A FROG a week equals a special treat!

Football_Widow_2

Good Afternoon All.

Thanks for your kind words all. Can't really believe I'm writing this but my week has got a lot worse. My stepmum rang me yesterday and told me that my dad had died suddenly. It was a bit of a shock as I haven't spoken to him for 5 years. This was the second time we hadn't spoken as the first time lasted 9 years. He was elderly and I always knew that it would happen. Anyway it has made me very unsettled. I have said that I will go to the funeral. So haven't done anything really.

Today I took a friend to have her tooth out under sedation and then came home and went to bed. Got to go out and get DH a birthday card for tomorrow and a birthday cake (was going to make one but that has gone out the window.)

Did a third coat on DD bedroom wall so that wall is now done. Moved to the otherside of the room, but have to fill some holes. (FROGLET)

OH out at Football tonight so I hope to have a bit of a tidy up as the house has become a reall mess (FROG)

Poor Casper hasn't had a walk today so will take him when I go to pick up DD (DD won't be happy walking is her FROG!) but it will be nice to have some fresh air.

Also got to do a couple of P45s.

Anyway hope everybody is coping with their own frogs x

Mumof2_2

So sorry to hear your news Football Widow - my thoughts are with you at this awful time. Take it easy; housework will always be there. Hope the funeral goes as well as it can do. Big hugs (((Football Widow))) x

monnagran

Football Widow: So sorry to hear about your Dad. In circumstances like these it's difficult to know what you feel, isn't it? Hope you will be able to summon up some happy memories. Lots of loving thoughts go out to you.

iamsalt

FW - so sorry to hear your news. Huge hugs to you. Take care of your self - emotionally and physically.

I think its a shame that people aren't nice to people and accepting of each other.

Sorry been AWOl this week. Job started monday - new frogs created as no contract yet, also they don't seem to be honouring the discussion I had at interview (and the reason I accepted job) that i could work from home so the 2hr commute each way is rather tiring at the mo. Have asked for meeting monday to discuss.

Need to consider frogs for the weekend. Thinking cap on

rowsew

Just found this thread, please may I join? I have some ugly TOADS lying around that need dealing with, and a whole pond of tadpoles, froglets and frogs. I am struggling with doing anything at present apart from sitting on my rapidly growing a*se because I have tenosinovitus and my right (doing) hand is in a sling most of the time. It needs complete rest to get better. Anyone know how this can be achieved whilst looking after OH, two small children, two cats and five licey chickens? I'm beginning to feel a bit down, it's been two weeks now, and really what I can do safely is a) read with one hand b)type with one hand c)walk the kids to and from school. Anything else hurts. My chickens need mucking out and we haven't been able to do them, the house is well, full of kids and stuff, and frankly I'm bored witless. Aaaaargh!

Football_Widow_2

Thank you so much (again) for your kind words. My mood is improving somewhat and I have managed a few frogs this morning, so that has really helped.

I have filled some holes in DD's wall (not well but most of them will be covered up). I have freed up some storage space for DD's bedroom, but can't put it in until I have painted that wall!!

Downstairs is looking a bit more organised so that has also lifted my mood. Although I am still in the middle of the decorating I am going to try and a tidy upstairs too. I can't live in a mess, it gets me down.

Weather is really lovely today and I have even managed to do a little bit outside. x

Anyway hope you all have a good day tackling your FROGS!! x

Football_Widow_2

Welcome Rowsew - poor you, it all sounds very painful. Well you have come to the right place. All of us here have somenkind of hinderance either physical, mental or just living life!

I suppose the best advice I can give is 'you must completely rest your arm!!' but of course that doesn't help does it.

I think that you have to make a list of jobs that you know that you can not physically do. Perhaps OH could help you with those. Then have a think of what you could do, even if it takes you a long time to do. Sometimes I have found that actually slowing down means you can acheive more. Then of course what could the kids do to help (if old enough of course).

My friend who had her hysterectamy isn't allowed to do anything for 6 weeks and can only do something if she uses one hands and not hands together - she is so bored!! and it hasn't even been a week yet!!

Let us know how you are getting on, and we'll try and keep that FROGGY depression at bay

monnagran - I AM SO IMPRESSED :T. Just shows you don't have to jump up and down to get heard, I just think you are fantastic. Well done you!!

