should i do this

suziesmith2011

i have managed to get my husbands address form my solicitor,he cancelled all his direct debits for his loans and credit cards when he left,i thought i might send his post back to his creditors,with his new address,he doesnt know i have it.he left me with all the bills and mortgage to pay without a second thought to how i would manage.im not a nasty person but hurting and not thinking straight yet.

pimento

I'd deliver them by hand.

NAR

Yes why not? The fact that he chose not to inform them of his new address has resulted in the post continuing to arrive at your address. Why should you have that hassle? These debts may well be passed to debt collectors at some stage and you may well have to deal with hassle from them, why should you? Get them off your doorstep asap and tell them his current address.

suziesmith2011

cant face him,he turned from a loving husband into a very angry man overnight.

suziesmith2011

going to do it then,have them ready.

flutterby_lil

Sorry things are not too good at the minute. Yes I would send them to him. Are children involved, do you have to face him?

suziesmith2011

no children been married 14 years,joint mortgage,dont have face him but he is asking solicitor for keys so he can get his possesions,but he has taken everything already

Mojisola

suziesmith2011 wrote: »

no children been married 14 years,joint mortgage,dont have face him but he is asking solicitor for keys so he can get his possesions,but he has taken everything already

Difficult situation. As he's on the mortgage, you can't stop him entering the house. Keep anything personal/legal/etc locked away or at someone else's house.

suziesmith2011

thats what solicitor said,he left in july changed the locks whilst i was out and it cost me £240 for locksmith to get me in the front door. 2 days later he gave the keys to his brother to give to me as he didnt want them,and he now wants them back im very confused.

pigpen

or maybe he just wants access to the house to scare you... Mine would let himself in very very drunk at 2 and 3am and scream and shout and smash things.. And I do have children who were very scared and upset.. best part was he was so drunk he claims not to remember doing it.. So if he has become angry and unpleasant I would have this out with the solicito and while you cannot keep him out of the house while his name is on the mortgage you should be able to limit his access to when you are able to have someone else there.

I woud ring the relevant parties and give them his new address.. I had to do this several times when we moved here and the previous owner had been in loads of debt. 6 years on I still get the odd call for her. And I also had a debt collection letter for him a few months ago over 2 years after he left!

clearingout

As regards the post, what I eventually did (took me about 18 months), was open each of the letters that was turning up on my doorstep on a regular basis and phoned the creditor to give them the forwarding address. That stopped the mail but also, I think, bailiffs as my ex had no intention whatsoever of paying his debts. I don't think it's 'right' to open someone's post and for the first 6 months, the ex had his mail forwarded by Royal Mail. I gave him anything that arrived for the next year but there comes a point where enough is enough (I had had court baliffs and process servers on my doorstep in the interim) so I took the matter into my own hands. Once I did that, I can honestly say the relief was enormous - no more worrying who was at the door when the bell rang.