Help please!

merlin68

He won't be able to claim anything, as he hasn't got 2 years contributions and he gave up his job.

Caz3121

He should be able to make a claim for income based JSA however he is likely to be sanctioned for up to 26 weeks as he gave up his job

DannyboyMidlands

Your son sounds like a skiver. You should give him a kick up the @rse rather than make excuses for him.

Sarah69

DannyboyMidlands wrote: »

Your son sounds like a skiver. You should give him a kick up the @rse rather than make excuses for him.

That's very helpful thanks!

Lady_gaga

Wow, only 1 day off with a chest infection and coughing up blood?!?
yeah right!!
your enabaliing your son to be a workshy sponger, give him a stern talking to about his attitude and stop making excuses for his lazyness!!! you really are doing him no favours by allowing him to behave the way he is, it's fine to tell someone to shove their job if money isn't an issue to you, but he doesn't have that luxury and neither do you by the sounds of it if money is tight. I'd be raging if my son came home after quitting a job for no good reason. He should have been looking for something else whilst keeping this job (lets face it he still had plenty of time on his hands) then gave notice like any normal responsible adult would do, not spit the dummy and throw his toys out of the pram...

cavework

Tell your son that I have a 19 year old who started in a call centre on the phones and is now a manger responsible for 18 people. Most of the people he is responsible for are older than he is.
He works shifts ,so many nights he isn't home until 8.30pm and that includes Saturdays and Bank Holidays.Other days he leaves home at 6.30 am.
When he is on holiday he still takes calls if he is needed.
His girlfriend who is 19 started in the same job, she is now a trainer.
They are not boring, they are realistic and understand that no one else will subsidise the lifestyle they would like in the future , so are laying down the foundations now.
They had a week off not long ago , went to a car boot and made £200.
Treat him like an adult and hopefully he will start to behave like an adult and learn to take responsibility for himself.

Sarah69

Thank you cavework that's very informative!

I'm not sure why everyone wants to slag my son off for being ill but that's fine I have a thick skin and don't really care what others think as many post negative comments on most posts I've read. I asked a question and as usual on these boards you just criticised, only a few people have commented in a positive way and thanks to those that have.

FBaby

Your son's going to have to learn that the employment market is about fairness, respect, and certainly not compassion. It's about delivering an expected level of work, and swallowing your principles, unless you are trully discriminated against or treated seriously unfairly. In this case, your son's boss expressed his frustration with his employee's sickness level, and had every right to do so if he'd had various number of days off in a short period of time. Does you son considers that a cold is enough to stay at home (thinking of his previous sick days). No matter what he was thinking, he should have kept quiet and went on with it. Ha ha, if I told my boss all what I think of him, I would long have been in your son's situation, but I have children to feed so get on with it.

Also, your son needs to learn that when you find yourself without a job, your priority is not to figure out how to get easy money but to get himself out of the house, knocking on everyone's door and checking every add online, in the shops, in the newspapers.

The fact that you seem to have so much sympathy for your son's situation rather than anger for his behaviour is quite concerning as to which values he has gained about work. There are jobs around, there might not be fun, your son would probably hate the idea of them, but that's very tough, he had a chance to do something he likes, he has chosen to give this away, he now will have to deal with the consequences rather than being bailed out.

cavework

You asked for advice on a forum and I have responded.
I am sure you are a great Mum , send him down the job centre, give him the job pages in his local paper .. get him online searching for vacancies.
He is 19 , fit enough for work . mine were no angels.
You have enough on your plate.
Oh and for the record I sacked my older son for exactly the same attitude when he was 17.
Biggest wake up call he ever had

FBaby

Sarah69 wrote: »

I'm not sure why everyone wants to slag my son off for being ill.

My 8 year old had a chest infection in September. He also had a fever over 38 degres, but I still sent him to school with a dose of calpol beflore and told him to give it a go and that school could call me if it was too much for him. They did call me at 2pm, fair enough, but at least he gave it a try. The following day, he went with calpol that the school could give him and he was ok. Did your son even tried to go to work any of the days he took off sick, or did he wake up, he decided he wasn't too well, and got back to sleep? Maybe he employer just wasn't convinced of these illnesses because he never got to see it?