How do I deal with this then??

Oldernotwiser

Errata wrote: »

I've assumed from this that she spends most weekends at home (please correct me if I'm wrong) and all the holidays. Does she make any financial contribution towards food and utilities when she's home? If not, then it seems to me you're expecting your youngest daughter to subsidise her sister through her contribution.

I don't agree.

The elder daughter is still in FT education (which is why CB/CTC) is paid but younger daughter is working (albeit in a training position) and earning money. The two situations are totally different and that is recognised by the way that public funds are allocated.

DD1 isn't going to have £96 pw in her pocket to do with as she likes1

Person_one

Oldernotwiser wrote: »

I don't agree.

The elder daughter is still in FT education (which is why CB/CTC) is paid but younger daughter is working (albeit in a training position) and earning money. The two situations are totally different and that is recognised by the way that public funds are allocated.

DD1 isn't going to have £96 pw in her pocket to do with as she likes1

She does have the use of a car for free, that's pretty valuable, and she does work part time, we don't know how much money she earns.

Treading_Water

jackyann wrote: »

We had 4 kids, all with different talents, wishes, ideas etc. We worked it out and said:
After the age of 16 we are prepared to offer you all the following:
x years free board & lodging
£y for driving lessons ( we decided nothing for a car, but that can be factored in)
£z for education, tuition etc. (we allowed one to use it as a new business start-up)
£a towards a house deposit
£b interest-free loan if needed

We didn't tell them that there was also a "rainy-day" fund. We were lucky in stable jobs, so we could plan, and had saved from early days. But it doesn't matter exactly how much, organising it this way, each could decide how best to "spend" their allowance from us. Some who earned good money took advantage of the "free board" to save.

Love this idea and may have to work on a variation of it. It was always the plaan when the time came - it just seems to have come along a bit quicker than planned.

jackyann

Treading_Water wrote: »

- it just seems to have come along a bit quicker than planned.

It always does dear...it always does!
And glad to have been of help.

Ettenna

Do you get CB & CTC for DD1? I ask because she obviously doesn't live with you so why would you get money for her?

Treading_Water

Ettenna wrote: »

Do you get CB & CTC for DD1? I ask because she obviously doesn't live with you so why would you get money for her?

She is still in further education the same as 6th form and only just 18. She is home most weekends, and all holidays and we are liable for accomodation and food costs.
We did ask about grants etc - but you don't get them until you go into higher education.

claire16c

Oldernotwiser wrote: »

I don't agree.

The elder daughter is still in FT education (which is why CB/CTC) is paid but younger daughter is working (albeit in a training position) and earning money. The two situations are totally different and that is recognised by the way that public funds are allocated.

DD1 isn't going to have £96 pw in her pocket to do with as she likes1

Yes because she chose to go away to college which costs her parents a lot of money.

Who knows how much she earns in her part time job - it could be somewhere near that.

An apprenticeship is a nominal wage and is not proper employment, like I said before if it was it would pay at least minimum wage.

ALI1973

what a dilemma! (no doubt I too will have to deal with something similar at some point - I have three young dds).

As I feel I was unfairly treated by my parents (my older siblings where unemployed so did not have to contribute and then left home - I was still a child at this point. And my brother (who incidentally earnt more than me) paid 1/2 of what I did for housekeeping.
Sorry I digress - if it were me I think I would calculate exactly how much I was contributing to DD1, inc. car usage etc and taking into account the CB and CTC per week, I would then work out how much I would be contributing to DD2, ie food, heat, washing etc. Then I could see how much (if at all) I should charge DD2 and I would also have a sound base to explain to her how it is fair.

I would guess, though, that your contribution to DD1 is far greater, and in that instance, I would be looking to make DD1 contribute to the household also, and would suggest she got a weekend job at home in order to do so.

I have deliberately negated the driving lessons as you have already said that they would be treated equally.