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How long before you moved your newborn into his/her own room on nighttime?

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  • neverdespairgirl
    neverdespairgirl Posts: 16,501 Forumite
    meritaten wrote: »
    and just because RESEARCH has been done, it doesnt mean its conclusions are correct! when my 1st was born in the late seventies, it was an ABSOLUTE no-no to put them to sleep on their backs! How many years did it take before it was concluded our mums and grannies were right? It took the loss of Anne Diamonds baby (and who knows how many others?) and her determined 'Back to Back' campaign before HVs gave up on the 'put them on their sides or tummies' advice!
    I can think of many other examples of RESEARCH turning out to be quite wrong!

    I have a feeling it was Dr. Spock who started the lie-on-tummies thing, and that he didn't do proper research.

    the "back to sleep" campaign was the result of monitoring thousands of babies, and concluding that sleeping on the back was a lower risk for cot death.
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  • neverdespairgirl
    neverdespairgirl Posts: 16,501 Forumite
    Buttonmoons wrote: »
    I don't get that 6month rule, is it that if they get cot death you'll be in the room to give them CPR or something?! Cause I don't think many people will wake up and automatically know?!

    No, not that! It's not entirely certain why, but it's likely to do with the baby sensing the mother's breathing etc.
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  • neverdespairgirl
    neverdespairgirl Posts: 16,501 Forumite
    Lotus-eater wrote: »
    You made number 3 with a baby in the bed? Is it only me that finds that a little odd?

    "Never sit on a co-sleeper's sofa....."
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  • Lotus-eater
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    neverdespairgirl wrote: »
    "Never sit on a co-sleeper's sofa....."
    How narrow minded to think that a baby can only be made on a sofa etc...........

    :rotfl:

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  • neverdespairgirl
    neverdespairgirl Posts: 16,501 Forumite
    make_me_wise wrote: »
    Do you sleep differently once you have had a baby? I dont mean lack of sleep rather than having it, lol. More to do with did you find you slept lighter and kind of instinctively woke over night when baby made the slightest move or noise?

    This is going to sound stupid but dh and I are very heavy sleepers. Literally nothing wakes us up. We have 2 alarm clocks set at full volume. We sleep through thunder storms, car alarms etc.

    Earthquakes don't stir me. I need serious alarm clocks.

    OH always wakes up with noises etc way before me. The one exception is our son (who is now 6). I wake up first, always. I'm tuned into him.
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  • ajaney
    ajaney Posts: 250 Forumite
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    My LO went into his own room at 7 months. I had started to wean him at 6 months to solids & was moving slowly from breast to bottle. For the last few months, he has slept from about 7pm to 6am on most nights.
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  • tiamai_d
    tiamai_d Posts: 11,987 Forumite
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    My eldest who is now 10 - at 8 months when we moved out of MIL's (shudder). Couldn't co-sleep with him at all.

    Middle who is now 6 - I don't remember probably around 6 months, could have been 4.

    Youngest who is now 2 - about 7 months. A mix of co-sleeping and crib. Co-sleeping was when breastfeeding, it meant I got better sleep and I was so much more aware of her next to me.

    You move them when you feel comfortable and ready. Be that earlier than reccomended or later. Co-sleeping works if you are all happy for it happen and you feel comfortable enough.
  • alwaysskint96
    alwaysskint96 Posts: 984 Forumite
    GobbledyGook wrote: »
    No, it's because if they are in the same room as you they are less likely to fall victim to cot death.

    They are still not sure entirely why, but being in the room with you just lessens the chances. They are not sure if it's hearing you breathing that triggers them to breath or the carbon dioxide we breath out. They just know that since the campaign about keeping them in the same room and putting them down on their backs until they can hold their heads up the numbers of cot deaths has dropped massively.


    Wouldnt that also apply if sharing with siblings then?
  • Gingham_R
    Gingham_R Posts: 1,660 Forumite
    neverdespairgirl wrote: »
    "Never sit on a co-sleeper's sofa....."

    Or their floor or in their car or eat off their kitchen table for that matter. :D;)

    The idea of having a baby in a different room to sleep is a new idea brought about by the luxury of having more than one room to choose from. And the idea that beds are the only place to have sex is a bit restrictive. :)

    Ours co-slept with us for several months and are still free to climb into bed with us if they want to, which the youngest often does at 4 years old.
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  • RadoJo
    RadoJo Posts: 1,828 Forumite
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    Am I correct in thinking that people on here are using the term 'co-sleeping' interchangeably with 'bed-sharing'? As I understand it, co-sleeping is just the process of sleeping in close proximity to your child and covers sleeping in the same room, whereas bed-sharing does what it says on the tin.
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