Will - excluding a child

POPPYOSCAR

princessdreamer wrote: »

Depending on the size of the estate you could make it financially unattractive for the other side to fight as long as you have a good chance of getting something, they could be persuaded it is better to settle than go to court.

Yes but they should also be aware that if they lose the estate may be awarded costs.

Zoetoes

Dasa wrote: »

I know it was a joke. But you do have to seriously consider a relationship with children involved. I have step children and we have been through hell and back.It was the tremendous love for my partner that saw us through.I would not change it though as I love my step-children and now grandchildren to bits.

Yes of course, relationships are hard work with or without children involved, it's hard work even having in-laws! Sounds like you have a great relationship.

princessdreamer

POPPYOSCAR wrote: »

Yes but they should also be aware that if they lose the estate may be awarded costs.

But how would they award costs against a dependant child, a child has no income.

DUTR

princessdreamer wrote: »

But how would they award costs against a dependant child, a child has no income.

Princess the dependant would not lose per se, imagine if say the CS was £3k per year and the child was 9, then £30k would be set as a trust fund until they are 19, and could be tapped into for CS purposes, perhaps they may want to challenge for a little extra for perhaps uni, but if they were to try and claim the whole estate, they may not win and a brief worth their salt would already advise that it is not worth challenging as provision was already made.

ses6jwg

Zoetoes wrote: »

I completely appreciate what you're saying, so after fighting so hard to see the daughter you obviously love so much, if you lost the fight, would you then cut her out of your will?

If I had moved away and started another family, and both myself and my own family (mother, father, sister, aunties) had lost contact with my daughter, I would be inclined to say yes, I would leave her out of the will.

Zoetoes

ses6jwg wrote: »

If I had moved away and started another family, and both myself and my own family (mother, father, sister, aunties) had lost contact with my daughter, I would be inclined to say yes, I would leave her out of the will.

It's sad but at least you're being honest.

DUTR

Zoetoes wrote: »

It's sad but at least you're being honest.

Many are being honest, it's just that they are getting chastised for being honest

Zoetoes

DUTR wrote: »

Many are being honest, it's just that they are getting chastised for being honest

Not by me. As I said if I was the wife and it was mainly my money then I wouldn't be leaving anything to my husband's child, who he hadn't seen for years, because I would be leaving it to my children.

It's all very sad for kids involved in these situations. As much as I feel like poking the ex's eyes out with a sharp pencil sometimes, we still manage to be parents, just separately, and there is communication between all of us.

POPPYOSCAR

princessdreamer wrote: »

But how would they award costs against a dependant child, a child has no income.

I believe the comments were all relating to the case of the girl who had run away from home at 17 and not seen her mother since, not of a dependent child.A dependent child would have legal aid I would of thought?

Any judge would look at all the circumstances and decide. It is just that some people mistakenly think that costs of any court case are taken from the estate and that is not correct as I understand it.

POPPYOSCAR

ses6jwg wrote: »

If I had moved away and started another family, and both myself and my own family (mother, father, sister, aunties) had lost contact with my daughter, I would be inclined to say yes, I would leave her out of the will.

Yes it is sad but I do understand this sentiment.

Don't get me wrong, family is very important to me but all the same I do not believe that blood is thicker than water.

If family do not want to know you or have anything to do with you I do not see why you should 'reward' them with your money.