what're your reasons for not being on the organ donor registry?

poet123

hazelc56 wrote: »

Guys guys it was only a question about what reasons people would have for not signing the register.
I am sure the OP didnt meant any disrespect to anyone.
Not worth arguing over really.
I am sure that each one of us has respect for the other regardless of what we choose, or our reasons for doing, or not doing it.
I agree with you RuthnJasper,it is worth debating but i can see that there is some sort of slanging match going on here.
Seems like it has gotten out of context somewhere along the way.Or we have in our midst a troll or two.

No slanging match (the nastier posts from some of those who are pro donation)have been removed, simply irritation that those who do not share their pov have been villified. Everyone is entitled to their opinion, and to express that opinion without being shouted down or insulted.

hazelc56

poet123 wrote: »

No slanging match (the nastier posts from some of those who are pro donation)have been removed, simply irritation that those who do not share their pov have been villified. Everyone is entitled to their opinion, and to express that opinion without being shouted down or insulted.

hmmm...:(I missed those posts poet123 glad to say.
You are exactly right,everyone is entitled to their opinion.Couldnt agree with you more.

hazelc56

Stephb1986 wrote: »

A good friend of mine sadly died late last year he was an organ donor from his tragic death 5 other people survived by recieving his organs.

I am too a organ donor I don't think I'm comfortable with them taking my eyes though I would like to keep them when I die even though they are no use to me, but I do think that once we have gone from this world that we can still watch over our loved ones well how can we if we have no eyes I know that sounds crazy but it's how I feel about things.

Both my mum and step dad have donated blood for years my mum hasn't in the last few years as she was given blood when she had my brother in 1983 back then blood wasn't tested for aids and hepititus (sp) c etc so she is no longer able to donate blood.

Steph xx

awe sorry about your friend steph.
Thats a very sweet reason you have for keeping your eyes..never thought about it that way.:)
Its very interesting to hear some reasons why people dont wish to or cant donate their organs.

syledis

I would only donate if i had a binding say in who received them

mocannhoff

My reason for not being an organ donor so far is laziness. But it is my New Year's resolution to register as an organ donor!!!

barbiedoll

Did anyone watch "Love on the transplant list" on BBC3 just now?

What an inspirational woman...........and what a story to show the best use of a perfectly good pair of (spare) lungs.

Surely it's a better way than leaving them to waste in a graveyard or having them go up in smoke in a crematorium?

shellsuit

I've just read this. Heartbreaking but what an inspiration those parents are and what a beautiful little boy they had

To be honest, I don't know if I could do the same if I was in the same situation.

http://www.dailymail.co.uk/health/article-2067964/We-send-sons-organs-love-Parents-gift-life-people-childs-sudden-death.html

rustyboy21

shellsuit wrote: »

I've just read this. Heartbreaking but what an inspiration those parents are and what a beautiful little boy they had

To be honest, I don't know if I could do the same if I was in the same situation.

http://www.dailymail.co.uk/health/article-2067964/We-send-sons-organs-love-Parents-gift-life-people-childs-sudden-death.html

Makes being registered on the Donor register, seem so much more worthwhile and meaningful when you read stories like that.

Liked the comment in the article
Very decent people....so sad for your loss,but to give life to others is noble.....your fine boy has good parents

This thread has been jumped on by people both sides of the fence as a way of having a good argument, with a lot of half truths and scaremongering. It should be about how donating can help less fortunate people have a better life, if you come to an untimely death. The other factor from this thread is that most people who are on the register, don't like the idea that even though they are on it, that can be overuled by a family member and their wishes not carried out. The only way forward on this is to change the rules that family cannot disobey the persons wishes, which mostly are taken due to grief, not being against donor retrieval.

shellsuit

rustyboy21 wrote: »

Makes being registered on the Donor register, seem so much more worthwhile and meaningful when you read stories like that.

Liked the comment in the article
Very decent people....so sad for your loss,but to give life to others is noble.....your fine boy has good parents

This thread has been jumped on by people both sides of the fence as a way of having a good argument, with a lot of half truths and scaremongering. It should be about how donating can help less fortunate people have a better life, if you come to an untimely death. The other factor from this thread is that most people who are on the register, don't like the idea that even though they are on it, that can be overuled by a family member and their wishes not carried out. The only way forward on this is to change the rules that family cannot disobey the persons wishes, which mostly are taken due to grief, not being against donor retrieval.

That's all very well, and even though I am on the register and would happily offer my organs, I don't know if, God forbid, something happened to one of my children, that I'd offer theirs.

Infact, I wouldn't as I don't think I could bring myself to allow it.

Does that make me a bad person?

Does that make me as selfish (which has been said on here) as people who won't go on the register but who could?

buzzhoney

I really think it's something we need to change our attitude about. The important parts of a person are not physical. I mean, the eyes may be the windows of the soul and all but my corneas are just little bits of matter. All sorts of things happen to a body when it's prepared for burial or cremation anyway - you can't avoid being cut up, messed about with when you die, it's just that you don't think about what happens and you don't see it.

Nature recycles. I don't know if anyone saw the (rather gross, but brilliant) documentary a while ago about what happens to a dead elephant left out on the savannah... suffice to say after a few days there was nothing left, and hundreds if not thousands of other creatures had taken the energy and used it to live themselves. It's the same principle - it's just the passing along of energy rather than wasting it. The world couldn't work if this didn't happen.

A friend of mine died suddenly at 26, and his organs saved a very sick little boy's life. Of course my friend's parents were devastated but retaining his organs wouldn't have eased their pain at all, while knowing that their son's death helped another woman's son live... that did ease it.

I understand people are resistant to the idea but really once you look at it bravely and objectively, it's a good thing to do and there's no need to fear anything. If agreeing to give up your organs after death made you vulnerable to attacks by gangs of organ thieves, then yeah, but...