OS Friday 12th JANUARY

lil_me

Nothing wrong with that dlb, I think you are brilliant, such a happy ending to what could have been quite tragic if you haddn't stepped up, I can understand why you told DS2, especially with the ages being so close there was bound to be questions at some point even if you didn't want to tell him. Also is nice to hear your sister is still a part of his life. Sounds like one of those lovely happy ever after stories you never think you will hear of in real life. Your DH I am sure is as proud of you as you are of him, and rightly so. Hope it always continues to be a happily ever after story

moggins

LOL, you know what they say about He who is without sin cast the first stone?

I have 3 children, 22, 13 and 5! All with separate fathers and all within wedlock! Yes I have been married 3 times (how stoopid am I?)

DH's Stepmum is also his auntie - His mum died when he was 18 and his dad then went on to marry his wife's sister. (who is MIL to me and Nanna to DD) and is a truly wonderful woman.

So if you are thinking your family is complicated!

dlb

Thank you, i am so pleased at how it has all turned out, we ( me and dh) knew at some point the kids would work this out for thereselves, hence the reason we told him, luckly because of where their b/days fall they are in different years at school one in june one in nov. So that made it easier to cover up for so long.
My sister had another baby 3 years after ds2 was born, which her and i were worried about how we were going to explain, she has been with her new sons dad for 5 years now, and he did ask questions but was so grown up about it.
I asked my sister not to ask for him back as it would break my heart, and she said she knew he had a better life with me and would dream off taking himback as she knew he was better off here.

lil_me

Family, I don't want to even go there, some scary things in the closet of mine aswell! I'd give myself a headache typing all of it out!

Don't think I will ever be brave enough to marry once, never mind 3 times, sorry sinful I know but weddings scare me.

Part of the scared about weddings is the thought of putting mine and DPs families all in one room. Just asking for trouble, that's why the children were not Christened.

Bargain_Rzl

dlb wrote:

I know confusing even more so when i say the age different between ds 2 and 3 is 5 months!!

My dad found out quite by chance about a year ago that his cousin is really his brother (also a case of mother very young and unmarried, so child adopted and brought up by elder sister & BIL - and this was in the 40's in an Irish immigrant family). Like your kids, there is 5 months between this man and his "sister". The weird thing is, in fifty years, nobody who didn't know the full story ever noticed the inconsistency in their ages. My dad always just assumed that his aunt's children were twins!

dlb

We have been asked on many a occasion are they twins?? And sometimes it was easier to say yes.
Thank you for being so understanding!!!
I get the most awfull looks from people when they find out im only 29 (30 in 4 weeks) and have 4 kids, if only they knew the full story.
I dont care though im happy my kids are happy and so dont care what people think!!

lil_me

I think it happens a lot more than is realised, I knew a guy same as Annie really who found out his Mam was his Grandma when he was 18, unfortunately didn't end as happy.

My friends had her grandchild since was 13 months, calls her Mam, but calls the Dad Dad (ladies son) and the Grandad Grandad, which I doubt will last much longer before it is questioned. Has asked once when was much younger and the Grandmother said she is both, Mam and Nana. She gets some strange looks in shops when the little one shouts Mam at her, then Dad at the real Dad.

dlb - too right, if you're happy and they are, oh and your DH lets not forget that one, who cares what others think!

moggins

lil_me wrote:

Don't think I will ever be brave enough to marry once, never mind 3 times, sorry sinful I know but weddings scare me.
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LOL lil_me, I don't give a monkey's about the sin, I lived with all of my husbands before I married them, I just happened to work as a legal secretary specialising in Family Law. I'd seen so many horror stories of what could happen to women who hadn't had their relationships formalised that whenever there was a possibility of a child entering the picture I got married first

dlb

moggins wrote:

LOL lil_me, I don't give a monkey's about the sin, I lived with all of my husbands before I married them, I just happened to work as a legal secretary specialising in Family Law. I'd seen so many horror stories of what could happen to women who hadn't had their relationships formalised that whenever there was a possibility of a child entering the picture I got married first

:rotfl: :rotfl: :rotfl: :rotfl:

lil_me

Same here, not personally bothered about the sin bit, not a religious person myself, and when my DP was asked by a Priest recently what religion he followed he said 'Jedi' :rotfl: says it all doesn't it.