling better soon. Please don't disappear without a trace.

Scrabbles thank you for the promise of the document. I hope you have finished the trauma that is ebay listing!

Kidcat lol at your nan and her 'flat sausages'! That made me giggle.

Valentine's Day tomorrow. I'm expecting my usual nice round number of cards - zero. :rotfl:

Well, best crack on with the cross-stitch. Lodger is cooking stinky mackerel so I might be doing it with a peg on my nose. I swear the next young person I take in is going to be vegetarian!

Bobbykins

Byatt - it's good that you recognise the warning signs - please take care of yourself and contact your GP. I will be thinking of you and sending positive vibes your way.

Hope you feel a bit better soon hun.
xx

Mrs_Chip

Evening Chaps

Not posted for the last couple of days as going through a 'down' phase - don't know why, I'm sure it will pass. Sorry you are feeling down too Byatt, perhaps recognising it early may mean you are able to turn the tables?

I have been reading though, and not much to say about tempting babies to eat - well practiced in doing it for cats but I don't think it brings much to the debate!

Made a theraputic batch of marmalade today, I quite like the tedium of making it, but we now have so much we would need to eat it off the spoon to get anywhere near using it up! it does make the house smell divine! I have got a bit obsessed with the idea of preserving, so have scoured the house for half-empty jars and bottles. I know there are so many at the London house, I'm not sure OH will see the merit of carting back boxes of empty jars! I have borrowed Mrs OG's copy of the River Cottage preserves book, I think I feel a small investment coming on. I did give in and buy a WI preserving book from The Works which was 3.99, much cheaper than I found it online.

I think my gloomy mood might be because I am not looking forward to going back to London to clear the house, apart from the no heating issue, I find myself going through the rooms in my mind, which sends it spinning. I know it has got to be done, but in my head it is such a huge task, I can't think where to start. Something else that will sort itself out!

Pizza in cinema -well if there is a reason not to go, that's it! For goodness sake, is it really necessary? Just seems like an opportunity for the cinemas to make more money out of the punters, and make the experience even worse than it already is (I once sat through a film with the person next to me eating noisily from start to finish, that takes some doing!)

Hugs etc for everyone who need them, hope you are all finally thawing out!

kidcat

Mrs Chips pizza being served definitely made things more difficult for me, Ds doesnt understand that if one person gets it not everyone can so was hard explaining. Was also very distracting to have staff walking up and down delivering them to people too - cant imagine how bad the clean up is either.

Not sure how quick you need to clear the house but my advice (having moved twice recently) is to start with one room and clear that totally before moving on to the next - it feels better knowing you have finished a room and means that you are setting more realistic goals than are achievable.

Hobsons_Choice

Byatt: It's coming to the end of a long winter (well, it seems long to me) and the daffodils will be out soon.
Every year I have to repeat this near the end of February! I seem to need the reassurance round about now...so take care and look after yourself.

kidcat

When do teenagers stop being thoughtless?

I had a big discussion weeks ago with DD17 about tomorrow being valentines day and that if she wanted to make plans then she had to give me plenty of notice as OH is working. I also pointed out that if they planned a meal out t he booking was essential. Roll forward three/four weeks and when asked tonight if she has plans for the week (we have been invited to my parents for dinner and I am trying to organise nights) she announces plans for a meal out tomorrow night????
She has given no thought to the fact that she had money for cinema today, needs money for shopping trip on Thurs (manchester) and that she has given us no notice at all. had I known, i would have said no to both the shopping trip and the cinema today. And we are also expected to do either the drop off or pick up of the two of them - meaning our night is effectively going to revolve around them Not to mention the petrol involved as they have chosen somewhere 15 miles away.:mad::mad::mad:

Have really pit myself out today to accomodate taking her to the cinema, collect her and boyfriend and feed him tonight too - I really believed they had planned this instead of tomorrow night.

Its days like this when I wish I had stayed single and become a mad cat lady with 120 cats in a small cottage somewhere!!:D

smileyt_2

Kidcat - I don't suppose you could just tell her no, could you?

Try to remember that teenagers' brains aren't fully developed until they're about 21 .... or something .....

VJsmum

kidcat wrote: »

When do teenagers stop being thoughtless?

I guess the answer might be "Never as long as we accommodate them?". I am not sure I would do this - but you could say no? My 15 year old DD is similar - she is lovely but it is all about her. Even when I accused her of being thoughtless she then said I'd made her feel bad - still about her!

DS is 13 in a couple of weeks - at the moment he is the thoughtful one, but I am guessing that may all be about to change :rotfl:

It's so unfair :cool:

kidcat

smileyt wrote: »

Kidcat - I don't suppose you could just tell her no, could you?

Try to remember that teenagers' brains aren't fully developed until they're about 21 .... or something .....

VJsmum wrote: »

I guess the answer might be "Never as long as we accommodate them?". I am not sure I would do this - but you could say no? My 15 year old DD is similar - she is lovely but it is all about her. Even when I accused her of being thoughtless she then said I'd made her feel bad - still about her!

DS is 13 in a couple of weeks - at the moment he is the thoughtful one, but I am guessing that may all be about to change :rotfl:

It's so unfair :cool:

Thats where the problem lies - saying no - I end up feeling bad and as though I have failed as a parent somehow. Have spoken to oH and we have agreed that we are simply saying no, its clear that the boyfriends parents knew and were consulted yet we were not - so as its such short notice we will say no. And I will then spend the day feeling guilty - and having my parents give me grief when she starts telling them how hard done to she is.