How long before you moved your newborn into his/her own room on nighttime?

onlyroz

With my son it was 18 months, because we were living in a tiny flat. With my daughter it was around 6 months, when she got too big for her crib.

starjumper

Our baby moved into his own room at 7 months, we couldn't take it any more, he'd slept through since he was 6 weeks but was so noisy I moved out of the bedroom for a month just to get some sleep then decided he should move and I should return to the marital bed. He loves his new room.

GobbledyGook

Mine stayed in my room until after 6 months. We have a family history of cot death so I was really strict about following the guidelines.

Co-sleeping is frowned upon, mainly due to the very flawed research done in NZ, yet in Japan where co-sleeping is the norm they don't even have a name for cot death because it is so uncommon. It's only remotely safe if done properly though, not by anyone who smokes or has any alcohol, is on medication or who is more than a little overweight. The common 'mistake' (if you can call it that can't think of a better word) is that people put the baby in middle when they should be between Mum and a bedguard on top of the duvet.

threemuttleys

Mine was in our room till 6 months, if the studies show that their is a risk of CD by moving the babe out of the parents room sooner, then that isnt a risk I was willing to take

Buttonmoons

I don't get that 6month rule, is it that if they get cot death you'll be in the room to give them CPR or something?! Cause I don't think many people will wake up and automatically know?!

I put DD into her own room at uhm......gosh can't even remember, about 8months old she was, because she was and still is, one of those sleepers that shout, sniffle, suck, whinge, cry, do the tango in her sleep, and I couldn't sleep properly with her snuffling away next to me :rotfl:

I would never co sleep, when I'm asleep, I move around all over the place, and I just COULDNT sleep without a duvet - its weird!

Now she's 5, she's a pain to get out of my room, but if she kicks me in my bed now, i just kick her back (i kid lol)

delain

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make_me_wise wrote: »

Do you sleep differently once you have had a baby? I dont mean lack of sleep rather than having it, lol. More to do with did you find you slept lighter and kind of instinctively woke over night when baby made the slightest move or noise?

This is going to sound stupid but dh and I are very heavy sleepers. Literally nothing wakes us up. We have 2 alarm clocks set at full volume. We sleep through thunder storms, car alarms etc. I am expecting twins in Jan and though we could just about fit them both in our room it would be a squeeze. We are telling ourselves that when they start screaming and crying we will hear them.

Ive had advice on here previously that its best to keep twins together but there is no way we could fit a cot in our room. Its a big room but an odd shape and has fitted wardrobes etc so dont have the option of moving things around or out to make space. Once they are out of moses baskets we would have to transfer them to the nursery, which is just next to our room.

Reading all this has made me think one might need to be in with dh in the spare room (good luck baby trying to wake daddy up!) and I would have to crash in the nursery. Is this really necessary though as hardly ideal.

You seem to be in tune with their cries and it wakes you, I could usually sleep through an earthquake, but my babies have always woken me way before the screaming stage.

Anyway good luck sleeping through hungry twins, you've got no chance! Been there, done that :rotfl:

Oh and mine have always been in with me (or their dad) until pretty much the age of 2!

GobbledyGook

Buttonmoons wrote: »

I don't get that 6month rule, is it that if they get cot death you'll be in the room to give them CPR or something?! Cause I don't think many people will wake up and automatically know?!

No, it's because if they are in the same room as you they are less likely to fall victim to cot death.

They are still not sure entirely why, but being in the room with you just lessens the chances. They are not sure if it's hearing you breathing that triggers them to breath or the carbon dioxide we breath out. They just know that since the campaign about keeping them in the same room and putting them down on their backs until they can hold their heads up the numbers of cot deaths has dropped massively.

mildred1978

Buttonmoons wrote: »

I would never co sleep, when I'm asleep, I move around all over the place, and I just COULDNT sleep without a duvet - its weird!

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I'm usually a very active and deep sleeper, but for some reason while cosleeping I was aware of my baby and where I was and I woke up in the same place I fell asleep.

Why you think cosleeping can't be done with a duvet is beyond me. When small I slept under the duvet (as did OH) while LO slept in top of the duvet with a cellular blanket. Once he was 5 or 6 months his legs would be under the duvet with the rest of him outside it, and once he could move he slept pretty much however he liked!

swimsink

My little girl was only about 4 months however in my old house her nursery was joined into my room with just a doorframe in between (took the ajoining door off the hinges to make more space!) so she was practically in the same room anyway!

abby1234519

mountainofdebt wrote: »

Do you mean bedroom share or literally bedshare?

The only reason I ask - and I may be wrong here - is that whilst its only my opinion, I thought that bedsharing was considered to be a no no?

Bedshare, he has no chance of suffocating or anything like that and I like being close to him. At the same time he also sleeps in his moses basket next to my bed.It varies from night to night as to where he sleeps. He spent the night asleep on my chest and now is asleep at the head of the bed. The way I look at it is that all the other mammals sleep next to their babies so why do we paranoid human beings say we can't. We used to!