Moving to 3 bed house?!!?

sarahevie

What has got my back up is that my child had an operation yesterday, would I have liked to not have been working today, yes but did I have to go in, because I *need* the money and job - yes.

Also I work in a supermarket with people earning very little, single people, single parents, low pay, no career development, some do it as a second job but nobody ever goes on about benefit 'entitlement' they just get on with it.

I work with a lady in her sixties who works full time in a university, then works 32 hours a week on a checkout, working 7 days a week to get by. People don't know they're born.

The most moaning I ever here is in my other role as 'benefit helper' I volunteer to help single parents with budgeting, filling in benefit forms.

One of my colleagues told me today that her 16 month old is still in with her and hubby as their 15 year old didn't want to share. They can't afford to buy anywhere bigger. You get on with it.

I've said too much so I'm shutting up.

SingleSue

Bunk beds? A cotbed and a narrow single bed? A single bed in your bedroom for you to sleep in which should then give room for a cot for the baby? Give the bedrooms over to the children and have a put you up bed in the lounge for you?

We had 3 children in a two bedroom house, the 2nd bedroom was a box room with barely space for 1 bed let alone 2 but we managed to just about fit a cotbed and a small single in (no space in between or either side but hey ho)....their wardrobe went into the hallway and that was not a particularly large space either!

The 3rd child had to bunk up with us with his cot right up against my side of the bed....it was great fun at bedtime as I had to sort of launch myself at the bed to get in, thank goodness for all the practice runs when drunk and younger I say :rotfl:

phoebe1989seb

I used to have a friend who had divorced her husband 'cos he had an affair. She was a working single parent (admittedly her ex paid child support) who struggled to buy a home in a nice area for the two of them. On her (limited) budget she was only able to buy a very small property with one bedroom...........which she and her daughter shared until her daughter was 10 years old, at which point she managed to sell and buy a two-bed place. In the original place mum and daughter each had a single bed at right-angles to each other with barely any room for a wardrobe, hanging rail and chest, let alone any kids stuff. For the seven years I knew them neither had any privacy in the bedroom, but my friend never complained or thought she was entitled to anything more spacious............don't think she ever took any blokes home for the night though

debrag

sarahevie wrote: »

I rarely do this, but it makes my blood boil this 'entitled to' culture.

Op gets £900 a month from her parents so could use this to fund more space?

Likes to ask about her 'friends' 4 year old and newborn baby girl. ?Has seen a three bed up the road 'friend' wants to move to. Just be honest - I hate these 'my friend' posts.

For the OP do what most people who own their own homes do, have bunk beds, make space, kids share up and down the country, live within your means, get a job so you are not reliant on LHA then you wouldn't be restricted to a two bed

Not a go at the OP but why should people on benefits be able to get a bigger house when they have more kids, when people who own or rent (not on benefits) can't afford to. The government have the same rules about when a kid should get their own room but don't give any help to these people, what makes these kids different other than how their parents pay for their home.

Oh and when I lived in a HA property and did a swap, we swapped with a couple with 6 kids in a 3 bed house and had been waiting to move for years.

WelshPaul

OP you will not get a bigger home via social housing, you are entitled to a two bedroom home and you have one. Even if you try and do a swap say via homeswaper.co.uk the social housing landlord will have to authorise it before the swap can take place and they will not allow you to swap a two bedroom for a three bedroom home unless you are entitled to it.

Your only hope is to rent private, I live in a two bedroom council house although they are classed as cottages with my wife and three children aged 1, 5 & 9 all boys and all share one bedroom.

shegirl

WelshPaul wrote: »

OP you will not get a bigger home via social housing, you are entitled to a two bedroom home and you have one. Even if you try and do a swap say via homeswaper.co.uk the social housing landlord will have to authorise it before the swap can take place and they will not allow you to swap a two bedroom for a three bedroom home unless you are entitled to it.

Your only hope is to rent private, I live in a two bedroom council house although they are classed as cottages with my wife and three children aged 1, 5 & 9 all boys and all share one bedroom.

Surprisingly,most HAs and councils do allow it.The only rule for most regarding extra rooms is that you can only swap with a property that has one room more than you need.I think it's quite wrong but plenty do it! I've helped my dad try to exchange recently and the amount of people on swapping sites trying to swap for an extra room because they fancy a bigger house is astonishing,and they actually manage it!!!

jc808

Why not put a ladder into the loft and have a basic bedroom up there? Mate of mine had his room at parents like that. Alternatively, stop having kids for !!!!s sake

phoebe1989seb

My DH is one of 6 (3 boys & 3 girls with 10 years separating the eldest from my DH and twin sister - apparently they were an 'accident' btw ) and they were brought up in an ex-council house with 3 bedrooms. The 3 girls shared the largest room, the 3 boys the middle room and their parents had the smallest. They managed perfectly well for years - although I guess it must have been difficult when the elder two wanted to bring boyfriends/girlfriends home and their room was shared with two younger siblings! Both parents worked but despite this they couldn't afford to move to a larger house and also they were content where they were with the space (or lack of it!) they had.............

Hammyman

pizzle84 wrote: »

But the room isn't big enough for 2 and what if the next one is a girl, are they still meant to share?

Yes they are meant to share - I think it is up to age 10.

MentalMinnie

Good grief...