Need to break up with my bf

bargainbunny

Hi id like to thank everyone for there replies.
We have met up and discussed the issues and he said he is trying sort things out and he could tell i was pulling away from him.

We have agreed to compromise ie I contact/communicate with him more when we dont see each other, i,ll admit im bad at that.
He has agreed to come to mine now an then.

Im glad we have talked I have said id like a proper commitment if we are
both on the same page.. but im not holding out that much hope..
Id like to see him more of a man an not relying on his family to bail him out.

Im not sure if im not good at wording things but he takes it all bia tchy
when im only trying to help, he has had his flat on the market for 3 yrs now and its like a toy bus showroom:cool:

I just said that it could put buyers off etc he got the major hump.
I dont know if this will work out but im trying

Wilma33

Report him for tax evasion on the rental income. I hope he has got a gas saftey certificate and protected his tenants deposit. If not, report him for that too.

bargainbunny

Wilma33 wrote: »

Report him for tax evasion on the rental income. I hope he has got a gas saftey certificate and protected his tenants deposit. If not, report him for that too.

Hi yea ive nagged him endlessly about the tax it catch up with him im sure, he has a managed estate agent so deposits protected and no gas
in flat but he has electric certificate etc as im a long term renter so I made him fully aware what he should do.. I know he be :mad: if tax man got him but he only has himself to blame.

bargainbunny

Welshwoofs wrote: »

Absolutely, yes. The fact is that it'll be pretty easy to cut your ties with this guy; you don't live with him and you're not financially beholden to him in any way. The only way he could try and 'get back' at you is to withdraw his consent to be a guarantor and if he's going to do that it's must better to pre-empt it.

Put it this way; if you contact your Lettings' Agent and say "My guarantor was my boyfriend and we've just had a really nasty split up. He said that he's going to try make me homeless by withdrawing himself as guarantor" then if he phones up and tries to do exactly that they were forewarned. If you say nothing and he phones them up with some awful story about you, they may be more inclined to believe it.

The bottom line is a Landlord's aim is to keep a property occupied. If you have been there for quite some time now and have been a good tenant then they're really not going to want to boot you out on the strength of a guy ranting at them. Do you have the contact details of the Landlord at all? If so I'd have a chat with him/her direct.

Do not let this chap's threats deter you from splitting up if you don't want to be with him.

The very worst case scenario is that they ask you to find another guarantor (if you've got some idiot agency who just want to tick a box rather than looking at your actual tenancy) and if they do that I'd ask nicely if they can't double check with the Landlord and take into consideration the fact you've been a trouble-free tenant.

Hi hope you dont mind me borrowing your words but Ive just sent the estate agents an email as after last night its clear the rs is beyond saving so im ending it today..
Sent this to estate agent:

Hi just thought id send email here as have emailed Helen but had no reply as yet.
Please can you send me a copy of the tenancy agreement I have paid the renewal fee via nationwide.

Also just to let you know My guarantor was my boyfriend and we've just had a really nasty split up. He said that he's going to try make me homeless by withdrawing himself as guarantor .
So im just wondering where I stand on this as im currently in a 12 month tenancy and really wish to remain in this property, I believe I have been a good tenant in paying the rent and improving the property but after the 12 months
I cannot get him to resign it and frankly I do not like the hold he has over me.

Please can you offer any advice?

do you think thats ok? im dreading the reply

BitterAndTwisted

Unfortunately lots and lots of letting agents know less about the various LL&T legislation than my cat does, so please do not rely on them giving you accurate information. For a guarantor agreement to be legally-binding it has to be signed and witnessed as a Deed. Many agents get this wrong. For your own sake I would not share any of this information with the agent.

As long as your tenancy continues and you pay the rent on time your ex-b/f CANNOT withdraw as guarantor. The only thing that will end his legal responsibility is the tenancy ending. Either by you giving notice or the LL/agent issuing you with a valid Section 21 Notice.

Get shot of the a-hole and pay your rent in full and on time.

January20

Bargainbunny, is there a reason why you didn't speak to the letting agents in person ie on the phone or visiting the office? Then you could ask a lot more questions, put your point across much more effectively and wouldn't be dreading a reply email. It's much easier to ignore or forget to reply to an email than to talk to have a conversation with a person.

bargainbunny

Hi yes im full time carer and its rarely quiet in my house plus office is not nearby so getting there is bit of a problem.. I could make time to call
but normally we corresponde via email just the usual guy i deal with has left.

Also i feel bit embarrassed by it all really so its best for me.

Thanks also Bitter/twisted Im being the perfect tenant it was witnessed in there office as we both signed there but every time i renew i have to pre sign a pre notice to quit notice.. pre dated for end of tenancy.. they said its just formality but that bit has always seemed bit weird imo

BitterAndTwisted

Just to be clear: do you sign this "notice to quit notice" before or after you re-sign the new fixed-term AST? Was your deposit lodged with one of the three deposit-protection schemes (DPS, TDS or MyDeposits)? Have you received written confirmation of this and have you checked with the scheme to confirm?

bargainbunny

BitterAndTwisted wrote: »

Just to be clear: do you sign this "notice to quit notice" before or after you re-sign the new fixed-term AST? Was your deposit lodged with one of the three deposit-protection schemes (DPS, TDS or MyDeposits)? Have you received written confirmation of this and have you checked with the scheme to confirm?

Hi yes i think its with DPS i have to check if i need to and the i signed at the same time as it was attached to the new tenancy agreement
Ive had 2 6month and the last being 12 months tenancy and each time it was attached.. i asked and they said its just formality.

BitterAndTwisted

It isn't just a formality: this gives the landlord the right to seek to end the tenancy at the end of the fixed-term. Mind you, they'd have to apply to court to have it enforced. This is commonly called a "Sword of Damocles" as you have it hanging over your head for the rest of the term. The existence of the S21 Notice is often used to "encourage" you to re-sign a new fixed-term AST and for the agent to charge you a nice, fat fee every time for the privilege.

Mind you, any S21 isn't valid if the deposit hasn't been protected. I suggest you get onto the DPS website and double-check just to be certain.