Am I being a silly bint?

dirtysexymonkey

K,A+P wrote: »

Well actually his brother bought him the ticket so that he'd get it early and he would pay him back. It wasn't a gift or anything. My BF will still be paying for his own ticket.

i wonder how much more this story will change over the next hour!:rotfl:

K,A+P_2

POPPYOSCAR wrote: »

Great way to start a marriage off!!!!

I know right! :rotfl:

dirtysexymonkey

*max* wrote: »

DSM likes to tell people off and find the little things in posts to argue about OP, don't take it personnally!

little things? i could drive a truck through the holes in this story!:D

RadoJo

I think you may be over-reacting slightly - your boyfriend seems to be just trying to keep everyone sweet and you're pre-empting a problem where one probably doesn't exist. You may consider yourself a 'lads' girl' but that doesn't necessarily mean that his brother would be happy to have you tag along with no warning just because you're his brother's girlfriend - it's at least polite to let him know that you want to come and I can't really see the problem with him speaking to his brother about it before making any promises to you. If his brother doesn't want you there, then you might have an issue with how your boyfriend deals with that, but at the moment it does sound like you're kind of making a big deal out of a fairly minor issue.

K,A+P_2

dirtysexymonkey wrote: »

i wonder how much more this story will change over the next hour!:rotfl:

Please highlight where and how my story has "changed", please. Thanks.

Either that or er....go and get a hobby! Go bake a pie or something.

*max*

dirtysexymonkey wrote: »

little things? i could drive a truck through the holes in this story!:D

Oh I think we all know you could, and you'd be arguing about it till the cows come home! lol

K,A+P_2

dirtysexymonkey wrote: »

little things? i could drive a truck through the holes in this story!:D

I'm sure that's not the only hole we could all drive a truck through...if you catch my drift.

princeofpounds

You are right to feel disappointed, but wrong to take this out on him.

Disappointed because this is not a scenario you envisioned and no-can force you to be happy about it.

But wrong to take it out on him because it is not a situation of his making. His brother bought 2 tickets. He gave one to him. Not you. Your brother cannot just ask him to buy another. There may not be any more available. His brother might have wanted just to the two of them to attend. He might feel that making it into the special occasion you two talked about would leave his brother a spare wheel.

It's nothing to do with the equipment between your legs and to degenerate it to that is just bad manners. Even if you were a bloke, you are not his brother.

The problems you have about not doing any interesting things any more are separate, although they might be aggravating your feelings at the situation.

Now... that aside, what about the promise he made? He has a choice.

He could decline the gift. Is that a demand you would feel comfortable making? Would you do the same in that situation?

He could ask if you can come along (both in terms of permission and in terms of practical ticket availability). He appears to be doing this. That's pretty reasonable. But you kicking a huge fuss puts him in an awkward spot where, if his brother wants it to be a brother thing, then he WILL be forced to upset someone no matter what.

And frankly, if you both promised to each other that you would go, why did you not already arrange together to buy tickets? Clearly neither of you were actually *that* obsessed with making the promise turn into reality otherwise you would already have plans to attend.

Now all that doesn't mean that he is being totally honourable. Perhaps his brother suggested that you come and he said 'no, girls are boring'... but there is nothing specific that you have said which makes him a rat.

newcook

K,A+P wrote: »

Blimey, ignorant and judgemental much? :rotfl: My little boy is from a previous relationship...if you want to get into a debate about how we should all be married to one partner and one partner only, or that women who split up with their baby's father and are left on their own with a child should never be with another man again because god forbid they and their child should ever be happy...go elsewhere please.

We're both broke because my boyfriend not long finished uni and has only managed to get a crappy part time job and I'm broke because...well, isn't everyone broke these days? Who can afford to go out all the time? Isn't that why this board exists? Because we're all looking for ways to save money?

I think I got the same impression as Elvis that your OH was the father as in your first post you said

K,A+P wrote: »

Boyfriend and I have been together a year...we rarely go out together and do nice things because we're both so broke and have a little one to look after.

did his brother know how much you liked coldplay when he bought the tickets?! Im guessing that he didnt otherwise he would have got a ticket for you too. I also imagine that your OH didnt want to be rude and say 'cheers bro, can you get a ticket for the missus too?!'

arrange to go and see it with another mate on another night (possibly the night before they go so you can do the whole 'OMG!!!' thing first )

pinkshoes

K,A+P wrote: »

Well actually his brother bought him the ticket so that he'd get it early and he would pay him back. It wasn't a gift or anything. My BF will still be paying for his own ticket.

Irrelevant.

If he can't afford it, then he could turn it down...

If you had a sister and got tickets for the two of you to go and see Coldplay, and she insisted her boyfriend came, would you mind? Personally I'd be really p*ssed off!