OS Daily Wednesday 23rd November

floss2

Big dodgy hug JG :grouphug: been there so understand how you're all feeling.

Floss xxx

candygirl

JackieO wrote: »

I married in a registry office in Oxford with my brother and then SIL as witness's.We then went off for steak and chips for the four of us and the bill came to £9.00.My brother said he would borrow his pa-in-laws camera and two days later told me he had fogotten to put film in it .As there was around a foot of snow on the ground at the time(1963) it was a bit too chilly to have them done again.We were stoney broke when we got married and my wedding ring cost £4.00 I have never taken it off and wear to this day 48 years later.As we managed to get a few bob more over the years my OH said he would get me a new one but I always said no as it reminds me of those days. I did get a nice engagement ring for my 10th annivesary and an eternity ring for my 35th,sadly I lost my lovely chap in the year of our 40th so we never quite made our Ruby.But when I met him, we married 41 days later and it was the best deal I ever had in my life.Its what you feel inside that matters not all the trimmings,they are not important, if he makes you laugh rather than cry then he is the bloke to go for .I had almost 40 years of laughing and even with no money,flowers,photos and my outfit, the skirt was so short it barely covered my decency (it was the early 1960s)I had a fantastic life with him.

omg Jackie i'm in tears reading you're love story:o:o:o:o

jools27_2

Jackieg big hugs for you all, I know how helpless and hopeless it can feel, but sometimes the words don't really matter, it's the actions, the being there, the hugs. Sending keep strong vibes, and hope you are feeling a bit better yourself tonight.
Evening all, busy day at work but am now off till monday, so will hopefully finish the crimbo shopping and make a dent on the tip that my house has become this week. Hopefully will pop into the hospice tomorrow for a visit, and to sort out the Light Up a Life tribute I do for dad, will do one for uncle too, its a year today since he passed, and I have him to thank for my home improvements this year!
Hugs to everyone, you can always fit in an extra hug!
Lou, hows things today?

kezlou

Jackieo (((hugs))) such a lovely story!

Bramble, me and OH once said if we get married, our family won't be invited !!! Instead we'll swan off somewhere, get married, stay in a b&b and thats it. Not the most traditional i know. Just do what feels right for you.

When my now deceased mother married my step-father, they did it in our home. Its complicated they were really my grandparents, but they looked after me since the day i was born. The woman came out and conducted the ceremony in the living room. We decorated it with flowers, had a enormous sponge cake and buffet food. In the garden we had a gazebo, all fully decorated. In the evening we lit candles and had a bbq, the booze flowed and everyone enjoyed it. Sadly my mother mother died three weeks later and all way through to the day she died, she said it was the best day / wedding she ever had. Enjoying the sun with her family and loved ones.

Jackieg ((hugs))
NPM know what you mean its extremely difficult getting anywhere with special needs. Just hang on in there!!!!
What a day its blooming freezing, ended up wearing a scarf and gloves to pick snips up from school today!

dragged my friend with me today posting leaflets, fingers crossed phone calls may arrive. Its only in the local area but you never know. Still haven't fixed the website. Hate HTLM's and DNS codes. My brains too old and fuzzy to deal with web codes.

The black cats still here, but currently its hiding away from me after i told if off for beating up fat knacker. So who knows if it will stay now.

Well i think i've caused upset on the old style forum today, all because i bumped up a thread, Darn it, what can i say, trouble follows me everywhere!!!

monnagran

Bramble. Do what feels right for you and blow everyone else. I had the works, old church, lit with candles, Music group playing then fantastic organ, flowers, bridesmaids, page boy, peal of bells etc. etc. It was all downhill from there and ended in divorce. I would trade all that for JackieO's experience. The vicaress has done some fantastic weddings, this year she did one with 15 bridesmaids who danced into the church to, 'Here come the girls.' Church weddings don't have to be boring, if you get the right vicar it can be whatever you want it to be. Mind you, we did have a call from a funeral director who had a client who wanted a 'non-religious vicar'. He said, 'I've got just the person!' She did it and later was asked to join the family for a 'scattering of the ashes picnic'.
Beth: hand out those cards for goodness sake. The price of postage is ridiculous.
JackieG: what a sad situation. Just know that you are in our thoughts.
Islandmaid: Of course you feel wretched, you give your heart to your pets and a little bit of it goes with every one you lose. I imagine that you are thinking, 'Never again.' We all think that we can't put ourselves through this heartbeak again, but I guarantee that you will.

