I feel like I want to run away from my family...

Raksha

I've felt like this - the only reason I don't do it is financial. I fancy a break in one of these
Just me and my dogs.............;)

CDC2011

I went here:
http://www.salgarhotels.com/en/four-star-hotel-minorca-salgar.html

My grandparents have been going for 25+ years, my parents and I for around 12 years and it hasn't really changed. The staff are lovely, the resort is clean and quiet - quite literally nothing to do unless you're prepared to get a car or use the bus to venture out of the resort.

I wouldn't have wanted to go anywhere else. Menorca in general is a nice quiet location if you're seriously considering a break and are unsure where to go. There isn't much to do on the island, definately not a party scene, and its only a 2-3 hour flight from the uk.

DarlingBuds

Raksha wrote: »

I've felt like this - the only reason I don't do it is financial. I fancy a break in one of these
Just me and my dogs.............;)

OMG!! when do I move in!!!

mrcow

DarlingBuds wrote: »

'In the end I talked with my hubby and we agreed that I could go on holiday alone. I said I felt that I couldn't deal with my 'issues' whilst my life was still happening around me, I needed to be somewhere else for a while'

I did this a couple of years ago literally to the other side of the world (took just one of my children) and it completely changed my life around following a particularly dark time. Looking back, I can see two people......the "pre-trip" me and the "post trip" me.

My advice if you're going to do this is to go somewhere you've always dreamed of going, then turn it into a reality.

DarlingBuds

Hovel_lady wrote: »

Sounds like your sub-consious is trying to tell you something.
Can you get some time for yourself to work out what?

You're not the only who feels this. I've been feeling like that for ages and finally admitted to myself that I didn't want to be with my OH.
We've now split up and I'm sorting out moving out and the rest of it.
It's painful but I feel such a sense of relief I know I made the right decision.

Good luck with working out what you need to do x

I spoke with OH today and felt that we weren't clicking. We went around the houses talking about what he wants from me as a person and him telling me to be a good mother etc etc

I love him to pieces but feel I don't have a relationship with him, not our family, just us.

When you take away the house, kids, money, friends, interests etc, what do we have?

I can't see my life ever without him, but just feel a bit constricted sometimes.

I think I might be too scared to go away on my own though... eek!

Hovel_lady

DarlingBuds wrote: »

I spoke with OH today and felt that we weren't clicking. We went around the houses talking about what he wants from me as a person and him telling me to be a good mother etc etc

I love him to pieces but feel I don't have a relationship with him, not our family, just us.

When you take away the house, kids, money, friends, interests etc, what do we have?

I can't see my life ever without him, but just feel a bit constricted sometimes.

I think I might be too scared to go away on my own though... eek!

I'm scared too but it's the right decision for me.
I realised I couldn't live the rest of my life with someone I didn't love anymore.
We don't have children but we do have a house, debts and a dog to sort out.

Can you find out what would make you feel less constricted?
xx

DarlingBuds

Well obviously I think a lot of it has to do with my depression, but as i said to him today, when I've had a good day or done something brilliant, he just nods.
If I come up with plans for our future or to get myself out of this pit, he's quite negative and says things like 'why bother'?
I know it must be hard living with me, but I fight every day not to show it's beaten me, but I feel he thinks deep down I can't do it.

He even comments on what he had to do years ago i.e. walking on egg shells, but I probably changed my personality at least twice since then - it's like he hasn't moved on with me

SingleSue

I often feel like I could run away from everything but I know I can't as the sole carer to my boys..which then makes me feel even more trapped.

When it gets to that point, I generally go to my bedroom (if it is safe to do so), or bundle the boys into the car and go for a drive somewhere as the boys enjoy a drive and it allows me to have some thinking time.

For me there is no escape, no chance to go away on a holiday or break on my own...I have to keep on the merry go round.

DarlingBuds

Do you have friends and family to help?

SingleSue

For very odd occasions yes and for an hour or two....but I need to save up babysitting duties for the really important stuff like doctors appointments etc.