Are Maintenance Payments Based on Household Income or Individual Income?

Thirtysix

fannyanna wrote: »

By the sound of it she is supporting HIM. What you really mean is also support your daughter which I'm sure is something she isn't about to do anytime soon.

I meant "support" in the whole sense Fanny,not merely financial.....and yes you are right.DH is a very proud individual and I suspect he wants to continue to pay "his way" in his new marriage and to do that,with whatever finances he has,something has to "give". In this case,it is easier to stop school fees than to "rely" on his new wife....

Princess_kate

Would you really want another woman paying for your child tho? Its not his money its her's, which she, i presume, has earned due to her own hard wok, why would she be expected to pay for you child & why would you want her to?

Alias_Omega

If you cant afford it, you cant afford it.

If he wants her to carry on the schooling, he will find a way to supply you with the cash. Though you might not want to know where it came from.

Could you handle that his new partner is gifting him the cash, to be able to afford for his child to goto school.?

Thirtysix

I ABSOLUTELY WOULD NOT want her paying for my daughter's schooling :mad:

Well Alias you have a point.I don't care or even want to know where the money comes from,all I care about is our daughter,her security and her stability.

I have no parents,my sister died 6mts after we split which has had a huge impact on both of us.Her only real stability has been me and her school.

NAR

The answer is simple, if you can't afford the school fees (without his 50%) then send her to state school! :eek:

peachyprice

Thirtysix wrote: »

I ABSOLUTELY WOULD NOT want her paying for my daughter's schooling :mad:

But that's what you're asking for by hoping that the household income is taken into account. If you OH no longer earns enough to fund her private schooling the only other place the money is going to come from is his wife.

newcook

if things are tight and are going to be that way for a couple of years, could your DD not go to the local school?

clearingout

Could you and your ex perhaps ask the new partner for a loan to tide things over for the rest of the year with the schooling?

clearingout

newcook wrote: »

if things are tight and are going to be that way for a couple of years, could your DD not go to the local school?

changing schools is not good for children. If it has to be done, it has to be done but if there is a temporary dip in finances and something can be done to cover it, particularly given the upset over a separation/divorce, that would be preferable to a change in school. My eldest (now 7) started in private school, had to come out due to divorce and went to the local school and then we had to move so he changed school again. That was 3 schools in 3 school years - he has, to his credit, coped admirably but I don't recommend it. Our younger child has been at one school only and he's doing much better, he's far more settled in himself.

onlyroz

I think it's one thing changing the school of a 6-year-old, and changing the school of an older child. At 6 she'll make new friends easily, and I can't see her education being disrupted that much.

If we were talking about a 15-year-old just about to take their GCSEs then I'd sell my granny to make sure my child had a stable education, but that's not the case here.

If you can't afford a private education but have *some* extra money, then why not back up a state education with a private tutor a few hours a week?