should i do this

suziesmith2011

thankyou starrystarrynight,its been hell,but i have a good supportive family or i wouldnt have got through this,and its early days but realise im better off without him.

gratefulforhelp_2

Go for it. x

dirtysexymonkey

dark_lady wrote: »

Your post was at 4.17 . mine was at 4.18 so there isnt much in sixty seconds is there?

Bloody hell. Gaslight much??!!!

im beginning to think your stalking me.:rotfl:

please get help for your obsession.:(

FBaby

You need to be very careful. If your ex is not paying his debts, the creditors could very much apply for a charge on the house even if the debt is protected. This is exactly what happened to me. My ex left (mutual agreement), a month later he was made redundant, and I started to get letters coming to our house and phone calls from the companies. I would tell them that he didn't live here, but they didn't care and pestered me days on end. It was extremely stressful. I knew some were looking to put a charge on the house, I tried to negotiate with them, offered 50% of the money but they refused. They took him to court (he didn't attend) without notifying me and the judge agreed the charge. More companies threatened to do the same. Thankfully, at this stage, my ex agreed to sign the house over and I just managed to get the mortgage company to agree to transfer to me. The companies did try, but there was nothing they could do at this stage. I had a very lucky escape as it could have been much worse.

suziesmith2011

i tried to get the house in my sole name,but the mortgage company say i cant afford it even though im paying everything,the house is for sale,but no interest at the moment,its awfull when you dont know what is going to happen.

Caroline_a

Do you have anyone who could stay with you at the moment? Preferably someone with a large dog?

suziesmith2011

thankyou,im ok, he left in july, my solicitor wrote to him in september, to his mothers house, and told him we would apply for an injunction if his behaviour continued.not heard from him directly since.he is busy with his sons girlfriend for the time being,not just hurt me but his own son as well.?

NAR

dirtysexymonkey wrote: »

in this case the op is scared so it would be stupid to do something that could make him angry and very possibly violent. you may wish to take the risk with the ops safety but my advice will not.

OP has said her husband does not know she knows his new address. Therefore why would he suspect that the creditors got it from her? All correspondence to date has been via his mother's address.

DS4215

Take any letters addressed to him, write something along the lines of "Lying Scumbag no longer at this address" and pop them back in the post. Job done.

OP - Have you thought about getting a lodger? - it will give you company, extra money (might make the difference for the mortgage people) and it would make it harder for hm to just turn up...