A few months and several questions

RosaBernicia

I suspect pure nosiness has a factor in my case too. Though having slept very late and had more weird dreams, I woke up annoyed with the ex in question so looks like my subconscious has done some more processing on that one :rotfl:

ZTD

RosaBernicia wrote: »

I suspect pure nosiness has a factor in my case too.

Curiosity killed the cat. And I'm not talking about an 80's pop group...

RosaBernicia

The Best Exotic Marigold Hotel is fabulous

And MSE wise, the Odeon card is well worth having. Am also v pleased with the Costa added to local cinema as this means I can take a coffee into the screen :j instead of horrible fizz stuff (or more often, sneaking in stuff from the Sainsbugs nearby )

Flat is progressing. Bathroom is nearly sorted - I need a pretty box or hanging unit to hide a few bits, and will pick up a clear-ish shower curtain as it will make the room seem a whole lot bigger than the current opaque-with-huge-print one. Kitchen is just about done, might treat it to better co-ordinating bins at some point.

Bedroom also getting there - have just sorted the last black bag so need to find somewhere for belts, put the last few shoulder bags somewhere (realised I have a v embarrassing number of these) and chuck hair deccies in with the evening bags (of which I also have an embarrassing number, in fact it's worse because half of them were picked up on sale and have never been used). Ditched a few things that have never really fitted properly but somehow escaped previous culls :whistle: and am planning a bigger clearout when I switch stuff over for summer.

I think tomorrow might be a trip out to find the shower curtain in question and an evening 'goddessing' to get started ready for summer

Rosa xx

RosaBernicia

Am distinctly bored with this downsizing/ unpacking lark. It's just taking too flaming long.

Shower curtain has been found and put up - well worth it, as now the bathroom looks the size it is instead of half that. Didn't get up in time to do charity shop run yesterday though, so have a growing pile of carp in the kitchen which needs to be delivered. Did manage to find the big Homebase today though (probably just as well I didn't find it before, it's very well hidden in a miniscule ind est across a junction from all the other local home-type stores) and investigate sheds. The bad news is I can't bear to spend that amount of money on the plastic kind and think I am going to just spend the extra £40 on a wooden store. Weirdly, I resent this. Which is a very odd feeling for someone who has happily spent the last 4 years sorting a rented house that has had little other TLC since the 70s. I guess it's partly because this flat is so small that everything has to be considered carefully before it's allowed in, and also because there's not much gardening to be had out of it. I may cheer up once I can get some pots sorted.

Haven't done much else today apart from sleeping and thinking. Both were useful. Have concluded that I do see this flat as being transitional - it will do, it's nice enough and if I have to stay that's OK, but it's not my ideal - and that's fair enough especially as there will be changes coming up with my job over the summer. Also noticed that a lot of what I am basically doing in the process of sorting the place is giving stuff away. Now that I have no storage space and no spare room to maintain, there is an awful lot of stuff that I don't realistically need. Most of it isn't really worth selling, and I'm not sure I can be dealing with the hassle for the bits that might be. I know that's not particularly MSE. But part of today's musings was realising that this shift in place and space has proved a rather interesting point.

I'm here on the DFW boards because I owe money. I've got used to thinking of myself as poor because I need to pay that back. And yet, that's not a particularly helpful mindset - it has made me focus on what I don't have, instead of what I do. It's made me think about what I can get from even the stuff I don't need, rather than simply giving it to someone who does need it. I'm not sure I want to think like that. I am happy to be more careful about how I spend my money in future - so at least next time I move I won't be shifting so much rubbish - but I think I'd rather just let stuff go than drive myself bonkers with Ebay. Apart from anything else, I can't stand having stuff in the house much longer, and I can rarely guarantee that I will be able to pop to the post office from work these days.

It's a good feeling to be able to clear away the things I don't use or need, and to know that soon I will only be keeping the things I really want. It feels rather like when I escaped the big smoke for this town... when I arrived, I had clothes for all occasions, because in the smoke I could be expected to go out to any kind of event at a moment's notice. Most of those outfits are still unworn since that move, because my lifestyle has changed - there is less variation in the kind of clothes I need, and I don't go to stuff I don't feel like :rotfl: . I'm just kind of amazed to find out that abundance is not an absolute after all... abundance is having enough for what I need and want, not enough for what somebody else thinks I might need or want :doh: :rotfl:

Rosa xx

vasseur

RosaBernicia wrote: »

. I'm just kind of amazed to find out that abundance is not an absolute after all... abundance is having enough for what I need and want, not enough for what somebody else thinks I might need or want :doh: :rotfl:

Very profound statement there Rosa. I totally agree though. A cluttered house is a cluttered mind.

