Help-Father-In-Law tried to commit suicide

Brighton_belle

Nicki wrote: »

you come across on this thread as a really lovely, warm and honest person. I think your husband and your MIL are really lucky to have you. I sincerely hope that nothing like this ever happens to me, but if it did you are exactly the kind of spouse, or daugher in law, or friend, I would want to have supporting me!

Hope things start improving for you all soon.

I thought exactly the same, and really respect how you took on board thoughts and opinions on here. Keep talking to your DH now he has opened up. This si very tough for you both.

NAR

anon0079 wrote: »

When my husband come home last night he actually come in spoke to me in depth and said I was been really supportive and he hoped I didn't feel excluded,we needed that for both of us. We are a strong couple but thats due to us talking any problems out normally but this was a hard situation.

First of all well done for recognising that you were being somewhat selfish, despite what happened with your mother. So glad he said the things to you that he did, because you needed to hear that from him. Your actions will show him how supportive you are being. As eldest son he will feel responsibilities and I'm sure he is still coming to terms with the news of what his father has done and the longer term implications of his actions. That will be weighing heavily on him especially if his father does not pull through.

So carry on being supportive and hopefully it will not be too long before you have your "husband" back.

anon0079

My Hubby got some good news today my FIL appears to be responding well to tube feed this is the first time they have been given positive news from medical staff they feel he is not critical and has a better chance of surviving so thats good. Hubby feels like a weight has been lifted. However now his Mother is angry that his Father is going to survive she says it would have been easier if he had died and says she will not let him come home, but only time will tell at some stage if he survives and is well enough they will have to sit in a room together and thrash it all out as she has so many questions that need answered.

victory

The anger is understanable, one day at a time, one day at a time

Make-it-3

Whatever way things go, there is still a lot of fallout from the situation. The thoughts and feelings you have are probably shared by many members of the family too.

I'm glad you are now able to put things into perspective a bit. I'm sure your husband not speaking about it for a while was simply that he was in shock and had too much going on in his head to properly verbalise it. No doubt you are struggling with it too. Can you find a friend or family member to help you out both on a practical and emotional level in the short term. Then you will be in a better position to provide the support your husband needs. Sounds like he is already beginning to realise what you went thru with your mother, so try not to hold that against him now.