Where there's muck there's brass

Eager_Elephant

RubySewSew wrote: »

Ex has just emailed to say that he is buying the boys new uniform for his house and deducting the money from next month's maintenance. Have emailed solicitor but can't continue to keep my head above water at this rate.

For God's Sake :eek::mad::eek:

I guess this man has some serious control issues - even though you are not together he is calling all the shots and still controlling you by withholding money - is this narcissistic? (sp?)

Surely it is up to him to have uniform at his house for them, it's not your responsibility as you have joint custody!!

RubySewSew

The solicitor has said no way that's not on. Yes, I do think he has control issues. He has always been very manipulative and that is the reason why I left him because his bullying was getting out of control.

Things are escalating but hopefully they are escalating towards the end. Feeling a bit run down because I've got a full on head cold. Had blood test this morning, little cry at the doctors, breakfast with a friend, sauna and lunch with 2 other friends and then picked up the boys. I've been quite lucky today. I've said it often but whilst things are really hard right now I have got some fantastic friends.

RubySewSew

Lovely lovely weekend! pootled around town yesterday, went for a drink with a friend last night and stopped by to say hello to another friend who were having an opening for their new coffee shop so free drink and food! Then bought a bottle of wine to share with my mate but as it was to say thank you because she helped me out with childcare on inset day it can legitimately come out of my childcare budget :rotfl::rotfl:!!

Met a different friend for breakfast and a walk and a pootle today and she treated me to breakfast :) And as I am still full up from it now I haven't had a chance to eat anything else! :T:T Other than fruit strings - how many do you think I need to make up one of my 5 a day?!

The house however is a disgusting mess :eek:. Really awful! I have a free day tomorrow so I will HAVE to sort it then .

RubySewSew

Oooh and very very inspired to get making. Saw some lovely furniture and makes in shops around town - need to get those pennies coming in!!

Eager_Elephant

Ruby - how lovely your weekend sounds - I am glad you have done something/lots of things for you!!! :T

The house will always be there -messy or not but the opportunities with your friends will not

RubySewSew

Too true Eager, too true!

Have just worked out that there are 112 days until Christmas. And so, I am going to set myself a challenge. And anybody else who wants to join me....

:staradmin:starmod:

Ruby's £10 a day to Christmas challenge

:starmod::staradmin

The clock is ticking!!!

Buffythedebtslayer

RubySewSew wrote: »

Too true Eager, too true!

Have just worked out that there are 112 days until Christmas. And so, I am going to set myself a challenge. And anybody else who wants to join me....

:staradmin:starmod:Ruby's £10 a day to Christmas challenge:starmod::staradmin

The clock is ticking!!!

Wow that would be amazing. 1120 pounds.

xxx

RubySewSew

Wouldn't it just? Whoop Whoop!!

Eager_Elephant

You know I would love to join your challenge but........[STRIKE]quickly thinks up excuse[/STRIKE] :idea: ...................

I am doing 2 extra days at work until Xmas which is an extra £500 a month so I would win straight away and I wouldn't want to demotivate you :rotfl:

No seriously if you want a buddy I will come on board but will have to exclude the above and get moving on other money.

RubySewSew

You couldn't write my life! Got called to school office at lunchtime today to find DS1 with the most enormous lump over his eye! Rushed him off to A&E and have spent 6 hours at the hospital! He is fine, very sore and will need a few days of school but hopefully no damage. Hospital is soooo expensive though! £3 on parking, £5 on food for me, almost another fiver on playing cards and food to supplement the snack box for DS1!! Oh and a £2.50 bribe to persuade him to have a light shone in his eyes! I've told him no more hospital visits!

Off for some zzzz's now. Was awake at 4.30 this morning so knackered!