Am I being a silly bint?

Sambucus_Nigra

dirtysexymonkey wrote: »

so brother wants to do something with his brother who he doesnt get to do much with these days, and thats unreasonable? it was a surprise treat from his brother! nothing to do with the gf at all.

if the op wanted to go that badly she could have gone to coldplays next tour (next month) or got tickets for the 2012 summer tour. she cant have wanted to go that badly.

she would only have a point if her oh was the one who bought the tickets for him and his brother.

he promised me that next time they tour, we'll go and it'll be amazing

And now he IS going, but with his brother and she gets to stay home holding the baby.

BitterAndTwisted

Of course he was delighted to accept the gift of a ticket. It's not the grateful recipient's place to ask for another for their other half, even if they were available. You've certainly found a way to take the gilt off that present by turning it into a disagreement. I think you need to get over it.

elvis86

candygirl wrote: »

I'd be fuming if it was me, and he knew I wanted to go so much:mad::mad:If I was you i'd go with one of your friends:DAlso after a year things shouldn't be as dull as this, you need to have fun, even if you are skint;):D

By the sounds of it, they were together for 5 minutes and broke, and yet decided to have a child. And now they're suprised that they're skint..:cool:

In answer to the OP, yes I think you are being a bint. Your boyfriend didn't knowingly decide to go see Coldplay without you (in which case I would be a bit annoyed). And if his brother has treated him with the intentions of them spending some QT together, he may be quite rightly annoyed if you see your @rse and demand to gatecrash. You say:

K,A+P wrote: »

we NEVER go out and do anything together and he's done a billion and one things with his brother over the years....

But how do you know? If you've only been together a year?

And even if he and his brother have done lots together in the past, you've stated that you and your OH are broke so presumably your OH hasn't been able to go out with his brother much since you got together (if he's down the pub with his brother every weekend and you never go out, that's a different kettle of fish and I'd have spoken up before now)? So you can't object to his brother deciding to pay for them to do something together.

Sambucus_Nigra

K,A+P wrote: »

I just wanna see Coldplay Goddammit!

Well, I'm sorry but although I understand, I can't say I will offer to take you as I'd rather skewer my eyes out with old baked bean tin lids - so you will just have to find a good chum and go with them.

I'd rather look after the baby - and I am hopeless with babies....:eek:

K,A+P_2

dirtysexymonkey wrote: »

so brother wants to do something with his brother who he doesnt get to do much with these days, and thats unreasonable? it was a surprise treat from his brother! nothing to do with the gf at all.

if the op wanted to go that badly she could have gone to coldplays next tour (next month) or got tickets for the 2012 summer tour. she cant have wanted to go that badly.

she would only have a point if her oh was the one who bought the tickets for him and his brother.

Actually, I was planning on getting the tickets for the 2012 summer tour when I had a bit of money spare...the 2012 summer tour is what they're both going to. That was kind of the not-set-in-stone plan me and boyfriend had anyway, that we'd go to see them next year and just buy tickets as and when we had the money. Exxcept now, he's going with his brother instead :rotfl:

POPPYOSCAR

I understand exactly how you feel.

I think he is being selfish when he knows how much you want to see them. If I knew my OH wanted to go so much I could not go without him, I would feel awful if I did.

Hope you get it sorted.

Lady_Aga

Imagine if your sister won tickets to a massive sporting event like 100m final at the olympics or premier league football final, and chose to take you to it. If your bf was a massive fan then he would feel some emotion about this decision and would most likely express it.

You have a right to feel jealous. It is not psycho to feel an emotion. You will get over this. You cannot 'make' someone feel horrible. People feel what they feel.

I have had the misfortune to not be invited to a gig that I would have died to see. Backstage passes and everything. I was fuming with jealousy and cried myself to sleep on the night of the gig. I got over it. Those people who went, never knew and wouldn't have invited me if they did know.

I do feel for you that this situation has occurred. I probably would say nothing more on the subject to your bf and if it is raised, quietly leave the room or say that you would prefer not to talk about it. He knows how you feel. Leave it at that. Try to be enthusiastic for them just before and after the gig and bite your tongue when they talk about it. If they are sensitive, they won't talk about it in front of you as it is a sore subject.

K,A+P_2

elvis86 wrote: »

By the sounds of it, they were together for 5 minutes and broke, and yet decided to have a child. And now they're suprised that they're skint..:cool:

In answer to the OP, yes I think you are being a bint. Your boyfriend didn't knowingly decide to go see Coldplay without you (in which case I would be a bit annoyed). And if his brother has treated him with the intentions of them spending some QT together, he may be quite rightly annoyed if you see your @rse and demand to gatecrash. You say:



But how do you know? If you've only been together a year?

And even if he and his brother have done lots together in the past, you've stated that you and your OH are broke so presumably your OH hasn't been able to go out with his brother much since you got together (if he's down the pub with his brother every weekend and you never go out, that's a different kettle of fish and I'd have spoken up before now)? So you can't object to his brother deciding to pay for them to do something together.

Blimey, ignorant and judgemental much? :rotfl: My little boy is from a previous relationship...if you want to get into a debate about how we should all be married to one partner and one partner only, or that women who split up with their baby's father and are left on their own with a child should never be with another man again because god forbid they and their child should ever be happy...go elsewhere please.

We're both broke because my boyfriend not long finished uni and has only managed to get a crappy part time job and I'm broke because...well, isn't everyone broke these days? Who can afford to go out all the time? Isn't that why this board exists? Because we're all looking for ways to save money?

dirtysexymonkey

K,A+P wrote: »

Actually, I was planning on getting the tickets for the 2012 summer tour when I had a bit of money spare...the 2012 summer tour is what they're both going to. That was kind of the not-set-in-stone plan me and boyfriend had anyway, that we'd go to see them next year and just buy tickets as and when we had the money. Exxcept now, he's going with his brother instead :rotfl:

but you said the next time they tour, which is next month. your obviously not that fussed about not going or youd have mentioned it before now. the difference seems to be his brother who wants to spend quality time with his brother, alone. you have a problem with that.

K,A+P_2

Thanks for the helpful, non judgemental advice. I can't help feeling a bit sad that I'll be missing out, but I just want my BF to be happy so I won't mention it again because I don't want him to feel bad. I think it was probably a case of his brother didn't realise I was also a fan and wanted to go so badly.

I just remembered as well, he said last night that his brother said that he won't be taking his other half, because she'll go mad if she finds out they're going to a Coldplay gig in the same month they're getting married (she's very stingy with money...or should I say very money saving!) so perhaps he feels like it would be unfair on her if I went along and would feel even more guilty, so he's made it a "brothers only" thing.