Mr right turning in to mr wrong :-(

adamantine

OP if you only work part time and you end it with him and kick him out how will you afford the house on your own?

he is being more than reasonable with what he has contributed to YOUR home over the last 6 years. i think you need to look at what is really important.

are you actually struggling financially or are you just scared of having to struggle? big big difference between the 2. its simple enough to get a nice buffer in place if you already have excess cash but quite difficult to get out of debt.

ceegee

OP....I am surprised that he has stayed with you for this long.

You work part-time; he works full time; he pays half of all house expenses and yet you won't have his name on the deeds and you "disapprove" of how he spends the rest of his money.

Unless there is something that you haven't told us, the you are obviously just using him for money.

Poor bloke..........is he aware that he is being used in this way?

halibut2209

I feel sorry for the poor guy. Regardless of what the OP may or may not have said about the situation, her attitude and disdain towards him is plain enough to see.

Obviously he can't see this, so please do him a favour and ask him to leave.

FBaby

your problem is that there are share finances mixed with a clear message that finances are totally separate. You can't have it both ways. Either your house is YOUR house, you both have separate accounts, you agree on how much he pays towards the bills and each manages their finances separately, or, you join your finances and all decisions on what the money goes on (except for what is agreed to be each) needs to be discussed.

You seem to want your cake and eat it. You seem keen to keep the mortgage under your name only to protect yourself financially. That's fair enough, but surely you are not expecting your partner to contribute towards the house? Why would you partner be prepared to invest in a property that would most likely bring nothing if you separated?

I guess the question in the end is: Is he blowing money that is his own (in which case he does what he wants), or that is money that was agreed to be put into a common budget?