Will - excluding a child

neverdespairgirl

BitterAndTwisted wrote: »

The OP was absolutely right when they said that what she and her OH were wanting to do wouldn't be popular. A veritable sh!tstorm with all sort of posters dragging out their own irrelevant agendas which have nothing to do with the original question.

Quite a lot of people, though, have answered constructively in relation to the law about inheritance and dependency.

neverdespairgirl

ses6jwg wrote: »

My daughter is 4, and I have a decent sized estate if I copped it tomorrow.

I do not get on with her mother.

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Whats the legal situation?

Make a will. That's the legal situation!

ladylouise62

princessdreamer wrote: »

I would challenge any will left that excluded my children (well they would IYSWIM), all children should be treated equally by BOTH parents.

Would that not mean, since the fathers new wife will effectively be sharing her kids money with the 1st kid, that the exwife should leave her money to the fathers new kids too... to treat all the kids equally? The kids are already not being treated equally as there is no relationship with the 1st child and the father.

Person_one

ceridwen wrote: »

(as the wife is nothing to do with this child).

Um, since when?

If you marry a parent, you really need to be prepared for that child to be a big part of your life.

blue_monkey_2

Because as in the OP - if the father is not a part of the childs life (and I am sure he has his reasons) then how can the wife have anything to do with the child? So no, the child/adult should not be entitled to any of the wife's money.

pauletruth

depends who dies first. if the wife leaves everything to husband then dies and he then dies without a will the children of his would get the money. if it was the other way round the child from the first relationship would lose out. if i was wealthy enough for it to matter i would want to be fair to all my children. including step ones. why does it matter when your both gone. i still think trying to get a relationship with the first child would be a very good idea.

nobodyspecial

ceridwen wrote: »

Yep..THAT bit I agree with...ie the "mother and FATHER" are supposed to discuss. What they are supposed to discuss is whether a child gets conceived/carried through to birth in the first place. If the mother doesnt have these discussions with the father - then on her head be it when the child starts asking questions later about the "father".

What the women who go ahead and get pregnant/carry a child through to being born/bring it up on their own don't seem to consider is that that child might well turn round in adulthood and have figured out "how the land lies" and is going to have no very high opinion of a mother who went ahead and decided to have a child on her own and regardless of the fathers wishes. Some mothers will manage to convince that child to hold to their own viewpoint - but, then again, some won't....

Personally - I take a lot of comfort from knowing that my father wanted me and is pleased to have a daughter...and that is how a child (of any age) is entitled to be able to feel.

EDIT: ...and..yep...I've also watched more than one woman I know deliberately staging an "accidental pregnancy" and, on both occasions, they expected the poor man to "cough up" and help pay for that child they had decided to have ALL ON THEIR OWN...

So many poor blokes, forced to ejaculate inside a woman that resulted in an unwanted pregnancy, breaks your heart. If only the poor little lambs had used a condom, been sterilised, or simply refrained.............. or maybe we can stop putting it all on women and accept that if a man has unprotected sex he accepts the possibility of pregnancy. No woman should have to endure a termination because the bloke couldn't be bothered with contraception. And I simply don't accept there are so many women "tricking" men into fatherhood, let alone they are confiding in someone they know to be so anti baby and other women.

Presumably your father was happy to have a son if that was what you'd turned out to be? I hate and abhor parents who only want a child of a specific sex.

DUTR

nobodyspecial wrote: »

So many poor blokes, forced to ejaculate inside a woman that resulted in an unwanted pregnancy, breaks your heart. If only the poor little lambs had used a condom, been sterilised, or simply refrained.............. or maybe we can stop putting it all on women and accept that if a man has unprotected sex he accepts the possibility of pregnancy. No woman should have to endure a termination because the bloke couldn't be bothered with contraception. And I simply don't accept there are so many women "tricking" men into fatherhood, let alone they are confiding in someone they know to be so anti baby and other women.

Presumably your father was happy to have a son if that was what you'd turned out to be? I hate and abhor parents who only want a child of a specific sex.

You make it sound like women don't like the physical deed too :eek:
Women and Men are not the same, so just because you have a lower libido than a bloke does not make them wrong and you right, and yes the female species in the animal world to co-erce the males into fatherhood, that is nature

nobodyspecial

!!!!!! where did I suggest women don't like sex????? I'm female and thoroughly enjoy sex. But what I will say is men cannot absolve themselves from the consequences of sex. Just because I enjoy the physical act of sexual intercourse does not absolve me of the consequences, nor does it absolve any man. If you don't want any risk of fatherhood, wrap it up in a dozen condoms or bloody well keep it out!!!! You can't have it both ways. Since when was contraception the province of the female only??? I'd love to find a bloke with a libido to match mine. I'd rather be a masturbator like me than a !!!!!! like you

DUTR

nobodyspecial wrote: »

!!!!!! where did I suggest women don't like sex????? I'm female and thoroughly enjoy sex. But what I will say is men cannot absolve themselves from the consequences of sex. Just because I enjoy the physical act of sexual intercourse does not absolve me of the consequences, nor does it absolve any man. If you don't want any risk of fatherhood, wrap it up in a dozen condoms or bloody well keep it out!!!! You can't have it both ways. Since when was contraception the province of the female only??? I'd love to find a bloke with a libido to match mine. I'd rather be a masturbator like me than a !!!!!! like you

So you mean you like the companionship of a bloke, but scared in case they do one, after you start laying down the law?
And then to add insult to injury, the offspring is left a small % of the estate after he has passed away