MSE Pregnancy Club 23

Bumpmakesfour

Lauralou wrote: »

Thank you very much for the offer but the size isn't any good:)

Thank you ladies,think i may make a trip to matalan sometime soon.

Have a midwife appointment tomorrow.
I told OH yesterday that i will need to start to write my birth plan out soon. He said 'go to hospital, have baby, come home' i said i wish it was that simple!:rotfl:

Ohh you're due the day before me:D LOVE your hubbys simplistic view of labour!If only!!:rotfl::rotfl:

Winnie_in_Pooh

Lauralou wrote: »

Thank you very much for the offer but the size isn't any good:)

I told OH yesterday that i will need to start to write my birth plan out soon. He said 'go to hospital, have baby, come home' i said i wish it was that simple!:rotfl:

No problems

I laughed at my midwife when she told me we're writing a birth plan at my next appointment (38 weeks, bit late IMO) - I agree entirely with your OH! I'm completely not bothered about the semantics of how baby arrives! Midwife doesn't believe me though so I guess she'll find out the hard way

With regards to routine, baby will fit in with us and if he doesn't then he'll learn! I certainly hope movement isn't an indicator of what he'll be like as a newborn because I'll never get any sleep if thats the case lol!

mr_knight

I've been told to read the contented little baby. I believe Gina whatsherface is very strict. I've not read it. I like the idea of routine but not if you can't be flexible IYSWIM.

I have gone for the Amby natures nest in the end. That will be night time and I have the pram carry cot for day time at first. I was given a moses basket but buying a new matress is almost as expensive as buying a whole new thing so doubt I'll use it. I like the cosleeper cot but I worry because OH has a bad habbit of getting hot and flinging the duvet over me or off the bed myside, I'd worry too much about baby. They do look fab though.

Bumpmakesfour

Winnie_in_Pooh wrote: »

I laughed at my midwife when she told me we're writing a birth plan at my next appointment (38 weeks, bit late IMO) - I agree entirely with your OH! I'm completely not bothered about the semantics of how baby arrives! Midwife doesn't believe me though so I guess she'll find out the hard way

Ahh the birth plans.I diligently wrote one out for my first born.Serene images of birthing pools and minimal pain relief..cue back to back labour,hoiked out of birthing pool with distressed baby,failed ventouse and off to theatre.
Still,decided to be positive and wrote plan for number two,who was due xmas day.Well the little monkey decided to pop out 3 months early in september after an ambulance dash and a crash c-section.
So didn't bother doing a plan for number 3 and the only word that'd appear on any plan for this bump is EPIDURAL!! :rotfl::rotfl:

lovecrafting

I am my own worst nightmare when it comes to routine tho to be honest, for example when i had the youngest i had every intention of using the breastfeeding chair to feed her at night then put her back into the moses basket, that lasted about three days and then when she would cry in the night for a feed i grabbed her, put her on the breast and fell asleep in my bed with her still there next morning, in the end we ended up with blankets rolled up so she didnt get squashed and a semi perminent place in bed with us, that lasted until she slept thru, when she went into her cot we didnt have issues with her not going into her own bed or anything she was fine as long as she understood it was sleeping time and what was expected of her. I am more for family led routines than baby led routines, i cant imagine having a noce neat routine for the baby then having things to do and upsetting that routine. we are far to spontanius for that, if we want to go to blackpool for the day we dont want to be worrying about being back for 4pm so the baby can have her daily swaddle time or whatever it is for that time of day, also my kids will be 5 miles away from school once we move, so a 10 mile round trip wont fit into any routine.

lovecrafting

Bumpmakesfour wrote: »

Ahh the birth plans.I diligently wrote one out for my first born.Serene images of birthing pools and minimal pain relief..cue back to back labour,hoiked out of birthing pool with distressed baby,failed ventouse and off to theatre.
Still,decided to be positive and wrote plan for number two,who was due xmas day.Well the little monkey decided to pop out 3 months early in september after an ambulance dash and a crash c-section.
So didn't bother doing a plan for number 3 and the only word that'd appear on any plan for this bump is EPIDURAL!! :rotfl::rotfl:

have you ever had an epidural before? whats it like, i have only ever had home births, well one hospital car park birth and 2 home births but i am seriously debating one this time because i labour in my back and its not what it used to be. i dont know what to think of epidurals, i know with the others i had nothing so feel a bit bad for even debating one this time.

Skint_Catt

My antenatal class teacher put me off Gina Ford totally - did you know she's never had her own children so how the hell can she lecture people on how to get theirs into a routine? I've also been told that you have to do it to the letter or not at all so you can never have a life outside of the baby's routine - sod that for a lark! I've always been a crap sleeper because Mom always made sure it was dark & quiet for all my naps - Giblet will be hoovered around and blinds not shut for daytime naps. If they're tired they will sleep! Does that sound cruel?

Having said that I have NOT thought out a routine for this little one - I have no experience of babies so have NO IDEA what to do once they are here - antenatal was worse than useless - didn't teach us how to change a nappy (except not to use talc) or how to bathe or anything practical! Should I start to at least think of a routine for bedtime? (I don't believe newborns should be bathed EVERY night so that'll go to top & tailing I suppose).

We have a Moses basket next to the bed/downstairs for however long that'll last (aswell as the pram carrycot I suppose) and a cotbed for when they move into their own bedroom.

Giblet wakes late afternoon and pretty much has a final hissy fit about 11pm before settling down, though I do feel it about 6am - 10am but only if I lie on my right side in bed!

