should i do this

DUKE

I'd do it.

mazy_m

suziesmith2011 wrote: »

the letters are getting very frequent,almost daily,im trying to avoid people turning up on the doorstep,nothing much left to take now anyway,he took things before he left without me knowing, he knew what he was going to do.

You keep justifying it to yourself and are trying to talk yourself into doing it. What's stopping you from doing? Are you not wanting to do it as you still have feelings for him? Or because you feel guilty? Or are you really scared of him and worried that he will find out?

suziesmith2011

i dont like confrontation,its all of those things i suppose,i am going to do it,yes i have feelings,but cant go backwards,just getting on the mend,and trying to sort my life out.

dark_lady

dirtysexymonkey wrote: »

what do you call giving his creditors his new address? do you really think he wont find out it was you?

im all for people getting their comeuppance but in this case, i dont think itd be a good idea.

The OPs ex owes the money so its HIS responsibility to pay. Its called taking responsibility for your own actions. Its part of being an adult.
I can only assume that you are similar to the OPs ex with this attitude.

I bet if the original post had been written by a man whose ex wife owed the money you would have said the opposite and told the OP to give out the address.

chocdonuty

If they are solely his debts then pass the details on, if they are in joint names then definatly pass his details on.
If the debt companies only have your details and not his then you are the the only person they can chase they will do so!
His debts, his problem

suziesmith2011

thanks, their all in his name,so will be in the post today.he can worry about them and not me.

dirtysexymonkey

dark_lady wrote: »

The OPs ex owes the money so its HIS responsibility to pay. Its called taking responsibility for your own actions. Its part of being an adult.
I can only assume that you are similar to the OPs ex with this attitude.

I bet if the original post had been written by a man whose ex wife owed the money you would have said the opposite and told the OP to give out the address.

actually we dont know whos name the debts are in but as they are married then its highly likely that they are marital debts.;)

but dont let that stop you ranting on about your favourite topic - how everyone hates women.:rotfl:

and i wouldnt have told anyone who is scared of their ex to antagonise them in any way. regardless of sex.

BitterAndTwisted

Why forward his mail? That won't stop more correspondence coming through your letter-box. If they are his debts alone and none of them are in your joint names just contact all of the creditors and give them his new address. Anything else won't stop the bailiffs arriving at some point. Are any of these debts secured on the property?

mazy_m

Hey Susie,

There's no need for any confrontation for this just don't mention it to him. He might not know you gave it to them. Does he actually know you have the new address? It might be wise to not mention to him that you have his new address.

CH27

I'd pass his address on.

If youare scared of him have you considered getting an Injunction against him?