I don't like my mother!

happyhaddock_2

Thanks lh, that is honestly how I feel, I think I'll see what happens and respond however I feel at the time. I'm in unkown waters now! (love your tag line by the way, its so true, the best laid plans of mice and men!)

Thanks as well omo for understanding, its so hard but I have to be true to myself.

meritaten

I would go happy - if only to keep your sis happy. she cannot hurt you now - and hasn't been able to for some time. think of it as a 'duty visit'.
I do have to ask this - who has told you that 'mother' has a week to live? sis? and is she going on what hospital have said or 'mother'?

YOU have come to terms with relationship - your sis is going to have a quite different reaction - be prepared for that. you know how much sis was under her thumb - she may be devastated, while you feel relieved..........be careful not to upset sis with your true feelings. I remember your thread well and know sis is not as strong as you. She (sis) needs you now and you may well have to bite your tongue!
I cant say sorry for your loss - it would be hypocritical - I would say be very careful as emotions are heightened at this time and arguments are easily started.

Top_Girl

Just read this thread for the first time, via a link from another thread.

Sommer and Muckybutt, I sympathise 100 percent.

The woman who gave birth to me has bi polar. She seems to consider this an excuse for treating me horrifically during my childhood, leading to me being taken into care at 12 and everything she did/does after. Generationally, it probably was when she was diagnosed in the fifties/sixties. I don't buy it any more. I know a few people with the same condition who lead fulfilled lives and more importantly, if they hurt people during an episode, are remorseful and try to make amends.

For everyone else, I often wonder if it's partially a societal thing. Women are set up to compete against one another. There is no competition, normally, with a father's love for a child. Ergo, do these women behave this way as they perceive their daughters are threats to their marriages/lives?
It's in no way a attempt at justifying it, but it's intriguing.

My only sibling died in April, he had a fractured relationship with his mother and drank himself to death. The owner of the womb I rented for a while seems to consider this a reason for her to be in my life again. She has upped her voicemails from one every couple of weeks to daily, often several times a day.

Ultimately she ruined my childhood and scarred me for life, we have no relationship, nor will we in the future. And she should be very careful in her attempts to forge a relationship with my child as well. Because I will die a thousand deaths before I let that self-pitying poisonous cow anywhere near the happy, settled, wonderful Top Boy.

The duty of care between a parent and child is only existent if they were decent parents. If they couldn't or wouldn't be good parents, there is no reason that you as the child in the relationship should 'look after' them as adults. It's a harsh realisation, but it is the only way forward in my honest opinion. Boots is more than welcome to take on my 'mother' if you fancy your chances love. I give you a month, tops.

Insomniac Top Girl...