How long before you moved your newborn into his/her own room on nighttime?

mikey72

Day 1 with all of them.

koalamummy

Both of my sons were just over a year old when they moved into their own bedrooms. This seemed the right time for us as they were fully mobile by then and could sit, stand, roll over, and toddle by this point as well as shout/scream/cry if they needed anything. At this point I will reveal a slightly unhinged aspect of my personality when I explain that my children reaching this stage of development meant to me personally for some totally unfounded reason that the risk of anything untoward happening to them overnight was much diminished. I realize how silly and irrational this sounds but it works for me. Every family is different though and I believe that parents should trust their instincts when making a decision like this as whatever your instinct tells you is best for your family generally is.

Becles

Eldest was in with us for a couple of nights. I didn't get any sleep as he was constantly snuffling and grunting in his sleep and I was just dozing on a knife edge thinking he was going to wake up for a feed in a minute.

Popped him in his own room and I managed to get some decent sleep between feeds, so I felt much better. He was far enough away for the snuffling not to bother me, but I still heard him when he woke for a feed.

Second and third just went in their own rooms from day 1 to prevent the above.

There's no set right or wrong way with babies. Just experiment and find what works best for you.

Lotus-eater

Deleted_User wrote: »

As above really, so how long before you moved your newborn into his/her own room for sleeping on the night?

Both after about a week, I couldn't sleep with them in the same room. Even right next door with both doors open and facing each other was a huge improvement!
I was happy and my OH got rid of a bleary eyed annoyed zombie being around

We could still hear most of the noises and although we did use a baby monitor, we didn't really need it.

make_me_wise

Do you sleep differently once you have had a baby? I dont mean lack of sleep rather than having it, lol. More to do with did you find you slept lighter and kind of instinctively woke over night when baby made the slightest move or noise?

This is going to sound stupid but dh and I are very heavy sleepers. Literally nothing wakes us up. We have 2 alarm clocks set at full volume. We sleep through thunder storms, car alarms etc. I am expecting twins in Jan and though we could just about fit them both in our room it would be a squeeze. We are telling ourselves that when they start screaming and crying we will hear them.

Ive had advice on here previously that its best to keep twins together but there is no way we could fit a cot in our room. Its a big room but an odd shape and has fitted wardrobes etc so dont have the option of moving things around or out to make space. Once they are out of moses baskets we would have to transfer them to the nursery, which is just next to our room.

Reading all this has made me think one might need to be in with dh in the spare room (good luck baby trying to wake daddy up!) and I would have to crash in the nursery. Is this really necessary though as hardly ideal.

CH27

make_me_wise wrote: »

Do you sleep differently once you have had a baby? I dont mean lack of sleep rather than having it, lol. More to do with did you find you slept lighter and kind of instinctively woke over night when baby made the slightest move or noise?

This is going to sound stupid but dh and I are very heavy sleepers. Literally nothing wakes us up. We have 2 alarm clocks set at full volume. We sleep through thunder storms, car alarms etc. I am expecting twins in Jan and though we could just about fit them both in our room it would be a squeeze. We are telling ourselves that when they start screaming and crying we will hear them.

Ive had advice on here previously that its best to keep twins together but there is no way we could fit a cot in our room. Its a big room but an odd shape and has fitted wardrobes etc so dont have the option of moving things around or out to make space. Once they are out of moses baskets we would have to transfer them to the nursery, which is just next to our room.

Reading all this has made me think one might need to be in with dh in the spare room (good luck baby trying to wake daddy up!) and I would have to crash in the nursery. Is this really necessary though as hardly ideal.

I do think it does change. I was certainly heard every noise son made & OH heard most of them & OH can sleep through anything.
Son is 16 now & I still hear him if he's up in the night.

Lotus-eater

I wake up with every little sound, but manage to sleep through virtually all sounds made by our 2 kids.

My OH on the other hand can sleep through floods and thunderstorms, never hears the birds or animals that get into our attic and never hears the cats/owls/deer/foxes/badgers which fight outside our window.
BUT, one teeny tiny sound from one of the kids and she's wide awake and out of bed.

Must be something to do with women and children.

make_me_wise

Thanks CH27 and Lotus-eater, that is really re-assuring.

skintchick

Not only do you sleep differently, but if you bedshare and breastfeed (not sure if it also applies if they are in cot next to bed) then you sleep BETTER so that although your sleep is lighter, it is more efficient. They have done studies and found that mums with baby next to them, in bed, brestfeeding, had much better quality of sleep than mums whose babies were in another room, even though those mums slept more deeply.

Our bodies adapt perfectly so that we can cope! It's amazing really. I was always a 15-hours girl (yes really) but when DD was little I managed hourly and 2-hourly feeds with no problem at all. We always bedshared though, so I could just roll over and feed her, and often fell asleep while she was still eating. (and obviously, if you bedshare, do it safely, no smoking, no drugs, no duvets, baby should be nowhere near pillows, don;t have them on the edge of the bed.)

clw1

I asked 2 HV's about this and was told by both that "officially I have to say 6 months but I put mine in their own rooms within 2 weeks". We put our Lo in his own room at 11wks as he was too big for the moses basket and it would have been a squash to fit the cot into our room. Once he was in his own room we all slept better and I think we disturbed him when we rolled over etc and vice-versa.

We kept both doors open and as his bedroom was right next door to ours he was only about 15ft from us but if he hadn't been next door I would have kept him with us longer.