Will - excluding a child

DUTR

Zoetoes wrote: »

I don't know, but I would think that a parent who fights to see their child must love them? So wouldn't be fighting equally hard to make sure they got nothing if the parent died.

Love transpires in many forms, just becuase there is no apparent fight or money does not equate to lack of love, then again your man could love his offspring so much (or anybody else) that they don't have any love left for you :eek:

ses6jwg

Zoetoes wrote: »

I don't know, but I would think that a parent who fights to see their child must love them? So wouldn't be fighting equally hard to make sure they got nothing if the parent died.

I love my 4 year old daughter more than anything on this earth.

But to have contact taken away purely out of spite for a period last year was horrendous. Coupled with the pictures being uploaded onto facebook daily of her "new squeeze" pictured alongside my daughter was sickening and heartbreaking.

I tried to "fight" for her by trying to reason with the ex and was visited numerous times by the police with allegations of harassment, and after approaching my daughter and ex in the street to say hello to my daughter, I was chucked in a police cell.

The police released me without charge, but it puts into perspective the problems that some NRPs face in their "fight".

In the end I went down the court route and spent the thousands and now I am glad I did.


But there were times when I thought about moving away and giving up because of the financial, emotional and physical toll it was taking on me. Had it not been for my family then I probably would have done just that.

So as someone who has been there, I can see why some biological fathers do walk away. Granted there are too many who walk away because they simply can't be arsed. But there are plenty who walk away for other reasons.

Zoetoes

DUTR wrote: »

Love transpires in many forms, just becuase there is no apparent fight or money does not equate to lack of love, then again your man could love his offspring so much (or anybody else) that they don't have any love left for you :eek:

It doesn't have to be money from the will, or anything of financial value.

With regards to not fighting to see your children, perhaps there are some situations were this is better for the children.

I think I'll just avoid men with children! :eek:

Zoetoes

ses6jwg wrote: »

I love my 4 year old daughter more than anything on this earth.

But to have contact taken away purely out of spite for a period last year was horrendous. Coupled with the pictures being uploaded onto facebook daily of her "new squeeze" pictured alongside my daughter was sickening and heartbreaking.

I tried to "fight" for her by trying to reason with the ex and was visited numerous times by the police with allegations of harassment, and after approaching my daughter and ex in the street to say hello to my daughter, I was chucked in a police cell.

The police released me without charge, but it puts into perspective the problems that some NRPs face in their "fight".

In the end I went down the court route and spent the thousands and now I am glad I did.


But there were times when I thought about moving away and giving up because of the financial, emotional and physical toll it was taking on me. Had it not been for my family then I probably would have done just that.

So as someone who has been there, I can see why some biological fathers do walk away. Granted there are too many who walk away because they simply can't be arsed. But there are plenty who walk away for other reasons.

I completely appreciate what you're saying, so after fighting so hard to see the daughter you obviously love so much, if you lost the fight, would you then cut her out of your will?

DUTR

ses6jwg wrote: »

I love my 4 year old daughter more than anything on this earth.

But to have contact taken away purely out of spite for a period last year was horrendous. Coupled with the pictures being uploaded onto facebook daily of her "new squeeze" pictured alongside my daughter was sickening and heartbreaking.

I tried to "fight" for her by trying to reason with the ex and was visited numerous times by the police with allegations of harassment, and after approaching my daughter and ex in the street to say hello to my daughter, I was chucked in a police cell.

The police released me without charge, but it puts into perspective the problems that some NRPs face in their "fight".

In the end I went down the court route and spent the thousands and now I am glad I did.


But there were times when I thought about moving away and giving up because of the financial, emotional and physical toll it was taking on me. Had it not been for my family then I probably would have done just that.

So as someone who has been there, I can see why some biological fathers do walk away. Granted there are too many who walk away because they simply can't be arsed. But there are plenty who walk away for other reasons.

Often it is the other reasons why they can't be arsed, for you it was worth the fight for some they say it was not worth the fight, some just find other interests in life

DUTR

Zoetoes wrote: »

It doesn't have to be money from the will, or anything of financial value.

With regards to not fighting to see your children, perhaps there are some situations were this is better for the children.

I think I'll just avoid men with children! :eek:

Sometimes I do wish you would read your posts before pressing submit, or widen the blinkers, aren't women with children a 'burden' too?
If I was dating a contact blocker, naturally I would not get involved with that side of their life, but I wouldn't participate in the sordid practice.

DUTR

Zoetoes wrote: »

I completely appreciate what you're saying, so after fighting so hard to see the daughter you obviously love so much, if you lost the fight, would you then cut her out of your will?

It would be his choice to do so, who knows in time he may meet someone new who is more worthy of giving him children and a lifestyle he desires, and wish to reward them .
He cannot cut her out whilst she is a dependant, but if she was no part in later life there is little reason to include her, he may wish to leave his estate to those he loves AND who love him.

emweaver

DUTR wrote: »

It would be his choice to do so, who knows in time he may meet someone new who is more worthy of giving him children and a lifestyle he desires, and wish to reward them .
He cannot cut her out whilst she is a dependant, but if she was no part in later life there is little reason to include her, he may wish to leave his estate to those he loves AND who love him.

Do you have children?

DUTR

emweaver wrote: »

Do you have children?

What has that got to do with the thread?
I just love the phsycing out going on, the law says that one can bequith to whom they wish, if this does not include offspring , then so be it, if you don't agree with the law then tough luck girls

neverdespairgirl

DUTR wrote: »

What has that got to do with the thread?
I just love the phsycing out going on, the law says that one can bequith to whom they wish, if this does not include offspring , then so be it, if you don't agree with the law then tough luck girls

Subject, of course, to the provisions of the Inheritance (Provision for Family and Dependants) Act 1975.