The Buffy buys a House diary.......

Buffythedebtslayer

1. I have changed.

I was thinking about this, end of year and all that. I think I had forgotten how disorganised I actually was. Living with Mum it is hard to notice a difference -but especially with presents this year, I did shop in November and had put things away through the year. My room is loads better than it was as is the conservatory. I have birthday cards and 2 presents for next year.

My wardrobe is more tidy (does show an awful tendancy towards black and I am creeping back to having stuff in there I will slim into...but it is not excessive (2 tops and 4 dresses)

I don't buy magazines any more and gave my "collection" to the Charity shop before Christmas. Toiletries are under control.

My room although currently a post christmas mess can be fixed. The pets are in a routine and looked after.

I went on two holidays last year, a miracle for me! and have finally overcome my fear and learnt to drive!



2. My disorganisation is the key to a lot of my problems.

work - so much has to "proved" and I can't always manange it because I am disorganised, I rile against the stupid petty systems but must and I do mean must realise these stupid petty systems pay my bills and put all that money into my savings that I was so proud of.

Social life - I hate going out. I can never be on time, I am always late which means I miss things (starters!) people feel sorry for me(hate it) I am never comfortable (until I have had a few glasses of wine!).

Home - Mum(and I until recently) has always "put things away" Not really away - think on a shelf, in cupboard randomly so the house looks straight.
In fact I realised that she used to tidy my room when I was a child and I could NEVER find anything. Every cupboard would be full to bursting and you can never just open a cupboard it would need a slow careful prising and a ready hand to catch erant objects...and drawers? hmmm. a wiggle, another wiggle until you can set the contents free.

It is only through my constant decluttering and sort of sifting through my things that I have reached a point where there is now less to do, I can see the end. It is by no means perfect as you will see from the list of aims for 2012.

diet/weight/appearance - my skin is seriously getting me down. I think it is mostly caused by stress and me being unhealthy - why does my disorganisation cause this? I don't plan what I eat or drink and make unhealthy choices, I am stressed out and can't eat/drink at work and so my health suffers etc etc.

my future

Well I had looked into doing some more studying after the Masters. I was/am interested psychology with the eventual aim of being an Educational Psychologist. I have always wanted to work with SEN kids and have kept an eye for such jobs (special needs teaching) but most wanted experience, with that in mind I have taken on some volunteer work at school so it can go on the CV.

Anyway years ago I studied with the OU but never finished the courses (too disorganised) however this means that they will not let me study with them again. I have to write to someone to ask to be let on again so we shall see.

That last one in particular really caught me, my disorganisation and basic laziness has stopped me in SO many ways. And it could limit my options for a future career change.

I am not really looking for advice, just wanted to get my thoughts out there.

I am going off to de Christmas my room and have a think!

Thanks for reading if you have got this far!!


xxxx

urg123

Buffythedebtslayer wrote: »

I have to say this is a very odd feeling.


x

Hi Buffy

I know that feeling - it's odd isn't. The feeling that things are mostly in control is not something we have felt for a long time so now that we are debt free we are always convinced we have forgotten something. But what is great is that you have been able to start these little pots that can rescue you!

Re the OU course. - I did a module with them and didn't complete it. I came to the conclusion that distance learning was not for me. I enjoyed being in the classroom and the interaction that was part of learning. Being disorganised didn't help - but I was not motivated to learn in this way. Is it possible for you to study in a 'classroom' environment? Some of the Education departments offer evening lectures.

You really have come a long way. It's great to hear that you feel more in control of things.

urg x x

Buffythedebtslayer

Room has been de Christmased - was done by 10.30 but have been watching TV and reading diaries since then.

Just wanted to write my January Aims.

My New Year Resolution is essentially to complete my 101 things in a 1000 days list.

Aims for January

1. Paint bathroom
2. Declutter Room and Conservatory
3. Visit cemetry
4. Get up to date with marking
5. Lose 7 pounds.
6. Get niggles on car sorted
7. Clear out filing cabinet and get up to date with filing.
8. Walk 6,000 steps a day.
9. Take one photo everyday.
10. sort my cables for downloading and charging various electrical things!

I am tired now and as a mate on FB has pointed out I should be in bed!

so night all

Love Buffy xx

Northern_Lassy

Just popping by to wish you a very Happy New Year Buffy.
I too suffer from being disorganised, which leads to inertia and a general lack of productivity. I feel a New Year's resolution coming on
Hope 2012 brings lots of lovely things your way :beer:

Buffythedebtslayer

Just a quick update,

bit miserable (due to impending [STRIKE]doom[/STRIKE]period, current awful spots and of course going back to work *dread* )

I set up my new TV (Christmas present) and watched You've Got Mail. Nearly made me cry. WHY CAN'T MY LIFE BE LIKE A ROM COM? HUH????:mad::mad:

Ahem.

I dyed my hair - bit dark but v shiny so I sort of felt like I was in a shampoo advert.

I went to the high street most of which was closed but did buy my friend's b'day present from the Body Shop, Body Butter for a fiver and shower gel for 80p. also bought a general gift from S'burys for 2.40 and some kids gifts for £3 so owe myself 5.80 + 2.40 + 3= 11.20 ( I think!)

I spent £16 in S'bury and 10 pounds in Morrisons plus 10. 80 in the Bodyshop. Mostly on rubbish, some lunches for next week, food for the Gps, two dvds.......:o


any how best get ready for tomorrow.

xxx

gothrockchic1

Happy New Year (sorry its late)

Lula-Hula

Hiya lovely,

your life is not like a rom com because they are NOT REAL. That genre of film is sentimental, emotionally manipulative saccharine goo designed purely to MAKE MONEY, particularly from the purses of wistful single women.

C'mon Buffy, you're a smart girl & deep down you know that you have to make your life into what you want it to be.

Work sucks, but it provides you with both challenging & enriching experiences that pay for you to do the things you want to do.

Onwards girl, reach out & grab life

Happy New Year - 2012, you own it :cool:

xx

beanielou

Wise words from Lula who puts it so much better than I can xx

RosaBernicia

May have to frame that, Lula... or make a postcard to be kept by the TV :rotfl:

Buffy - What bits of the film do you most want, and what can you do about getting them?

Rosa xx

[Deleted User]

Hey lovely!

Happy new year - bit late!

So had a wee look at your goals for January looking forward to seeing you crossing some off that list! Weight wise I want to lose 5lbs in January I have been good since 1st I know that is only 2 days but sometimes even that is a struggle haha!

Honestly my skin is an absolute mess right now I think that its all the unhealthy food that I've been munching on - I dont know what it is about this time of year that makes me think its acceptable to have a toblerone & a cup of tea for my brekkie!!! BUT that is over for another year time to get this under control.

Hope this message finds you well

Will catch up with you soon xxx