(I do have that one LBD that all women are supposed to have that they can lay their hands on in a flash should they need to. In fact I have two )

RosaBernicia

polesalot wrote: »

Very profound statement there Rosa. I totally agree though. A cluttered house is a cluttered mind.

(I do have that one LBD that all women are supposed to have that they can lay their hands on in a flash should they need to. In fact I have two )

Very profound statement from you too Poles - I should probably frame it

I have (at the last count) a minimum of four long satin dresses suitable for formal events. Two have never been worn, one has been worn once, and the other twice. Total cost of the four £320. When did I last go to an event requiring this kind of dress? A conference dinner two years ago. And that's not counting the long summer dresses that I can get away with wearing as maxis as well as formal, or the short dressy ones

I also have a whole box of satin shoes that I never wear, although at least to be fair those are about five years old and did get worn when I first had them. I suppose on the bright side I do tend to keep things in good condition and buy stuff that doesn't go out of style, and I don't change size a lot. Just need to cut down on the amount of stuff

A re-prioritisation exercise might have to go along with my wardrobe edit

Rosa xx

RosaBernicia

It's payday :j

I'm sure the internet was invented in order to circumvent call centres :mad: having locked myself out of my account while trying to get in and change my address, I called the b soc instead... who told me that I should just try again with the card reader and anyway they can't accept change of address over the phone :mad: :wall:


Have sorted all my bills and paid chunks off debts... must add up and sort signature later. Am going to finally start putting money in holiday fund :j but might have to reduce this month's slightly due to a bill I forgot about from last month _pale_ also suspect my electric dd is way too high but will pay it for a couple of months then check against actual usage.

Need to start taking lunches to work again, or have the M&S security throw me out on sight - but tomorrow I get fed for free and I have about £15 to come back on expenses for last week.

Rosa xx

RosaBernicia

The so-called online service can't reset my PIN either, or give me a hint what my theoretically memorable information was, or even tell me what format the memorable date should be entered in (and yes apparently it is case sensitive). So I won't be using that account til I can get into town on the weekend, and shortly after that will be shifting the money to somewhere I can access it without having to track 5 different numbers allocated to me all of which are harder to remember than a flaming password (the kind that seem to be adequate for every other online banking service).

Clearly I was wrong about having figured out the washer drier since not only did yesterday's towels come out like cardboard and cold, putting them back in today seems to have resulted in another wash instead of the drying I wanted. No, there isn't any clear indication in the instructions about how to ensure it's in drier mode. And it is too late to run it any longer now that I have upstairs neighbours.

I sorted a few bits tonight but am too grumpy to do that as well as paperwork so it will have to wait til later in the week. So will the gigantic stack of stuff for the charity shop which is currently filling the kitchen, because even though we are supposed to finish early tomorrow, if I load up the car with stuff it will turn out we don't and the car will stay like that til the weekend anyway. Oh no - have just remembered I'm supposed to be elsewhere this Saturday :mad: hmmm might cancel

And I can't shift the garden stuff either until I have a store to put it in which means paying out £100 and waiting about for deliveries. Oh and apparently I can't switch my water bill over from the last place online without a reading, which I didn't take because the meter was under 4 inches of snow at the time. So that's another phone call in a lunch hour.

Gah, am going to bed and hoping I will wake up less grumpy tomorrow. I suppose at least being grumpy means my energy levels are creeping back up :rotfl:

Rosa xx

Knitting_Nora

*steptoes in*

*places tlc-choccie on the table for Rosa when she wakes up*

*steptoes out*

ZTD

polesalot wrote: »

Very profound statement there Rosa. I totally agree though. A cluttered house is a cluttered mind.

So I need to be looking for someone with a wanton house then?

polesalot wrote: »

(I do have that one LBD that all women are supposed to have that they can lay their hands on in a flash should they need to.

If you're flashing, you should be putting on *some* kind of dress...

RosaBernicia wrote: »

I have (at the last count) a minimum of four long satin dresses suitable for formal events. Two have never been worn, one has been worn once, and the other twice. Total cost of the four £320.

OK then, why did you buy them? Four long dresses for about £80 each sounds like you've either had them a long time (and bought them when money was worth something) or you bought them on special.

RosaBernicia wrote: »

I suppose on the bright side I do tend to keep things in good condition and buy stuff that doesn't go out of style, and I don't change size a lot.

This is good.

RosaBernicia wrote: »

Just need to cut down on the amount of stuff

Or go out more and get the wear.

RosaBernicia wrote: »

Gah, am going to bed and hoping I will wake up less grumpy tomorrow. I suppose at least being grumpy means my energy levels are creeping back up :rotfl:

Or it means you're less accepting of poor service.