Free bar restrictions - right or wrong?

poet123

polejunkie wrote: »

I dont care if it sounds rude, its my wedding. I'l provide free drinks for kids and non drinkers if I like. Its up to the guests to provide for their own alcohol or sneak in their mini bottle of JD, after all I am feeding 1/3rd of them to a sit down steak, the rest to a evening buffet and if they feel the bar isnt up to their liking then they're not the kind of people I want at my wedding. Im not catering for vegetarians either at the sit down dinner which sadly excludes my veggie/vegan/raging alcoholic step siblings. Diddums.

For the life of me I can't think why you are bothering inviting guests, it seems as if all the usual niceties are simply too much trouble for you, and that you resent them all. You would be much better off simply going away and getting married without the burden of inviting anyone at all. That is how it comes across anyway.

Torry_Quine

poet123 wrote: »

For the life of me I can't think why you are bothering inviting guests, it seems as if all the usual niceties are simply too much trouble for you, and that you resent them all. You would be much better off simply going away and getting married without the burden of inviting anyone at all. That is how it comes across anyway.

I think that the description of who the vegetarians are is the give-away answer.

kmmr

MrsDrink wrote: »

There are so many things weddingy that people feel compelled to comment on and that we just can't agree on. Since joining this site I've seen similar 'marmite' discussions on chair covers, favours, photographers and even inviting children. My thoughts on everything wedding related - free bar or anything else - is if it's something you want, get it. If it isn't - don't. In my opinion there is nothing other than saying your vows and "I do" that must be done. Everything else is just frills that you can choose to have or not. As far as 'traditional' and 'normal' goes - well my first thought has always been sod that.
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Don't forget cash vs gift lists vs no-gifts. There are plenty of differing opinions on that!

clearing_out_my_pockets

We told our guests it would be a cash bar, but at the last minute we decided to put £1,000 behind the bar. When we discussed this with our venue, they said "Fine, but we have some stipulations on a free bar. No double measures, no shots, no champagne, no cocktails". Suited us fine, as we were going to ask for the same restrictions. Incidentally our tab ran out 15 minutes before the bar closed, so not everyone takes advantage. We had around 100 guests in the evening. We also put out the leftover bottles of wine that had been intended for during the wedding breakfast but hadn't been drunk.

MrsDrink

clearing_out_my_pockets wrote: »

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What a fitting name for this thread topic :rotfl:

polejunkie

poet123 wrote: »

For the life of me I can't think why you are bothering inviting guests, it seems as if all the usual niceties are simply too much trouble for you, and that you resent them all. You would be much better off simply going away and getting married without the burden of inviting anyone at all. That is how it comes across anyway.

You sound like an absolute delight!

I thing banning children is insensitive, rude and selfish but wouldn't dare tell them not to bother inviting people, who the hell do you think you are? You also come across as a complete alchy given the regard you give booze, would it really bother you if you had to buy your alcohol at a wedding?

poet123

polejunkie wrote: »

You sound like an absolute delight!

I thing banning children is insensitive, rude and selfish but wouldn't dare tell them not to bother inviting people, who the hell do you think you are? You also come across as a complete alchy given the regard you give booze, would it really bother you if you had to buy your alcohol at a wedding?

I think you will find that I have posted against a free bar;) I am totally in favour of people buying their own alcohol and would not expect a free bar. Don't let the facts get in the way of your rant though.:T

My point was the manner and tone you used to refer to those of your guests who want a drink. As though they were of no consequence and beneath contempt. It was not about your decision not thave a free bar. If you feel like that about that section of your guest list you would be better off not inviting them than feeling resentful of them and their needs.

As to who the hell I think I am? someone commenting on the posts of another which came across as rude and nasty to guests who have (presumably) accepted your invitation to attend the "happiest Day of your life". Posts on a forum usually get comment, you got mine.:D

polejunkie

From the stuff i've read on the bridezilla thread I think my free bar and attitude to people who cant handle their drink is the least of the guest's worries.

poet123

polejunkie wrote: »

From the stuff i've read on the bridezilla thread I think my free bar and attitude to people who cant handle their drink is the least of the guest's worries.

People behaving badly towards others under the guise and banner of it just being a temporary thing, to do with the wedding, is just an excuse. Loads of women manage to get married without turning into a Bridezilla just because it seems acceptable to a minority of others in the same boat.

And it wasn't even just the drink you had an issue with, you don't intend to cater for dietary requirements either (and no, I am not veggie or vegan)and seemed to be relishing the serving of steak for reasons of annoyance to them. How hard can it be to accommodate those with different tastes or needs to your own? Especially when you have invited them. I am sorry to be blunt but your posts left a bad taste in my mouth.

polejunkie

Im serving steak just to annoy 4 people?