OS Friday 12th JANUARY

dlb

Thank you a reply, i thought i maybe shouldnt have said anything then for a minute!!!
Mature is not the word, he was amazing especially as i had to tell him my sister was his`real` mum.
It was one of the worst yet also the best moments iv ever been through, the fact he loved us as mum and dad no matter what i had told him made me ...
unbeliveable proud of him.

dlb

Oh im crying now trying not to let dh and kids see!!

lil_me

dlb wrote:

Oh im crying now crying not to let dh and kids see!!

Awww bless you, grab them and hug them, I would, discussions like this make me teary eyed aswell, realising what the children have achieved and how proud I am of them your DS2 sounds like a brilliant young lad, and no doubt a credit to you and your DH, I hope my friends Grandaughter takes it as well when she tells her she isn't her Mam, she's been considering when for a while now.

dlb

moggins wrote:

DLB - I think that's lovely I have all sorts of questions but I'm not going to be nosey and ask any of them?

Please ask away anything, it made me feel better talking about it at the time, and i feel i needed to tell you guys as i tell you everything else.lol

moggins

DLB - would you ever be hurt if he one day wanted to trace his birth parents? (obviously I don't know the circumstances and they may not be there to trace) the reason I ask is that a friend was adopted and he has never traced his birth mother for fear of hurting his parents but I know it eats away at him not knowing?

Sorry, I missed your above post there! Ignore that question

anniebooklover

dlb wrote:

Thank you a reply, i thought i maybe shouldnt have said anything then for a minute!!!
Mature is not the word, he was amazing especially as i had to tell him my sister was his`real` mum.
It was one of the worst yet also the best moments iv ever been through, the fact he loved us as mum and dad no matter what i had told him made me ...
unbeliveable proud of him.

Awww dlb, what an amazing young man and what an amazing story. I understand your point of view exactly (I was friends with a guy who was 23 before he found out that his "mother" was in fact his grandmother) but it sounds as though you handled it just right. You should never doubt his love for you and his dad as that is exactly what you have been for him throughout his life. My eyes are filling up! x

moggins

DLB - After editing my last post, I'm even more impressed at what an incredible woman you are

dlb

moggins wrote:

DLB - would you ever be hurt if he one day wanted to trace his birth parents? (obviously I don't know the circumstances and they may not be there to trace) the reason I ask is that a friend was adopted and he has never traced his birth mother for fear of hurting his parents but I know it eats away at him not knowing?

I am lucky in that sense that he is my sister real child, she was very young and had gotten mixed up with drugs at the time, she tried really hard to look after him herself with our ( mine and my mums) support, but it wasnt happening, i already had 2 children of my own and didnt want him to go into care, which is what it was looking like, so i asked if he could live with me, my sisiter who is still a huge part in his life was so happy i offered.
Right im going to tell you everything whilst im talking....crazychik( my neighbour who knows) is going to wonder whats happening when she reads this!!!LOL
I was stupid when i was youger and fell for a dj!! Had 2 children with him ds 1+3, i left him after a bad bad time and fell in love with my now husband 4 months later!!
So just to get this right for you all ds1+3 are mine from prev relasionship, ds2 is adopted (my sisters child) and dd is mine and my dh.!!!
I know confusing even more so when i say the age different between ds 2 and 3 is 5 months!!

LearningToSave.

ooooo DLB.....what a fantastic lady you are - i take my hat off to you!

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dlb

Oh god what must you all think off me!!
The one person who is amazing in all this is my dh, he took on my 2 kids my sisters child and stayed with me!!!LOL
We have been married 7 years this july and he is the most amazing man on earth!!