Problem with my 6yo....

sassyblue

ViolaLass wrote: »

Why would you aim to compete? It's not about winning, it's about making friends!

Encourage it, it'll do them such good too to meet kids who have a different background. You don't want your kid being written off because you're 'working class' so don't write them off because their parents have money or a certain accent.

Exactly. As for the class thing..... surely if they have to work for a living they're working class too?

Don't do yourself down, what counts is being a decent person.

patchwork_cat

I also think that there is a common misconception that money = class. It doesn't. A lot of the people that you see may also be working class.

meritaten

Its NOT about class IMHO. Its about the way the child acted with his guests!
badly - as I think the OP says.
its about manners and sharing - this isnt a class thing - its a spoilt brat thing! The OP is right - her little one behaved like a spoilt brat.
the OP recognises this - but has it confused with class. it ISNT. its about teaching your child that guests in his home are treated with politeness. its about sharing and being considerate.
He is only six OP! you recognise the problem and can work on that. teach him about manners and sharing and empathy.
Class doesnt come into it -some of the middle class kids in my grandkids school wouldn't win awards for 'nicest child'. its about HOW they are brought up!

pinkclouds

tankgirl1 wrote: »

Because most of his class mates are very much middle class, and very well spoken - my lil man is clever - he wants to be friends with the cool kids eg the posh kids - but we can't compete

Manners cost nothing. You *can* compete.

However, I agree with the gist of many posts. This may be a molehill. With a bit of perseverance, sharing and so on can be encouraged and enforced. And both kids will have forgotten about this incident long before you have - that's the nature of parenthood.

esmf73

Tank girl, wow lots of advice here! We could afford to give our kids lots of toys etc (IF OH didn't spend money on computer bits!!) but I choose not to as the little terrors don't look after their toys (from past experience). I love my kids to bits, but at times they make me pull my hair out - both over their behaviour and them saying I want! They have both been known to repeat after me (since about 2) "I want, doesn't get!"

Sometimes I am proud of their behaviour, sometimes I could just die with embarrassment! In my experience it is often those parents who are perceived as being well off that don't have the time to spend with their children. So you could be seen as the best mum in the world by all the rich kids, if you had the time to do craft activities or take them on Indiana Jones style country walks. This is what I prefer to do with my boys - I'd rather do things with them than give them toys they'll forget in a day or two. We have great "Adventures!" complete with backpack with drinks and snacks (apples and water!) and walking sticks (the nearest suitable branch on the floor!) They love these even if we're only out for a short time, we then come back to what is normally a warm shower (cos they're muddy up to their eyebrows) and some home made cake and a cup of warm milk / hot chocolate!

Downside to this is that you might find your house becomes a magnet for ALL the children in the neighbourhood!!