The Ultimate Hard and Fast debt clearing mission

Cinny91

Thanks Tete and Beccie. Just glad it's all been said and I can put it all behind me now I hope at some point we can have a close thing again but I'm not really betting on it. Be weird to adjust, but my Sister says she's proud of me She's her way to America now, and I'm 99% sure her boyfriend is going to propose :T (probably jinxed that now!)

Yikes, hope your hip feels better soon, Tete. You're doing the right think resting with it, don't want to do any serious damage!

Glad you and your friend are back on speaking terms, Beccie It's crazy how much courage it takes to simply speak to someone honestly, my heart was beating so quickly when I started speaking I thought I was going to pass out!

Birdie85

Urgh, sorry you've been stuck in such a rubbish situation with your brother but glad you got it all off your chest and made him aware of where he stands. Hope he sees sense eventually, I'm sure the emotionless mask was just a front, he'll be devastated once he's had time to himself to think about what you said. Hope your gut feeling about your sister getting engaged is right, would be lovely!

I love cheese on toast (with loads of Lea and Perrins!), would be gutted if I'd gotten to my parents age and never had it! I only started eating tuna melts a few years ago and can't believe it took me so long! I have OH to thank for that!

shrimpy_80

Morning all,

So much to catch up with I don't really know where to start!

Cinny, that really sucks about your brother, and for them to have the cheek to be mean about your OH under those circumstances just takes the biscuit. I'm glad you feel better after getting everything off your chest but I guess it must still be hard.

Birdie, I think you should definitely follow up Tink's suggestion and take a packed lunch, even down to your own glass and cutlery i think we all end up with people like that in our circle and it can be very hard to know how best to handle it. My 'best friend' (it doesn't even feel right calling her that any more tbh) and I have grown apart loads over the past few years, especially since I moved. I know I have been quite poor about making the effort in a lot of ways, but I feel like she has no interest at all in my life or what I'm doing, she didn't even message me when I lost my job last year, I made a (rather cool) cake for her birthday party which she barely looked at and which sat in the kitchen all day... all little things which actually make me feel really petty writing them down! Plus there are a whole range of things relating to her OH but I would be here all day if I went into them. I feel bad because I think she is unhappy with him and I think that is what is making her such a nightmare, but it has been going on for years, she never has a nice word to say about anything or anybody and I find it really hard to deal with to be honest. Worse still, I was her bridesmaid when she married 5 years ago as we were very close then, but I definitely don't want to ask her to be mine and I'm sure she will be expecting it

Wow, sorry for the rant there! Didn't realise how much that had been festering in my brain!

shrimpy_80

Also - I love cheese and toast with vinegar, its wonderful in a slightly soggy way!

clearmydebts

Cinny - I went through a similar thing with my brother about 10 years ago. I was very friendly with his then GF and we were due to go on a girly holiday together (with 3 other friends). Before we went she confided in me about something that had happened to her in her childhood (She was drunk when she told me). I think she regretted telling me and then rang him from the holiday making up things about me. These things defo weren't true and my friends that were on holiday witnessed it all.

My brother took her side, my Dad took mine and my Mam felt like she had to support my brother because she didn't want to lose him. So this GF caused tension throughout the family as I was upset with my Mam. We didn't speak for a year and then one day he came home from the pub and started crying and said he was sorry and that he believed me. We made up and I made up with her as I don't hold grudges. In time she did apologise and admit she had made it up.

They broke up but I would chat to her if I saw her, as she was damaged and not a bad person, just messed up.

So just be there for your brother when he does come to this senses. I think you did the right thing.

shrimpy_80

cmd that's such a sad story from every angle I think its really good that you would still speak to her, its a great outlook you have.

While I'm ranting today, does anyone else share an office with someone who is absolutely lovely but never stops talking? How do you cope? I am seriously considering bringing my earplugs in from home!

ruby_eskimo

Shrimpy, I have to exact opposite problem. No one in my office talks to each other! I'm itching to have a chat and a gossip but no, all they say is "Good Morning" and then that's it till the "Good Night" at home time. If you're lucky someone might enquire as to your plans for the weekend but that's as far as it goes!

Got my last pay from my old job today and can safely say I was quite surprised! Only expected about £200 and ended up with £555 instead!

Not feeling too great today, keep coming over a bit dizzy. Hoping I don't flake out on the way to the canteeen later!

Cinny91

I am that person, Shrimpy! If it was me, I'm just used to people telling me to shut up when I've spoken enough I really can't give any decent advice though, maybe do that squinty hand gesture Ross does to Joey and Chandler on Friends?!

That's awful about your Brother, CMD So glad you made up with him though. We'll just have to see what comes of my Brother with time, I'll definitely be there if he wants to re build the bridge though. You're a better person than me though, there's too much history of nastiness with my Brother's Girlfriend for me to be able to be like that. At least I don't need to worry about them getting married, or me missing out on Nephews and Nieces!

Birdie - She's so happy with him, and he's SUCH a nice guy, I really hope so too He's been dropping major hints though. And I'll get 'cheap' trips to America!!

shrimpy_80

Cinny91 wrote: »

I really can't give any decent advice though, maybe do that squinty hand gesture Ross does to Joey and Chandler on Friends?!

Ha ha, that is exactly what I feel like doing! I know how he feels! It doesn't help that I'm crazy busy, I'm happy to chat when I'm less busy. But I'm obviously really snowed under, so why keep talking to me about planning permission for your new outbuilding...?

I am a bit of a grump at work clearly!

Fingers crossed for your sis Cinny, how exciting! My sis went to Paris last year and I was certain it was on the cards, but no dice (although I would have been really jealous as she's younger than me )

Poolie

N.I.M wrote: »

Was wondering where you'd gone old man. Man cave is coming on nicely. Hows the new house treating you?

Very well, the garden has turned into a jungle due to the weather but will be out there tonight to trim the bushes back.

Good to hear the man cave is progressing well.