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Cinny91

Tete_en_l'Air wrote: »

Oooooh, did I post on here about telling Flaky Friend about her flakiness?

Was it something about the cinema?! :undecided sounds familiar but it could have been another one of the threadies, I get confused easily Tell anyways!

Tete_en_l'Air wrote: »

Cinny Ryder is so beautiful, but at the same time has a sort of demented look in his eye

That would be down to the fact he is sort of demented

Good going on the hearts, Dinah :j Can we see them?! Pleeease

Tete_en_l'Air

Cinny91 wrote: »

Good going on the hearts, Dinah :j Can we see them?! Pleeease

Please?

Oh it wasn't too exciting in the end. She kept making arrangements with me then cancelling at the very last minute with reasons such as 'Boyfriend's friend has come over from Poland and I have to go out with them instead' - firstly, you don't HAVE TO do anything, we had plans first and secondly if he was coming over from POLAND did you not have a bit of advance notice?!

It went on for a good year, she must have cancelled on me about 15 times. We did meet up about four times but it was for things which her boyfriend wouldn't want to do - a veggie restaurant she wanted to try, or a chick flick. Any time I suggested something I wanted to do it got cancelled. Now I don't begrudge my friends having boyfriends and I know I might sound a bit jealous "Oh she spends all her time with him and not me" but that's not the case - I just don't like being messed about and dumped when we already had plans.

So, I'd decided around Xmas time to phase her out, not send messages any more or respond to hers, or be non-committal if I did. Then my Dad and aunty were both diagnosed, work was horrendous and I was just having the worst possible time from around Jan-May. She text me a couple of times and I ignored it until she finally said "Have I done somethig to upset you?" and I just said look, sorry I haven't been in touch, I've got a lot on my plate but since you ask - yes. You only seem to want to meet up when it suits you, cancel on me all the time and it hasn't been very nice to be on the end of it. She then tried to ring but I'd gone in the other room by then and missed it. She text and said she wanted to apologise in person, when she cancelled it wasn't because what we had planned didn't suit her, sorry and she's trying to stop being a sh.t friend.

I haven't replied yet (that was March) and don't know if I will TBH. We're still friends on FB and so she must have seen my Race for Life page and know exactly what's going on (ie not just me being miserable for no reason) and not got in touch again so I'm torn really. She's a lovely girl but I just can't be bothered with people like that.

Whoa, sorry for the monologue! What would you do, would you get back in touch or leave it be?

N.I.M

Not sure how to advise you on that one Tete, probs best to just go with your gut and ignore anyone else.

In unrelated news quote of the day from the office "my 12 year old daughter told me the birthday party she is going to on saturday runs from 7 to 11:30pm and she has to bring a bottle of cider."

!!!!!!?!?!?!?!?!

How about "no your not going and I'll be having words with Mr and Mrs Birthday person"

ruby_eskimo

Cinny - I cannot believe how big Ryder is now! He is absolutely adorable (though not as adorable as Grace obviously)

Tete - I had a friend like that, she was my best friend at school and college till we went to uni. We'd meet up every few months but it was always me contacting her and making the arrangements. Hadn't spoken to her for a couple of months and was wondering one day how I would tell her that I was porbably going to move away. Decided to give her a call only to find out that she'd moved out of her parents house to another town 50 odd miles away about 6 months previously and never mentionned it to me! Suffice to say we haven't spoken since then and even though I do miss her, I know she is a really flaky friend and I am probably better off without her TBH.

Actually getting the hang of this work lark. Trying to avoid being kidnapped by my boss today by saying I have things to do and then going to hide out in the canteen!

Dinah93

I do love Billingham. A whole new world of social norms which just 5 miles away make people jump out of their chair in horror.

Personally Tete I think that you've left it so long shows that you don't really want to reintroduce her, but it has to be what you feel is right.

Birdie - everyone has to buy beer and burgers to go to this party and you only want to go because you want to see your friends, none of whom want to go either? Tell them just to come to yours instead (but obviously don't tell greedy bbq couple). Life is far too short to feel obligated to see people you don't like.

N.I.M

Yes and send 10% of the beer n burgers to us as our consultancy fee

Cinny91

Tete_en_l'Air wrote: »

Whoa, sorry for the monologue! What would you do, would you get back in touch or leave it be?

Personally, I'd leave it be. She's had since March to make an effort with you, and in my eyes you aren't in the wrong here. It's up to her. But if you have a niggling feeling to make touch and that you still want to be friends, go with that. How is your Dad atm anyways? Keep thinking about him, hoping he's doing well

Remembered this morning my Brother owes me £10. Absolutely torn because I want the money, but I'm 100% not wanting to get in touch with him. Hitting home how annoyed I am with them though, it's been 3 days since the incident and I'm normally willing to forgive and forget for the sake of seeing my Brother. :undecided OH says it isn't worth upsetting myself again for £10, but I want it! That's like, half a weeks shopping bill

Ditto what Dinah said about the BBQ, Birdie!

And thanks Ruby His colouring is going super wolfy at the moment, and he walks with slinky shoulders and his head drooped down. I keep telling people he's my little Direwolf. I need a life!

Tete_en_l'Air

Dinah93 wrote: »

I do love Billingham. A whole new world of social norms which just 5 miles away make people jump out of their chair in horror.

It is most certainly NOT the norm, I think NIM's colleague needs to have a look at who their child is hanging about with.

Yes, I do think I've left it too long now to really go back, and I don't really miss her, just dread bumping into her - saw her bro the other day in town and pretended I hadn't and it was a bit cringy. That is so strange about your friend Ruby! Must have been embarrassing you calling her house like that (for you and her parents) - but I guess it shows how much she cares!

EDIT - Cinny - Dad is doing well thanks, put all his weight back on now he's on his diabetes meds (plus some, thanks to his new found love of cheese on toast) and only really gets under the weather the day after his chemo, full of energy otherwise so just keeping our fingers crossed that the chemo continues to do its thing

N.I.M

Tete_en_l'Air wrote: »

It is most certainly NOT the norm, I think NIM's colleague needs to have a look at who their child is hanging about with.

Apparently its a new bit shes just added on and has been told not a hope but I just found the quote amusing.

wendz86

Afternoon all,

Feeling slightly better today but tooth still hurting, ah well dentist tomorrow.

Tete - i had a friend who did a similar thing and we ended up falling out for about a year . Funilly enough the guy she ditched us all for turned out to be a nasty piece of work. I decided to forgive her anyway as i don't like falling out with people. I would say in your situation if you are likely to see her in social situations then maybe let her apologise so things are ok, if not then she doesn't really sound worth it.

Cinny - arghh about the money, thats a difficult one.My friend owes me a tenner as i put in extra for my friends birthday present as she was away and i'm too scared to tell her she owes me although i know she will pay it lol.

Birdie - oh no not those friends! I think the suggestion to not take anything is a good one.