no food at evening reception?

White_Sapphire

PinkPrincess83 wrote: »

Thank you for this White Sapphire- I may pinch the 'light buffet' part. We are getting married at 3 and will be providing a cold meat buffet to our day guests (approx 45) at 5.30 ish then we will be having an evening buffet, I imagine 8.30/ 9 where there will be about 110 people but I was hoping to cater for a max of 75 because of budget restrictions, so I may put this in the invites.

You're welcome! Our timings are pretty much identical actually, so hopefully it'll work out well I have been told that you never need to cater for 100% of the guests for a buffet, especially if it's not the main meal.

vax2002

Makes me laugh ?
Who would normally have a meal between 8-11 ?
But get invited and all of a sudden everyone is starving to death because there is no free meal provided in a time slot you dont normally eat in anyway ...

PinkPrincess83

WHite Sapphire- i have heard that aswell, i heard you should cater for 80%- but ill be doing a bit less, but we will also have a sweetie buffet and a cupcake tower so im sure people wont go hungry! i think im getting married just before (28th July) so ill make sure I report back how the timing went.:D

Torry_Quine

vax2002 wrote: »

Makes me laugh ?
Who would normally have a meal between 8-11 ?
But get invited and all of a sudden everyone is starving to death because there is no free meal provided in a time slot you dont normally eat in anyway ...

It's not a meal though. It's usually something like sandwiches, soup or stovies here and when people are drinking and or dancing by 10pm they need something.

Giggles_Fairy

isnt is standard form for any party (inc 21st etc0 that the evening starts at 7.30ish, buffet usually served at 9ish then dancing till late! Its definately expected where I come from and I would hope to be told otherwise if not, Im not bothered, I can eat before but I dont as as far as I am aware the person holding the party has spent good money on food so it would be rude to turn up and not have any!

Saying that after a run of bad luck where buffets are concerned. Including a 21st where the 'buffet' was cheese and crackers, a wedding that had a 3pm reception so was followed by a hot buffet at 6.30 for everyone instead of formal meal as no seperate evening guests were coming where the food ran out before our table and 2 others were called up, and finally a buffet at a fancy centery celebration party where you were allowed strictly one of the six choices of small sized food... I have now took the having clarification before attending a party!

Idiophreak

POPPYOSCAR wrote: »

This can put a big strain on a couple as it can spiral out of control.

I know a young person who thought this as well. Told everyone the borrowings were well covered by the wages - until they lost their job and are now officially declared as bankrupt.

It spirals out of control? So they just keep having more and more weddings, you mean?

vax2002 wrote: »

Makes me laugh ?
Who would normally have a meal between 8-11 ?
But get invited and all of a sudden everyone is starving to death because there is no free meal provided in a time slot you dont normally eat in anyway ...

Err, I quite often have dinner between 8 and 9...

scheming_gypsy

Idiophreak wrote: »

Err, I quite often have dinner between 8 and 9...

you should have dinner at lunch time not tea time.

Idiophreak

scheming_gypsy wrote: »

you should have dinner at lunch time not tea time.

really? why?

LEJC

xxDextersMummyxx wrote: »

were having huge buffet in evening, and a seprate kids buffet, why would you not? :-/

....if there were only a few guests at the wedding then I think there could be a lot leftover...thats why I would not...

Sorry I still believe that every wedding is individual...and there should be no "set" way to do anything...therefore if as the wedding couple in this thread choose to put on only wedding cake as the food then thats presumably because thats their perogative to do so.

I agree that "fashions" change and some people may remember the evening buffets of a yesteryear containing a large spread...I admit we catered a large buffet for 250 at our evening do...so im not against food!...but I also think that is wrong to look down on the couple who choose to offer substantially less...and ive been to some lovely non traditional hog roasts and cheese receptions...if someone I cared about cared enough to invite me to share there special day i'd be happy to take my own picnic if thats what they wanted!

As a guest I see it as sharing a very special and significant time in someones life....and at the end of it I take away memories of the happy couple rather than what I ate...

burnoutbabe

I'd have been happy to take my own picnic if that was what they wanted.

I just was suprised to see no food provided. One couldn't stock up on cake (I assumed one sliver of cake per person and to take more would be rude and deprive someone else of their piece), buying crisps or peanuts at the bar would be indicating one was hungry and therefore rude, and as it was a work night, drinking more was also not an option.

Its pretty unusual to not have any food at an event you host, even if its just big bags of crisps and those sort of snacks.