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Am I being a silly bint?
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I have quite often been in the situation of trying to get tickets, not sure how many I can get, having to make a quick decision about how many to buy, who might like to come along.........if you start asking who wants to come, by the time they've wondered, thought about if they can afford it and invited their auntie, the tickets have gone.
So now I do the best I can & expect those I care about & whose company I enjoy to recognise that and put a good face on - after all I'm the one who's taken the trouble and put it on my card!0 -
So, last night, he gets a text from his brother, who I get on really well with. He says that his brother has just bought them both Coldplay tickets for next year, around June time. My initital response was... YAYYYYY COLDPLAY COLDPLAY YAYYYYY, CAN I COME?And he was like "yeah...well....it's my brother that's bought the tickets, he just did it without telling me...he didn't know you liked Coldplay...I'll have to make sure it's ok with him"..
I was a bit like...:S Why do you need to ask his permission for me to come along? And felt a bit like...oh, is this a "lad's thing"? and I'm not invited because I don't have a willy?
Of course your OH should ask his brother, first!
I have 3 siblings, OH has one. We also have a child, a 6 year old.
We both see our on siblings more on our own than we do with each other - I sometimes want to spend time with one of my sisters without OH there, and so do my sisters. They like OH very much, but it doesn't mean they want to see him every time they see me.
If my sister bought tickets for something, I'd think it was rude to invite OH along without talking to her first....much enquiry having been made concerning a gentleman, who had quitted a company where Johnson was, and no information being obtained; at last Johnson observed, that 'he did not care to speak ill of any man behind his back, but he believed the gentleman was an attorney'.0 -
I would have a little old huff puff too. I would be very jealous that OH was going to see my favourite band without me. But on the other hand it is his brother and Im sure there would have been no malice in his thinking.
I was looking at them too and no way could I justify the £64 or £128 for two, £128, plus travel, eats and drinks!0 -
My view?
Spin the situation around and look at it from the brother's viewpoint. He's getting married that month and he didn't know you like Coldplay. Seems to me that it's probably a case of 'I want a night out with my brother before I get hitched and feel duty bound to invite my wife'
Ultimately it's just a band; hardly worth having a bust-up with your partner over. Feel disappointed quietly and move on. Next time they tour, get the tickets in for you and your partner and enjoy it together.“Don't do it! Stay away from your potential. You'll mess it up, it's potential, leave it. Anyway, it's like your bank balance - you always have a lot less than you think.”
― Dylan Moran0 -
I see it from the brothers perspective. If there is something i want to do and I know my sister is similarly interested, ill go right ahead and book for us. I don't even take into consideration my/her partner. Sounds selfish, maybe it is a little, as far as i'm concerned, there are plenty of opportunities to socialise with the fellas. When i'm doing something fun with my sis, like I want the distraction of a moany man!
Whilst I understand you feel a little left out, you really need to get over it and maybe arrange to go with someone else. Social lives extend further than boyfriends you know.............#KiamaHouse0 -
Thanks for the helpful, non judgemental advice. I can't help feeling a bit sad that I'll be missing out, but I just want my BF to be happy so I won't mention it again because I don't want him to feel bad. I think it was probably a case of his brother didn't realise I was also a fan and wanted to go so badly.
I just remembered as well, he said last night that his brother said that he won't be taking his other half, because she'll go mad if she finds out they're going to a Coldplay gig in the same month they're getting married (she's very stingy with money...or should I say very money saving!) so perhaps he feels like it would be unfair on her if I went along and would feel even more guilty, so he's made it a "brothers only" thing.
So where is he going to tell his wife he is when he disappears for the night?? That sounds pretty odd.
Maybe my family is closer than other people's on here, but if this was my family, I wouldnt have a problem with any siblings bringing their OHs along, and they wouldnt have a problem if it was vice versa. Its just a concert its hardly a bonding opportunity like an activity day or something where you actually spend proper time with each other.
I dont see why if he knew you liked coldplay so much he didnt just ask his brother if he could get a 3rd ticket, and hed give him the money.
If it was any old band it would be one thing, but for one that you really like this much, I know if it had been my DH he would have just said to me you have my ticket, say for sake of argument the concert was now sold out - but thats because his brother probably wouldnt mind if I came, because hes a right chatterbox and I talk back to him much mroe than my DH does :rotfl:
If i was you Id just buy 2 more tickets, go to it myself and invite a friend. Get a baby sitter for the night.0 -
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I blame your boyfriend.
He's in the middle, and tbh he's a complete d*ck for not creeping around you for a month or two, buying you the best christmas present ever, then breaking the news his "stupid" brother has dropped him right in it and hasn't bought a ticket for you even though he's now obliged to go with him, but really doesn't want to go without you.
edit - don't do the boob thing. Coldplay will break up one day, but the boob will never grow back.
second edit - he must love you, and didn't want you to go as he didn't want you to do the boob thing, so that's why he's not got a ticket.
Promise him you won't do it.0 -
Get over it, there's no vindictive plan behind it. Brother buys 2 tickets invites your boyfriend cos he knows he likes the band. Unless the brother knew they were your favourite band on the planet and you would sell your granny to go and deliberately didn't get 3 tickets. In which case, blame the brother not the boyfriend. Yes its ok to be jealous - but it wouldn't be very brotherly for your boyfriend to say to his bruv "you know those two tickets you bought, can I have both and go with my girlfriend instead".We Made-it-3 on 28/01/11 with birth of our gorgeous DD.0
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