How long were you in labour?

aliasojo

tru wrote: »

But tell your OH to !!!!!! :rotfl:

Almost. Tell him he's an @rse first. Then tell him to !!!!!!.

What an absolute idiot.

Every woman is different. Every labour is different.

thrifty-gal26

mumofjusttwo wrote: »

Some people class labour starting from the first time the have their first contraction, even if there is a 30 minute gap between each contraction.

Yeah, that's what I meant from the very beginning, not active labour.

OH is dumb dumb dumb

:rotfl:

jayII

My labours were: 7 hours with my first, 8 hours with my second. If you're that scared then make sure you ask for pain relief to be available.

Your Oh needs a stiff talking to! Firstly he should be more sympathetic towards you feeling scared, and surely you are very special when you're having HIS baby!! What an unpleasant attitude!

make_me_wise

thrifty-gal26 wrote: »

My Oh had a go at me as I said I was feeling worried about labour because of my pelvis (i have synthesis pubis dysfunction) and he basically said loads of people have babies, you aren't special, shut up and that giving birth "isn't a big deal"

I said actually it is a big deal to me to be worried and in pain for 24/48 hours and then maybe have to have a c-section due to pelvis.

I dont know how long labour lasts yet. I am heavily pregnant with twin girls so pretty much expecting it to take some time. Every woman is different going by friends and familys experiences. Some sail through it and others dont.

To be honest having read about your partners lack of concern and empathy with your worry about labour, I wouldn't be focused on how long it might take. I'd be thinking how long I could stomach being with someone so rude and unconcerned about the mother of his child.

charlieann

OP i'm sure you have already informed your midwife of medical history, at your next appointment make them aware you are anxoius about this issue and ask them to discuss it through with you. They are in a better place to advise.

*Louise*

DS1 - 23 hours, forceps delivery
DS2 - 6hrs (induced)
DD - 5hrs

Had SPD with the second and third pregnancies and tbh once contractions started I didn't notice the pelvis pain during or after the delivery.

Definitely no need to suffer though - pain relief is on offer so take it.

The pain is never as bad as you imagine it will be, but it is still a lot to go through so I think your OH saying you're 'not special' and you should 'shut up' is bang out of order :mad: He is supposed to be looking after you and comforting you, not dismissing your fears and making himself superior cos he has a child already. If he was the one who had actually given birth you can bet it would be a different story!!


May I suggest....next time he has 'man flu' or some minor illness then tell him that everyone gets it, he is making a fuss and shut up complaining.....revenge!!

barbiedoll

My labour was textbook, 26 hours from start (mild cramping-type pains, 20 mins apart) to the birth. It took another couple of hours to get stitched up and cleaned up and that was it.

Don't listen to OH if he's being "blokey", he's probably as nervous as you are. If his ex was induced and gave birth in 5 hours, I daresay she gave him merry hell, a quick birth is not necessarily a good thing! If you think that he will not be helpful during the birth, take someone else with you as your birthing partner, lots of women prefer to have their mum, sister, friend etc, it's not compulsory to have OH there if he's not going to be supportive!

Just relax, try to work with your body, it really does know what to do when the time comes. Read as much good information as you can (not internet forums!) and learn what is going to happen when you go into labour. Go to any classes that you have been offered and learn some simple relaxation techniques, they really can help. And remember, despite the horror stories in the press, we live in one of the safest places to give birth, we have hospitals, medically trained staff and a full complement of equipment and drugs. I know it's the scariest thing that you think you'll ever face but believe me, it's worth it in the end.

Good luck!

Bubby

I hated pregnancy but LOVED my labour, It wasn't a normal sort of pain and you know that there is a positive at the end:D

mysk_girl

I've had 2 pregnancies with bad SPD, first one took about 48 hours from first contraction to birth, but she was back to back. Epidurals are fab! It was painful but not unbearable... 2nd one I was signed off from 28 weeks with SPD - he was 1hr45 minutes from waters breaking to delivery. No contractions prior to waters breaking. With both I laboured in a pool which really helps if you have SPD as the water supports you - definitely recommend if it is an option. The main birthing suite where I live has a pool. First time I had to come out when I asked for an epidural, second time DS was born in the pool. Good luck!

SDG31000

I have to say that if my OH had said anything like that to me when I was pregnant with DS1, DS2 wouldn't be here as I would be wearing a certain part of OH's anatomy as earrings. Tell him when he has given birth then he can have an opinion. Until then he should keep quiet unless he is saying something supportive.

I was induced with DS2 at around 10am and had him at 3.47pm by c-section. With DS2 my waters broke at 9am and I had him naturally at 1.31pm. I remember that it hurt, but I don't remember the pain as a specific thing. It is true that you forget. Think of it this way, if it was so bad no one would have any brothers or sisters.

Good luck