Mr right turning in to mr wrong :-(

McKneff

As long as he is paying his fair share of the bills then what he does with his money is up to him.

Were you this controlling with your other partners.

Big turn off.

dawn1974

McKneff wrote: »

As long as he is paying his fair share of the bills then what he does with his money is up to him.

Were you this controlling with your other partners.

Big turn off.

I agree I am quite controlling but I have struggled financially through most of my life.

I am not prepared to struggle anymore and if it means ending this relationship because I feel that it is going to make my life a struggle them maybe it is best that we separate.

McKneff

But why is it a struggle if you are getting half the bills paid.

Struggle in what way

DUTR

dawn1974 wrote: »

I agree I am quite controlling but I have struggled financially through most of my life.

I am not prepared to struggle anymore and if it means ending this relationship because I feel that it is going to make my life a struggle them maybe it is best that we separate.

Perhaps that maybe the best course of action.
If the house belonged to both of you, then I could see your point more so.

jamespir

dawn1974 wrote: »

I agree I am quite controlling but I have struggled financially through most of my life.

I am not prepared to struggle anymore and if it means ending this relationship because I feel that it is going to make my life a struggle them maybe it is best that we separate.

ok heres how i see sorry if you get offended

You have been treated bad in the past and have felt less financially superior compared to your partners/husbands and have struggled and therfore have decided you dont want to happen again

but maybe you have to accept some of us struggle yes its is annoying to see people spending like they dont have a care in the world
but some of us do instead of nagging your partner just see if you can come to a compromise in (a nice way ) other wise youl push him away and then youll regret it

dawn1974

McKneff wrote: »

But why is it a struggle if you are getting half the bills paid.

Struggle in what way

He has to work a week to pay his loan and I only work part-time.

The house needs a new kitchen and my partner agreed that we would save up for it then he starts handing money out to anybody that asks and I feel that he is not committed to me and our future.

Oldernotwiser

It really would help people to understand the situation if you could be clear whether he pays his share of the bills or even if he subsidises your bills. Although the mortgage is only in your name, do you pay it on your own or do you split it?

dawn1974

Oldernotwiser wrote: »

It really would help people to understand the situation if you could be clear whether he pays his share of the bills or even if he subsidises your bills. Although the mortgage is only in your name, do you pay it on your own or do you split it?

We both pay equally into the house but I think he is pleasing other people before he pleases me.

lad81

Sorry if this sounds out of turn, but,

He pays half the monthly outgoings whilst not being on the mortgage, he agrees to work being carried out on "your" home with the agreement of your neighbour obviously (if the handyman is being honest) to maintain your home.

He loans money to a family member, and you are peed off?

You do sound quite controlling, he works full time and you work part time, as long as the main bills are paid then surely what he does with any spare money is his business, especially when it includes maintaining your home??

Perhaps you would prefer him him to hand over all money to you and then you give him pocket money?

crazyguy

My suggestion to kerb his spending, Ta da