How long before you moved your newborn into his/her own room on nighttime?

abby1234519

Mine is two and a half weeks old and he is definitely staying with me for as long as I can! My OH lives in another town so 5 nights a week it will be just me and baby and I fully intend to bedshare. Then when OH comes to stay baby is in the moses basket but I did pick him up out of it at 6am and cuddle him in bed for a couple of hours

meritaten

skintchick wrote: »

Right, so if they said 'officially I have to say don't smack them but I used to regularly beat mine' would you hit your kids?

The guidelines are based on RESEARCH, your two health visitors' actions were based on what was convenient for them and their non-evidence-based OPINIONS, with nothing to back it up. Just because someone is a health visitor doesn't mean what they did/do is correct.

and just because RESEARCH has been done, it doesnt mean its conclusions are correct! when my 1st was born in the late seventies, it was an ABSOLUTE no-no to put them to sleep on their backs! How many years did it take before it was concluded our mums and grannies were right? It took the loss of Anne Diamonds baby (and who knows how many others?) and her determined 'Back to Back' campaign before HVs gave up on the 'put them on their sides or tummies' advice!
I can think of many other examples of RESEARCH turning out to be quite wrong!
I think Mums and Dads have good instincts mostly about what is best for their child!
er and its like the old joke 'How many scientists does it take to raise a child'? the answer? 'None - it takes a parent or two'!

theladsmum

We managed one night with our first in with us, then he went into his own room. Too much disturbance, both ways! Second managed a bit longer, but was in his own room from about a month old. Unless you live in a mansion, you are not going to be far away, and I always woke up immediately there was a noise. Still do, and eldest is a teenager. OH, on the other hand, kick on shins often required!!!

mildred1978

My 1 year old is still in with us. We co-slept for a long time. He went into his cot at about 9 months and I haven't got around to moving him into his room yet.

5 nights a week it's only me and him here, so it's not so bad.

I do have a big house, and although he would be in the next room, I have zero night vision and would have to pass the top of the stairs to get to him in the night.

fairy_bubbles

my twins are not quite 5 months old. they went into their own room just before they were 3 months.
to begin with, as they were tiny(and they were teeny small)they slept in a cotbed in our room, one either end, and with a bed divider(designed to make a cot smaller) in the middle.
they got to the point when they were too big for this arrangement and as there was no room for another cot, they had to go into their room right next door.
we have both doors wide open and i hear everything.dh sleeps through everything!!the girls didnt seem to mind either way!
i think you just have to do what works for you and your particular circumstances.

Metranil_Vavin

We put our DS into his own room at 4 months, and he sleeps in there so much better than he ever did in our room.

bylromarha

DS - 1 week old
DD - 2 weeks old (I had to go down a flight of stairs to feed her and the thought of walking up and down stairs at nighttime made me keep her in our room a little longer)

Neither of us could have a good nights sleep with baby in the room as any tiny noise baby made woke us up. Baby monitor on low woke us up when baby needed us.

mountainofdebt

Another bad mummy here - Junior was 5 days old when he went into his own room

mountainofdebt

abby1234519 wrote: »

My OH lives in another town so 5 nights a week it will be just me and baby and I fully intend to bedshare.

Do you mean bedroom share or literally bedshare?

The only reason I ask - and I may be wrong here - is that whilst its only my opinion, I thought that bedsharing was considered to be a no no?

bylromarha

mountainofdebt wrote: »

Another bad mummy here - Junior was 5 days old when he went into his own room

DON'T YOU DO THAT!

You're not a bad mummy at all.

Junior going into their room at 5 days old does not make you a bad mum. There will have been a reason for you to do that and it will have been the right one for you.

Hold your head high girl