Heavens, it's late. What am I doing still up?
Goodnight, sleep well.

cat_smith

Bramble I'd agree with everyone. Do what you want. I had the full church do. Formal lunch and ceilidh. My sister phoned us from Thailand in April saying she was getting married on the beach the following day. I can understand your OH thinking that the Registry Office might be impersonal, but the idea of having a civil ceremony as suggested on here sounds like it might be a compromise.

FarmersWife_2

JackieO wrote: »

I married in a registry office in Oxford with my brother and then SIL as witness's.We then went off for steak and chips for the four of us and the bill came to £9.00.My brother said he would borrow his pa-in-laws camera and two days later told me he had fogotten to put film in it .As there was around a foot of snow on the ground at the time(1963) it was a bit too chilly to have them done again.We were stoney broke when we got married and my wedding ring cost £4.00 I have never taken it off and wear to this day 48 years later.As we managed to get a few bob more over the years my OH said he would get me a new one but I always said no as it reminds me of those days. I did get a nice engagement ring for my 10th annivesary and an eternity ring for my 35th,sadly I lost my lovely chap in the year of our 40th so we never quite made our Ruby.But when I met him, we married 41 days later and it was the best deal I ever had in my life.Its what you feel inside that matters not all the trimmings,they are not important, if he makes you laugh rather than cry then he is the bloke to go for .I had almost 40 years of laughing and even with no money,flowers,photos and my outfit, the skirt was so short it barely covered my decency (it was the early 1960s)I had a fantastic life with him.

What a lovely story Jackie

Cx

Molly41

Islandmaid wrote: »

Hi all,

A bit more organised this morning and threw a stew in the SC this morning, so only need to add some dumplings and Ta-Daaaa...

I think i,m a tad mental at the moment - woke up last night in tears worried that because it was frosty, poor Bruno would be cold in his rsting place - is it normal to have this many tears over a pet? He,s the first we,ve lost.

Bramble - at the end of the day, even if you get married at the local tip, you will have a magical day, remind OH that its you and him that have to enjoy it not all the guests, even if they are family xx

NPM - your such a good mum, Noah will find his place, not only at school, but in life too xx

Lou - thinking of you Hun, baby steps xx

Sorry if i,ve missed anyone - i,m having a bit of a brain-fart:eek:

Have a fab evening all xx

Islandmaid - I know that I have shed many tears over lost pets and still remembering the death of my beloved dog 17 years ago (at this time of year) still reduces me to tears. They are not just pets and there are no rights and wrongs about how you should feel or how you should react xxx

Molly41

jackieglasgow wrote: »

Evening All,

Sorry I have been such an intermittent poster lately, just can't always bring myself to talk, although I am reading, laughing, crying, cheering and admonishing alongside you all.

I have been on a bit of a declutter mission a la esmf, although mine is not as successful, I fear. I have however, given some of the bys' old things, including an ELC wooden castle and knights, etc. to a young man I work with, for his wee boy for Christmas. I had been contemplating putting it away for my grandchildren, but its not exactly an heirloom, and with all this redundancy talk at work, he would be better keeping his money in the bank. Its in lovely condition, and I am delighted to think the wee boy will enjoy playing with it. He also got a nice new to him bike I have been doing a wee bit every night, and it is making a difference, although I have been ill the last couple of days, and that has slowed me down. DH is home Friday, and I would like the house to look a lot different for him

I have a pot of soup in the SC to cook overnight, and will take some to work in the morning, and the boys will have some for dinner with HM sausage rolls.

Life is getting sadder here by the day, BIL is not doing at all well, he's had his stent replaced but the cancer has spread even further and he's having secondary symptoms now. The palliative care team are trying to balance his painkilling needs with his desire to remain lucid and functioning, and struggling to manage. DSIS sounds very close to the edge, and I am struggling to find the words for her.

Hugs to you all, especially islandmaid.

Jackie xxx

Again another intermittent poster as real-life gets in the way. Loads of love to you and yours Jackie G x

I know what you mean about the ELC toys. I have had the pleasure of resurrecting our old dolls house and train track for Mooloo's DGD when she comes here to play. We have all enjoyed seeing it being played with again xx