So confused

TheTruthMachine

I don't do marriage! Too young!

She was talking about would happen after sign off, she is worried I'll leave her when I move on to the next project

**Patty**

:rotfl::rotfl:

Lotus ...Ya spoilsport:p


Seriously, I would be happy for my daughter to meet someone who is capable of treating her as an equal. I'd prefer it if, he had the capability to do well in life as obviously i hope she will be providing me with Grandchildren:D and i would like for her not to have to work whilst they are young, if that is what she would choose.

BUT....when it comes down to it......it's her choice....i don't have to live with him.:D

But if you think i have rottweiler-like tendancies....you should meet my OH :rotfl:

TheTruthMachine

**Patty** wrote: »

:rotfl::rotfl:

Lotus ...Ya spoilsport:p


Seriously, I would be happy for my daughter to meet someone who is capable of treating her as an equal. I'd prefer it if, he had the capability to do well in life as obviously i hope she will be providing me with Grandchildren:D and i would like for her not to have to work whilst they are young, if that is what she would choose.

BUT....when it comes down to it......it's her choice....i don't have to live with him.:D

But if you think i have rottweiler-like tendancies....you should meet my OH :rotfl:

So they will be impressed by my job and such?

So is your other half worse at these meets? I'm scared as to what to expect. Never really done this before!

Can you shed light on them wanting me to go down there all the time instead of her coming up here and us alternating?

NiallB

TheTruthMachine wrote: »

As for the chat with the parents. Why would they want to know my earnings? Do you openly ask "How much you on?" Should I take P60's Credit reports haha :P

The interogation err meet does scare me! Should I take gifts?

Yep, and details of your pension fund

Bottle of wine for Dad, bunch of flowers for Mum. If you get Mum on side you'll have no problems

TheTruthMachine

NiallB wrote: »

Yep, and details of your pension fund

Bottle of wine for Dad, bunch of flowers for Mum. If you get Mum on side you'll have no problems

haha I actually have my work and private ones!

So its mum I need to impress? What about her dad?

I'm just confused by it all. Will they really grill me that bad?

**Patty**

My OH greets them at the door. If they get over the doormat, they stand a chance of a second date. :rotfl: But my DD isn't 23, she's 16.

Is she an only child or the eldest? I'd say, as a mum, it's the travelling on her own......particularly if they are not used to cities. Without knowing their lifestyle, it's difficult to say.

This is a personal thing : I wouldn't necessarily be impressed by your job. I'll try & explain. My parents (back then) were impressed by my first husband. He talked the talk & had a good salary.....however, he could never hold down a job for longer than about 3 months (typical salesman). My second husband drives a forklift in a warehouse. He's been in his job for 26 years. He also has equal academic achievements to mine.

Guess which marriage has lasted:D It's not , for me, about how much you earn it's about how equal you are matched. But as i said before i started waffling.......that is something personal to me & i accept not everyone works that way.

Plenty of time to worry about the serious stuff later tho.......

Bumpmakesfour

Can I say one thing..being all mother hen like here but!!...you're putting SOO much time and energy into worrying,being so concerned with the what ifs..are you actually leaving yourself any energy to ENJOY these new found feelings?I remember those days,they were amazing,make the most of them and just go with the flow hun..relax xxxxx

LadyMorticia

So glad it went well for you.

My DH and I had a long-distance relationship when we first started going out.
We lived 160 miles apart (DH in Somerset and myself in Cambridgeshire).
We started going out in November 2008. I moved to be with him in February 2009. We were engaged in August 2009 and married in October 2010.

Alot of people said we were moving too fast but I had nothing to lose by moving here. I didn't have anything holding me back and it was a risk I was willing to take.
We've been together for almost 3 years now (and will be celebrating our 1 year wedding anniversary next month).

The parents will probably just want to make sure that you're not going to hurt their daughter. It depends on which parent will be worse. If she's a daddy's girl, then it might be the dad.

All in all, just be yourself. You're not going to do yourself any favours by pretending to be someone you're not.

TheTruthMachine

**Patty** wrote: »

My OH greets them at the door. If they get over the doormat, they stand a chance of a second date. :rotfl: But my DD isn't 23, she's 16.

Is she an only child or the eldest? I'd say, as a mum, it's the travelling on her own......particularly if they are not used to cities. Without knowing their lifestyle, it's difficult to say.

This is a personal thing : I wouldn't necessarily be impressed by your job. I'll try & explain. My parents (back then) were impressed by my first husband. He talked the talk & had a good salary.....however, he could never hold down a job for longer than about 3 months (typical salesman). My second husband drives a forklift in a warehouse. He's been in his job for 26 years. He also has equal academic achievements to mine.

Guess which marriage has lasted:D It's not , for me, about how much you earn it's about how equal you are matched. But as i said before i started waffling.......that is something personal to me & i accept not everyone works that way.

Plenty of time to worry about the serious stuff later tho.......

She is the eldest. We just clicked as soon as we met

So if your daughter was 23 and said "I'm going to Manchester for the weekend, back sunday" Would you want the low down on the guy? Like know everything first? I'm just panicing as to what shes told them

I've had many jobs but for the same company, I've been progressing up the ladder. Been here for 4 years, Started off in the same job as her then moved up to TM, DM, then over to project management.

I don't go Hi I'm TTM I earn x amount I like pizza

Would you appreciate gifts.

Bumpmakesfour wrote: »

Can I say one thing..being all mother hen like here but!!...you're putting SOO much time and energy into worrying,being so concerned with the what ifs..are you actually leaving yourself any energy to ENJOY these new found feelings?I remember those days,they were amazing,make the most of them and just go with the flow hun..relax xxxxx

I always worry

TheTruthMachine

LadyMorticia wrote: »

So glad it went well for you.

My DH and I had a long-distance relationship when we first started going out.
We lived 160 miles apart (DH in Somerset and myself in Cambridgeshire).
We started going out in November 2008. I moved to be with him in February 2009. We were engaged in August 2009 and married in October 2010.

Alot of people said we were moving too fast but I had nothing to lose by moving here. I didn't have anything holding me back and it was a risk I was willing to take.
We've been together for almost 3 years now (and will be celebrating out 1 year wedding anniversary next month).

The parents will probably just want to make sure that you're not going to hurt their daughter. It depends on which parent will be worse. If she's a daddy's girl, then it might be the dad.

All in all, just be yourself. You're not going to do yourself any favours by pretending to be someone you're not.

Aww

They think I'll hurt her? I'd never do that I think she is a daddys girl.

I am being myself. I hate when people are fake. I just want people to like me for being me.