Problem with my 6yo....

dirtysexymonkey

tankgirl1 wrote: »

Because most of his class mates are very much middle class, and very well spoken - my lil man is clever - he wants to be friends with the cool kids eg the posh kids - but we can't compete

being intelligent and well spoken isnt the preserve of the middle classes.

i think the reason you feel you 'cant compete' is because you seem obsessed with being 'working class'. why does it matter? you should hope that some of the 'middle class' habits rub off on your son, especially being well spoken and having an ambition to succeed. itll do him well in life.

victory

tankgirl1 kids don't always play well together(by coincidence see my own thread) you have done nothing wrong and it is not down to the money, kids that age do not even notice, you are a fantastic mum and just this incident does not define your son:D

cheepskate_2

tankgirl1 wrote: »

Ok, Hi *waves*



My problem is that my son is a bit of a spoilt brat and I am not sure what to do........

I thought I had raised him well - best at reading and writing at school etc

These two statments seem very contridictory, he cant be both, spoiled brat- raised well..

To me personally being really good at something is great, doesnt mean they have been raised well. Seems a lot of emphisis is being put on being best.

Oldernotwiser

cheepskate wrote: »

These two statments seem very contridictory, he cant be both, spoiled brat- raised well..

To me personally being really good at something is great, doesnt mean they have been raised well. Seems a lot of emphisis is being put on being best.

I thought that as well; he can't be both raised well and spoiled.

Although I'm sure that this behaviour isn't uncommon, I'd make sure that you deal with it quickly before it does become a problem.

ViolaLass

tankgirl1 wrote: »

Because most of his class mates are very much middle class, and very well spoken - my lil man is clever - he wants to be friends with the cool kids eg the posh kids - but we can't compete

Why would you aim to compete? It's not about winning, it's about making friends!

Encourage it, it'll do them such good too to meet kids who have a different background. You don't want your kid being written off because you're 'working class' so don't write them off because their parents have money or a certain accent.

somethingsgottogive

I think you just need to persevere really, and get him interacting with lots of other children outside of school. You don't mention siblings, so I'm guessing he's just a little boy who's used to being able to do everything his way when he's at home - I wouldn't beat yourself up about it, it's completely normal

blue_monkey_2

tank-girl, if they had THAT much money their kids would be in Private Education.

Some people like to think they have the money but you do not know how they are funding that lifestyle, do you? As an example, the people next door clearly have much more money than us - however, the posh cars on their drive are not theirs they are company car's.

The important thing is that your son is bought up well adjusted and is kind to people - your DS is being an average 6yo and this will pass, he has been used to not having to share and has to learn new rules of having guests in the house - this is more important than all the money in the world.

I have another friend, on the outside, beautiful house, kids in music lessons, nice car, nice clothes - what I know though is her and her husband work all the houses god sends, she has hardly any time to herself and they are up to their necks in debt that is crippling them.....

globetraveller

It sounds like a normal 6 year old on a bad day. I wonder if you would have fretted so much if the child had been from the same economic background as you? Will your son pick up on your inferiority complex?It might sound harsh but i do think you have to analyse this. Your post was a bit extreme- he had a bad day playing with a friend and you call him a spoiled brat? When that term is used it is rarely about someone' s own child. Reread your own post when you feel calmer. Is there something to this or were you just letting off some steam in the heat of the moment?

Mrs.W_2

Oldernotwiser wrote: »

I thought that as well; he can't be both raised well and spoiled.

Although I'm sure that this behaviour isn't uncommon, I'd make sure that you deal with it quickly before it does become a problem.

I'm sure there are many areas that need to be covered for a child to be considered 'well raised'. The OP is simply saying she feels her son might be slipping in one respect; behaviour.

But he's not. He's just 6, and making her work for the title of Mummy.;)

Person_one

Please don't make your son aware of things like class and money at 6. Children only know these things if their parents let them, otherwise they are blissfully ignorant.

Have a look at your own attitude, why does it matter to you that these families have a bit more money? Are they nice kind polite friendly people? If so it doesn't matter what they do or how much they earn, don't treat them any differently to anyone else.