Problems with school-DELETED

McKneff

To be honest I think the whole thread needs deleting.

All the nastiness and the bullying needs to stomped on. Now

No good deleting the first post and then reading it in quotes in posts.

Mods, please delete this thread.

chivers1977

Once again I have reported to the mods re the behaviour on this board. Hopefully soon they will crack down on it.

Be nice to all MoneySavers

sarlyka

The OP asked for advice regarding how to raise concerns about school. The advice given (including my own) is to contact Parent partnership and contact IPSEA to find out more about starting statutory assessment. A child's special needs and the help they require are not based on a specific diagnosis, they are based on the needs the child has and the support they require in order to access education. Whatever issues this child has, they are affecting her education and she needs support. I cannot see what relevance the OP's other posts have to this issue.

OneYorkshireLass

sunnyone wrote: »

My Aspergers has nothing to do with this thread,

So why bring it up?

I don't think this thread should be deleted, just take out the rubbish.

Brassedoff

sunnyone wrote: »

Telling the truth isnt wrong, I have read every word from dcem and they most certainly dont like the two threads linked (as do not their two hangers on because when you link peoples posts you cant misunderstand them or call them liars) but that donst change the truth that this bairns step grand parent died and they then went of the rails and that is what this thread is truly about and thats why no educational professional will back up the op for SEN.

Sunnyone, I cannot see anything wrong with your questioning. I agree, all to often outside events cause kids to go off the rails. Why on earth there is a whole industry that pops up on here to convince that there is something wrong other than the event that triggers the problem I do not know.

As for labelling the kids, YOU have personal experience and live with it. I don't and I bet many others who are on here do not either.

I wish people would stop giving the wrong advice without knowing all the facts (as you clearly did through looking) and potentially diverting vital funds from every kid in that 15 year old's School in favour of just one.

What is the motivator in these cases? If the child was then diagnosed with all the desired (by the OP) labels, would there been a massive financial gain? Or would there be none? A pure question, that's all. Find me a 15 year old who is not difficult at one point or another in the 13-19 gap.

Do parents really think about the problems they store up for their kids in adult life? Has anyone ever read the questions you have to honestly answer in a variety of jobs and things that ask "have you any history of mental illness"? Do they think of the consequences?

OP, I am genuinely sorry your kid has been difficult, I hope things change for you soon.

[Deleted User]

chivers1977 wrote: »

Once again I have reported to the mods re the behaviour on this board. Hopefully soon they will crack down on it.

Be nice to all MoneySavers

being a REGULAR poster on here i see nothing about the "behaviour" that needs cracking down on in 99% of threads !
and i will also add that sunnyone gives excellent advice as many others do in their own time and often for little or no thanks

shegirl

I have to agree with sunnyone I'm afraid and consider the fact that the bereavement and stress within the family may be a contributing factor.

With regards to the school have you been in and talked to them about lack of communication?

Being on report may seem awful to you,as may isolation for swearing but I will tell you about my sons new school...

My son (severely autistic but an intelligent lad and now verbal) goes to a special secondary school.ALL KIDS there have behaviour monitering,including him despite him needing his own classroom with his own staff with him.They have a traffic light system.Good behaviour is rewarded and bad behaviour isn't,they will moniter and there can be sanctions.In my sons case at the moment,if he doesn't get green or yellow every day in the week he doesn't get to do his activity at the end of the week.

They also have a room with another room attached with cubicles in it.If kids play up in class,swear or get stressed or aggresive not only is it dealt with but they will go to that room and have to sit there and do their work.If they get stressy in that room they move to a seperate cubicle to do their work.So,in a sense it's 'isolation' but it's to help them too and they are talked to to find out the problem etc.It's fantastic!

Just because a child has special needs it doesn't mean they should get away with swearing at a teacher!Your daughter has ADHD,not something that leaves a form of mental impairment that means she doesn't understand things!!

I don't think putting her on report for the restlessness or disruptiveness is a major issue,because it will actually be a form of monitoring her within the school.

You do need to sort out the communication issue though and perhaps statementing IF it is needed along with the TA issue IF it is needed.But do remember that the stress and bereavement at home will effect her and could be behind her behaviour at present too,so ensure those involved are aware of this as,not only could they be helpful,but if that is what is currently causing her issues then perhaps certain things aren't needed.

bestpud

Of you stomp off every time you come across someone who doesn't agree with you, I can see why communication with the school has broken down.

QuackQuackOops

Sunnyone doesnt seem to have said or done anything untoward. In fact if everyone were so dilligent then perhaps we wouldnt see so many one sided threads that give advise without all the facts.
I totally agree with Sunnyone too. At 12/13 years of age of a girl a parent would expect to start seeing erratic or bad behaviour. They may also expect outrageous behaviour following the death of a close family member.

All involved need to offer support, guidance and understanding but some disipline to the young girl involved not dragging her through disgnostic processes.