Lizbetty

Football widow - I'm so sorry to hear your sad news. I can only imagine how upsetting and unsettling that has been for you. As everyone says, take it easy on yourself and sending you some big hugs. It certainly sounds like you're keeping busy! Wow, you've done so well decorating your daughter's bedroom. I find it's always a horrible thing to think about doing but so satisfying once it's done and you can admire your handywork. x

Monnogran - you hit the nail on the head about the school playground. It is a strange environment and really unpleasant, I never expected it woud be like it is before I had children. I think women can be terrible to each other, I never quite understood why. Although I do think that jealousy and insecurities play a large part. I personally think that admiring someone rather than hating them for having something admirable about them is a far nicer feeling, especially if you can tell them about something you admire about them. People don't do that enough, and it's lovely to see someone's face light up if you tell them you like something in particular about them. Women should stick together more imo and big each other up! Not tear each other to bits as some seem to do.

Rowsew - Hi!!!! Ohh, you poor thing. It must be frustrating to not be able to do things and especialyl with two small children, I can imagine how disheartening it is seeing things fall apart around your ears and not being able to do anything! But - you will eventually. I always try and think past the bad bits and think to the afterwards when things are back to normal again. Just do what you can (what the doc says you can, I mean!!) and plan what you can do when you're better. It might take time to catch up with things once you can use both hands, but you will catch up. Try not to beat yourself up about it. I know that's easier said than done - resting is difficult when the house is a sty (I know that from recent experience!). But getting better is far more important than other stuff. As long as you manage to keep everynoe breathing and safe, then consider your job done 'til you're ready to rock and roll again!

Today I have done very little - I see a pattern emerging. Dh had his work cancelled (the man who he was supposed to train was a no show) and so he came home at 7.30am. When dh's at home I seem to do nothing apart from pittle about. I'm not sure why. He's been painting, we had a lovely friend stop by for a brew for an hour, and all I've achieved is buying and wrapping my friend's birthday presents. Which took me all day. He's taking the kids to the caravan after school (quick stop off to get changed then they're going) and I always feel a bit out of sorts when he does that. I hate being in this house on my own (well, I have two dogs but still..) and worry about the kids when they go to the caravan. I would go along but he knows caravanning isn't exactly my bag, and with my chest being a little dodgy still and the weather being cooler, we agreed that staying put is the best option (I got out of it! Woo hoooo! I hate that damn caravan toilet, and even using the shared ones on site is a bug bear.)

I could seize the opportunity and get things done - my room is appalling as I've been doing everywhere else and have left the worst room til last - but I have no energy or enthusiasm for it in all honesty. One of those days I think. Too much white flour yesterday, I bet that's knocked me off kilter!

So no reward, my flowers will have to wait.

A couple of tadpoles still to do - put more washing away, and maybe start to dust the room and see how it goes. Although I suspect I may need a belt sander to see the mantelpiece through all the muck.

Luce xxx

monnagran

Welcome Rowsew. This is the best thread for meeting like-minded people and finding that you feel quite at home in the madhouse! Sorry about your arm. It's the little things that catch you out. I remember trying to clean my teeth with the 'wrong' hand and getting into a frightful mess. As Lucyeff says, if you can manage to keep everyone breathing and safe you will be performing some sort of miracle. Don't push yourself too hard, and keep reminding yourself that there are far worse things than being bored.

I am in the middle of doing the church magazine, which involves sitting amid piles of paper and books and trying to find just the right verse/article/cartoon to fill a gap on a page. I suppose it is a frog of sorts, one that jumps back here every month.

Football Widow: Thank you for your kind words. I do always try to resolve situations with a bit of humour. At the very least, if dealing with someone intent on being confrontational, you have the comfort of knowing that the sight of your gently smiling face will be getting right up their nose.
And you keep the moral high ground. And sometimes I'm not a very nice person!
Lucyeff: I know, I know, I know! When the vicaress is around I get nothing done. There are too many stops for coffee, too many calls for help, (how do you spell..........? have you got a minute.....?) and lunch is required. Me and an empty house can achieve a lot.

dannie

Hi all,

Yesterday was one of those frustrating days so just did "tadpole" jobs. These were doing bitty tasks from a list that kept getting left and also looking at/updating a file which notes pending jobs. Another "tadpole" was deciding what to do with two bags of wallpaper offcuts. At least something got completed and decided upon.

Today, I changed my routine to see if it would help. Initially, a little "tadpole" filing job and putting a fresh wallpaper lining in a drawer base. Also in the morning and afternoon was a "froglet" task; pruned a box plant and cleared the weeks prunings. (I have not heard of your hedge species Mumof2). Next a "tadpole"; cleaned the toilet and bathroom. The "reward" was the garden "taking shape" and feeling a type of "high" about the clean bathroom.

Thanks for all the posts. Sorry to those experiencing difficult times.