Am I being a silly bint?

K,A+P_2

Need opinions please! I have no idea if I'm being a silly old bint or if I'm right to feel a bit hurt.

Boyfriend and I have been together a year...we rarely go out together and do nice things because we're both so broke and have a little one to look after. When our relationship was in it's very early days, we were talking about how Coldplay is our favourite band in the universe and he was telling me how amazing they are live. I told him I'd cut off my right boob to see them live, and he promised me that next time they tour, we'll go and it'll be amazing

So, last night, he gets a text from his brother, who I get on really well with. He says that his brother has just bought them both Coldplay tickets for next year, around June time. My initital response was... YAYYYYY COLDPLAY COLDPLAY YAYYYYY, CAN I COME? And he was like "yeah...well....it's my brother that's bought the tickets, he just did it without telling me...he didn't know you liked Coldplay...I'll have to make sure it's ok with him"..

I was a bit like...:S Why do you need to ask his permission for me to come along? And felt a bit like...oh, is this a "lad's thing"? and I'm not invited because I don't have a willy? He just kept saying he didn't know and it wasn't up to him. Then it turned into a silly row where he got angry saying I was making him feel terrible and that he just wouldn't go. I ended up saying (in a jokey way) "fine then, I'll go with someone else! another man! who wants me there!" - he laughed cos he knew I was joking...but I guess I was kind of trying to say, why wouldn't you want me there? You promised me we'd go and if it were me I'd say to my brother "Kate's coming too" and that would be that. I wouldn't need to ask his permission! I feel like he doesn't want me there because he's not proud to be seen with me and that I'd ruin their "fun". It's not something I'm used to, because I'm very much a lad's girl and most of my mates have always been guys and I don't really get on with girls all that well...and yet his family, and his brother...they're very much sort of like...girls should be excluded from certain things. It's not something I'm used to and it upsets me. I see my boyfried as not only a "lover" but a best mate and it makes me feel like sh** that I'm being treated like "The Girlfriend", if that makes any sense.

Anyway this has turned into a load of waffle. I'm just feeling a bit hurt and unwanted and hate that I've not been invited and it's something I want to go to sooo badly too and I'd be massively jealous of him coming home and being all "woohooo Coldplay were amazing!"

I understand that it could just be a "brother" thing that they want to do together...but we NEVER go out and do anything together and he's done a billion and one things with his brother over the years....so why doesn't he see this as a chance to make me feel super happy and special rather than an unwanted annoyance?

SIGH, please be gentle with me....:o

flutterby_lil

Maybe they have got 2 tickets and the rest are sold out? Are they seated or standing? If seated and there are some left you wouldn't end up sitting with them anyway.

If it was to a pub or something you could just tag along but it isn't and probably not that easy to just go along.

I think you are behaving like a spolit little girl.

Sambucus_Nigra

No, if my OH did that to me [although not Coldplay] then I'd be miffed in the slightest. I'd go with a chum instead - sod him and make your own plans.

dirtysexymonkey

your jealous of your boyfriends brother. tbh if i treated my brother to tickets to something for us both to do together and his gf demanded that she come, then youd have a war on your hands. and youd lose. the person who tries to make the other choose is always the one that loses in the end. jealousy is not a good look.

look at it another way, if you were a man who did this to his gf, then youd be told that you were controlling psycho. something to think about.

candygirl

I'd be fuming if it was me, and he knew I wanted to go so much:mad::mad:If I was you i'd go with one of your friends:DAlso after a year things shouldn't be as dull as this, you need to have fun, even if you are skint;):D

VestanPance

The chances are his brother only bought two tickets. These gigs can sell out quickly so they might not be able to get a third ticket.

I think you'd have more right to be annoyed if your partner bought the tickets for him and his brother, rather than the real situation of your partner getting a ticket as a surprise from his brother.

redcard

You want to pay money to go see this?!? http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1_9x27VRwWM

Sambucus_Nigra

dirtysexymonkey wrote: »

your jealous of your boyfriends brother. tbh if i treated my brother to tickets to something for us both to do together and his gf demanded that she come, then youd have a war on your hands. and youd lose. the person who tries to make the other choose is always the one that loses in the end. jealousy is not a good look.

look at it another way, if you were a man who did this to his gf, then youd be told that you were controlling psycho. something to think about.

No, she wants to go to see a band she loves [even if it is Coldplay ] If it wasn't a band she loves, she wouldn't give two hoots - the issue is that her OH didn't say 'oh, K loves them, I'll get another ticket for her to come along'.

166million

I think just buy two tickets of your own, go along with a friend and don't bother to meet up with him and his brother. Then you can have your own good time and they can have theirs and stuff it all! Or arrange your own trip on a different night

dirtysexymonkey

Sambucus_Nigra wrote: »

No, she wants to go to see a band she loves [even if it is Coldplay ] If it wasn't a band she loves, she wouldn't give two hoots - the issue is that her OH didn't say 'oh, K loves them, I'll get another ticket for her to come along'.

so brother wants to do something with his brother who he doesnt get to do much with these days, and thats unreasonable? it was a surprise treat from his brother! nothing to do with the gf at all.

if the op wanted to go that badly she could have gone to coldplays next tour (next month) or got tickets for the 2012 summer tour. she cant have wanted to go that badly.

she would only have a point if her oh was the one who bought the tickets for him and his brother.

K,A+P_2

Sambucus_Nigra wrote: »

No, she wants to go to see a band she loves [even if it is Coldplay ] If it wasn't a band she loves, she wouldn't give two hoots - the issue is that her OH didn't say 'oh, K loves them, I'll get another ticket for her to come along'.

That's exactly it, thank you for understanding!

I coulnd't give a dog's ballbag if it was anything else...he can go and do what the hell he likes...it's the fact that it's my favourite band in the world! And he promised we'd go.

Not jealous of his brother, I adore his brother and we get on so well. I'm not controlling, jealous or possessive either...I jsut wanna see Coldplay Goddammit!