I knew I should have logged on last night - I had heartburn and tried to sleep sitting up which didn't work too well though at least I had the bed to myself (DH had a gig so was staying at his Dad's) - I got up at 4am to get my Tums but kept falling asleep with them in my mouth and kept waking up with the powder drying out my tongue! :rotfl:

OH's on his way home - I know he'll want to go to the DIY or do something connected with the house (we're moved in comfirtably but there's a few little jobs to do) - is it wrong I want to forget about the house (it's useable!) and just do something together that we won't be able to do with a screaming baby? I'm dreading being pretty much housebound or not being able to stay out all day for months because we have to get back for Giblet's bath/bed etc.

Oh and I refuse to do a borth plan - no-one I've spoken to has had anything like what they would have liked so it's pointless as long as me & Giblet are fit & healthy at the end of it! Midwife hasn't even mentioned it to me and I'm over 38 weeks now.

Ok, bad sleep panicing day by the looks of it!

C xx

Bumpmakesfour

lovecrafting wrote: »

have you ever had an epidural before? whats it like, i have only ever had home births, well one hospital car park birth and 2 home births but i am seriously debating one this time because i labour in my back and its not what it used to be. i dont know what to think of epidurals, i know with the others i had nothing so feel a bit bad for even debating one this time.

Hiya hun,I had an epidural with all 3.First time was after about 22 hours of back to back labour and I kid you not I could have married that anaesthetist!!Second time was for my prem and they agreed to one try so I could be awake in theatre,luckily got it in first go.Third one I was booked in for a section but allowed to try natural for 5 hours.They gave me an epidural so if I needed to go into theatre quickly I was prepped and ready.
I won't deny I don't "do" labour very well and get quite irrational with the pain so for me personally it is absolutely fab to be comfortable and enjoy the birth.I know it's not everyones cup of tea but works for me xx

lovecrafting

Skint_Catt wrote: »

My antenatal class teacher put me off Gina Ford totally - did you know she's never had her own children so how the hell can she lecture people on how to get theirs into a routine? I've also been told that you have to do it to the letter or not at all so you can never have a life outside of the baby's routine - sod that for a lark! I've always been a crap sleeper because Mom always made sure it was dark & quiet for all my naps - Giblet will be hoovered around and blinds not shut for daytime naps. If they're tired they will sleep! Does that sound cruel?

its always good to vacume round them etc, at the end of the day if you are all quiet and make it perminently quiet for them they will become really light sleepers as you say, i vacumed around all my kids when they were sleeping, played music, talked on the phone etc but at night i made sure it was quiet, now they will fall asleep if i have the tv on music on or whatever.

Having said that I have NOT thought out a routine for this little one - I have no experience of babies so have NO IDEA what to do once they are here - antenatal was worse than useless - didn't teach us how to change a nappy (except not to use talc) or how to bathe or anything practical! Should I start to at least think of a routine for bedtime? (I don't believe newborns should be bathed EVERY night so that'll go to top & tailing I suppose).

a bedtime routine is handy to have, more for as they are getting a little older, if they have there bedtime feed then a bath (or wash) changed nappy and clothes, into bedroom for the sleep it does help as they get that bit older. I used to find, doing everything upstairs after the night feed helped to distinguish between waking time and sleeping time.

We have a Moses basket next to the bed/downstairs for however long that'll last (aswell as the pram carrycot I suppose) and a cotbed for when they move into their own bedroom.

Giblet wakes late afternoon and pretty much has a final hissy fit about 11pm before settling down, though I do feel it about 6am - 10am but only if I lie on my right side in bed!



I knew I should have logged on last night - I had heartburn and tried to sleep sitting up which didn't work too well though at least I had the bed to myself (DH had a gig so was staying at his Dad's) - I got up at 4am to get my Tums but kept falling asleep with them in my mouth and kept waking up with the powder drying out my tongue! :rotfl:

OH's on his way home - I know he'll want to go to the DIY or do something connected with the house (we're moved in comfirtably but there's a few little jobs to do) - is it wrong I want to forget about the house (it's useable!) and just do something together that we won't be able to do with a screaming baby? I'm dreading being pretty much housebound or not being able to stay out all day for months because we have to get back for Giblet's bath/bed etc.

Ok, bad sleep panicing day by the looks of it!

dont worry about bath and bed times honestly, the baby will fit in with your life not the other way round, if you are out at the shopping centre, bathtime can still happen when you get home and they will still sleep in the carseat/pram honestly it isnt llike you are attached to your house for months, you will get out more than you think, and its inportant to do so aswel to keep yourself sane, being in all the time day in day out with nothing but a small person isnt good for you.

lovecrafting

Bumpmakesfour wrote: »

Hiya hun,I had an epidural with all 3.First time was after about 22 hours of back to back labour and I kid you not I could have married that anaesthetist!!Second time was for my prem and they agreed to one try so I could be awake in theatre,luckily got it in first go.Third one I was booked in for a section but allowed to try natural for 5 hours.They gave me an epidural so if I needed to go into theatre quickly I was prepped and ready.
I won't deny I don't "do" labour very well and get quite irrational with the pain so for me personally it is absolutely fab to be comfortable and enjoy the birth.I know it's not everyones cup of tea but works for me xx

thank you hun i appreciate that i am edging towards trying an epidural and enjoying it, its going to be my last baby so i think enjoying it as much as i can is a good thing, can you still feel the baby comming out tho or is it completley numb€?