Moving to 3 bed house?!!?

Sam_Wonne

Am so fed up of people who are on the take take take like pizzle84. It's one thing people getting help when they need it I totally support that but I'm sick of those who quite happily live off others with no intention of ever taking responsibility for themselves. I live next door to a family, she is only 26, three kids and several pets, neither her nor her fella work and don't intend to. Vehicle (never walk anywhere) people carrier type, new things for the house, tanning sessions in town, nails and hair done regularly, nice big TV, new clothes, sky tv just been installed and...yup another baby on the way...and now wanting a bigger house. All paid for by other people thank you very much! Oh and to top it all has someone round and pays them to cut the lawn, clean the windows etc - incredible!

Beckyy

Get a bunk bed.

ikati5

Is it anyone's business on here where 'The Father is' I think we are running away with ourselves here, also, there is a big difference between OWNING your own home, whether it be a one bed flat or a mansion and renting one!
OP, there is the website 'am I entitled' it will tell you all you need to know, including how much your ceiling is for a 3 bed rental in your area, I think you will find it is higher than you think.

SingleSue

phoebe1989seb wrote: »

Sorry, you misunderstood my meaning - I meant when they brought a girlfriend/boyfriend (or even just a friend, for that matter!) home and wanted a bit of privacy...........not to spend the night/do anything 'naughty', lol!!! When I was a teenager (only child in my parents' owner-occupied 3 bed house) I used to be allowed (from about 16) to have friends of both sexes in my room to listen to music and I was just thinking that it would be difficult to do that in my DH's childhood home as when his elder brother was 16, my DH was only 6

Like yourself when I met my DH (whilst at uni), I was not allowed to share a room over night with him at my parents'house - even up to the age of 23 this was not permitted. On the other hand, our DS was 16 and just started in his independent school's sixth form when he began going out with his G/F and we took the decision to let them sleep together in our home as we felt if we did not allow it, they would do so anyway elsewhere and at least they were safe in our home............they are now 22 and still together, having survived separation through going to different unis and have just purchased their own flat, but I'm drifting off topic totally now

I used to take my friends into the living/dining room where the record player was (eek, showing my age there!). Only problem was that dad would come in and start talking music to them and I would be left to make the tea! :rotfl:

We never really had the problem of asking my parents if we could share a bed as I moved out at age 18 and we didn't stay over until we were well and truly married and had kids (although I did sneak him in one New years Eve night when I was nearly 18 and my parents had gone to my nan's in Rye)

The year before we married, we went to stay with both of my nans, one in London and the other in Rye. My London nan was very open about sex and we thought it would be no problems with sharing a bed, my Rye nan was very proper and we fully expected to be sleeping in seperate beds. Well, in London, I had to share the bed with my nan while future hubby slept downstars and in Rye, my nan had set up the double bed for us!

We were completely and utterly shocked, as was my dad...he thought he knew his mum inside out.

My eldest (18) did ask if his girlfriend could stay the night and I agreed....as long as she slept on the sofa downstairs and he slept upstairs as he shares a room with his younger brother. It didn't happen in the end as her family are Catholic and they didn't approve (I met that with a great big phew - it would have been an absolute nightmare with the boys routine!)

As for the amount of children in a house, my nan had 12 children in a small 3 bedroom house...the girls shared a massive double bed in one room (laying crosswise instead of downwards) , the boys a normal double bed in another and grandparents had the box room.

The_Palmist

SuzieSue wrote: »

Agreed, but realistically the only way someone is going to get council housing is by having children which is why the OP qualifies. The Palmist is suggesting that we should all have children and therefore join (or jump) the queue for council housing which is what a lot of irresponsible people are doing. This is why decent people are so angry and his answer is that we should join the irresponsible people rather than do something to stop them behaving irresponsibly.

No Sue, I am not suggesting we all join the queue. I do not appreciate people judging someone we don't know at all and being personal in our comments. OP hasn't created the system, she is probably one of the smallest cogs in this wheel. There is no point taking our frustration out on OP when you are against the system. Decent people are too busy getting angry and that's why we are in this state. Vote with your heads and stand up for good cause and may be the next generation won't be venting out here.

And sorry, such vile comments do not qualify anyone to be "decent".

SingleSue

BigAunty wrote: »

It's composed of approx £100 in tax credits, £63 in income support and around £35 in child benefit for two children (might be out by a pound or two on the sums quoted).

It's just slightly more than the take-home pay of someone working full time on National Minimum Wage but of course, they would have to use it to pay towards their rent and council tax, plus their transport costs to work.

Can you believe that until a few years ago, a lone parent had no obligation to seek employment until their youngest reaches 13?!

Now, it's been reduced to 7 and will shortly be reduced to 5, until a lone parent is switched off Income Support and transferred to Job Seekers Allowance.

PS - the only way a lone parent can continue receiving IS when their youngest reaches the threshold that kicks them onto JSA is by entering full time education. Funnily enough, there are lots of posts from lone parents who find that when their youngest approaches the age in which there is pressure on them from the Job Centre, they find they have a vocation that requires them to apply for FE and HE courses...."I want to get a good job to support my family, therefore I need to study x, y, z..."

You can also continue to receive IS if you are an official carer and receive carers allowance.

I am doing the degree route but mine is OU to fit around my care duties and in case I get lucky and somebody actually wants to take the risk in employing me with all the demands on me...so far, that equals zero. (I don't actually have an obligation to seek work due to care needs but my brain is turning to mush and I need an escape - work has always given me that escape - the job centre thinks I am mad to even think about it)

jc808

rhodesRocks wrote: »

https://forums.moneysavingexpert.com/discussion/2824492
maybe you should read another of her posts here:
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Reducing my working hours.
I currently work 37.5hrs/wk full time but want to reduce my hours down to 16hrs/wk. I take home about £800/mth and want to know will i get enough benefits to "replace" the loss of wages?? Im living with my other half who also works full time and we've got a 3yr old who goes to nursery full time, 5 days a week.
GIVE ME GIVE ME GIVE ME I'M ENTITLED GIVE ME GIVE ME GIVE ME

Unbelievable.

Old_Git

get a sofa bed in the living room . Hey presto you have 3 bedrooms.

Brb

My neighbour privately rents a small 2 bed house with 3 children. She sleeps on a sofa bed in the lounge. I have to say at first I felt a bit sorry for her not having her own space but enjoyed sharing a bottle of wine last month and the house looks gorgeous and very well organised.

In fact I think I'm the one struggling to live with the smallness of the house (same) and there is only two of us. I need to de-clutter!!

I think we just all own way too much stuff that means nothing.

fannyanna

OP - I own my property. We have a one bedroom first floor maisonette. At the moment it's just me and my Husband but we're trying for a baby. At one point I had refused to try until we had a spare room but that wasn't going to happen anytime soon and so we just decided that we'd try and we would manage with one bedroom (after all a baby stays in its parents room for at least 6 months).

If I can plan to do that (and I'm quite fussy but then again I don't live off the state so I can choose to be fussy) I'm sure you'll survive.