Employers visiting me tomorrow...

justwannabeloved

Hi Uncertain.

Well, my daughter isn't well at present and agian off school today, can't see her being well tomorrow. So, forward thinking I have called a friend to come over, one to be present with me but also to there for my daughter's needs during their visit x

j.e.j.

Uncertain wrote: »

I would try to have somebody present if you possibly can.

I think this is excellent advice. Probably very short notice by now, but if you can have someone with you as a witness, better still someone who has some knowledge of employment law.

I can see the employers point of view, but equally they do not have a right to intimidate someone in their own home.

justwannabeloved

I didn't hesitate to agree with the visit, like I said earlier I have nothing to hide. But just feel like im possibly going to be judged whether Im nutty or not. I do think being at home is more comfortable for me, than me going into the office and being seen by others in the office as Im really not up to that.

I will take note of not mentioning child care issues, thanks for that advice x Im worried they are going to try and force me back to work, when I know I can't cope with that envioment currently x

TrixieB

If you are not comfortable having a work meeting in your home you do not have to do so. There is no legal obligation to do so.

Would you be happier to go to your workplace to discuss things with them?

You have my sympathy, I have been in same situation very recently. I refused a meeting in my home and requested one at the workplace or somehwere neutral - it was postponed til later because of illhealth anyway, but due to personal issues with the people who wanted to come to my home that I wouldn't in a million years let in, and the state of my home and not being comfortable having ANYONE in I refused.

They will want to dsicuss with you how you are, when you feel you will be able to return, what can they do to help you return easier, maybe ask you to sign forms allowing them access to your medical records and probably also inform you of their long term sickness policy and the dismissal procedure steps should they need to take them.

You can have ANYONE you like present even if they tell you not.

Torry_Quine

justwannabeloved wrote: »

Hi Torry Quine.

After fighting for flexiable working rules and reducing my hours down, I now only work 16 hours per week, this is pro rata, I earned. 76.61 a week.

I didnt know anything about carers allowance, til I called the Tax credit people to let them knwo about the DLA my daughter had started to get as I wasn't sure if they had to know , though it best be up front, the lady on the phone then told me she would send me a form and to send in wages slips as proof x

To be honest that isn't a huge amount and if your health is suffering then stopping working may be the better option. Your expenses related to work will go down and you'll be able to focus on your daughter. As they've already given you flexible hours there may be little more they can offer.

justwannabeloved

Thankyou to you all, that have taken the time to read my post and reply so far.

Im a bit teary tonight as not long got back from another hospital appointment for my daughter at our local hospital. I can see why they do need to make contact as I've been off a while, I just don't know if Im up to it.. Oh well, best to get it over with . Im not to impressed by one of the managers who is coming , she either blows hot or cold and does things her way, she didn't like the fact I went to HR to get
advice on flexiable working and providing her with a reuest in writing , then she had to back down x

gardner1

justwannabeloved wrote: »

Hi gardener1

I did wonder that. Im due back to doctors on friday, current doctors note ends this Thursday. I will of been off work 5 weeks at the end of this note. x

5 weeks isnt a long time to be on the sick is it just a case of bully boy tactics from call centre managers

as others have said why not have a friend present,as long as your happy to have them there bosses cant object

TrixieB

If you seriously think you aren't up to it - are you, forgive me for saying this but are you 100% with it? compus mentus as it were?,are you on any tablets that could affect your thinking/reaction times?
The reason I ask is that some employers are quite unscrupulous - mine are! and will try and make you think you have to resign and if you aren't thinking straight... and you may agree to a course of action that you wouldn't normally do.
I would be contacting them first thing and asking to postpone tbh as it's causing you more stress.

Uncertain

TrixieB wrote: »

They will want to dsicuss with you how you are, when you feel you will be able to return, what can they do to help you return easier, maybe ask you to sign forms allowing them access to your medical records and probably also inform you of their long term sickness policy and the dismissal procedure steps should they need to take them.

You can have ANYONE you like present even if they tell you not.

They cannot have "access to your medical records". What they can do, but only with your permission (best to agree) is to ask your doctor to write a report about how you condition may affect your work. The doctor's professional rules state that he must include the minimum medical information necessary. You have a legal right to see such a report before it is sent. The doctor will charge the firm about £180 for this.

You do not have a right to have "ANYONE you like" present (although the firm may agree to this). Your right, as I stated earlier, is limited to a work colleague of your choice or a union rep. Obviously the firm cannot tell somebody to leave your house but they could, if they were feeling pedantic, refuse to conduct the meeting if the person remains.

gardner1

"You do not have a right to have "ANYONE you like" present"

depends if its a informal chat or not
most half decent companies wouldnt object