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Separated; husband now having baby with girlfriend
Little_RAY
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I have been separated from my husband since Nov 2009. The split has been all quite amicable, and we were waiting for the 2 years of separation to be over before we could apply for divorce...
...however, my husband has just informed me that his girlfriend of 8 months, is 3 months pregnant. I obviously now feel the need to be divorced as soon as possible (although November is not that far off now). It didn't bother me that we were still married and I would have waited longer than 2 years to avoid all the hassle and expense, but now it needs to be asap! I do not want to be married to a man who is having a baby with another woman - it's sooo Jerry Springer!
What is the cheapest, quickest way to go about a divorce? I notice all the websites online promising a fast divorce, but how do I know if they're trustworthy?
We do have a house together, but we have already agreed that he will take on the house (there's likely to be more debt than profit anyway - as you'll read in another post of mine). We can sort out all the issues of divorce ourselves really - we live apart and have very separate lives already. The only joint financial consideration we have is the house, which is rented out at present.
I would welcome any advice that anyone can give me about how to go about a quick, cheap, simple divorce...
Thank you for reading.
...however, my husband has just informed me that his girlfriend of 8 months, is 3 months pregnant. I obviously now feel the need to be divorced as soon as possible (although November is not that far off now). It didn't bother me that we were still married and I would have waited longer than 2 years to avoid all the hassle and expense, but now it needs to be asap! I do not want to be married to a man who is having a baby with another woman - it's sooo Jerry Springer!
What is the cheapest, quickest way to go about a divorce? I notice all the websites online promising a fast divorce, but how do I know if they're trustworthy?
We do have a house together, but we have already agreed that he will take on the house (there's likely to be more debt than profit anyway - as you'll read in another post of mine). We can sort out all the issues of divorce ourselves really - we live apart and have very separate lives already. The only joint financial consideration we have is the house, which is rented out at present.
I would welcome any advice that anyone can give me about how to go about a quick, cheap, simple divorce...
Thank you for reading.
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Your quickest route will be to divorce him for adultery and for him not to contest it.0
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Oldernotwiser wrote: »Your quickest route will be to divorce him for adultery and for him not to contest it.
How do you know they split because he cheated?0 -
I would wait til November - highly unlikely the baby will come before then.0
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honestly I'd just wait till november.
It's not that far away.
Never mind them, they aren't going to be a big part in your life, try not to think about them, and plan how you want your life to be. xx
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How do you know they split because he cheated?
He is married and living with someone else NOW.. that is still adultery.. it is no less classed as adultery if they are separated or not.
Why do you have to wait 2 years?
I divorced after less than a year (7 months) on grounds of unreasonable behaviour.. inc. inappropriate behaviour with another woman and it took 10 months from start to finish. I would have gone with adultery but felt he would probably have contested it and I wanted it done asap.
Just start proceedings.. Id name the reasons as him having an affair with this gf and that they are having a baby.. proof enough Id think!LB moment 10/06 Debt Free date 6/6/14Hope to be debt free until the day I dieMortgage-free Wannabee (05/08/30)6/6/14 £72,454.65 (5.65% int.)08/12/2023 £33602.00 (4.81% int.)0 -
I agree - It would be quite difficult to deny adultery when he has a pregnant girlfriend!Mum of several with a twisted sense of humour and a laundry obsession
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just worth saying a divorce can only be as quick as:
a) your local courts
b) the people getting divorced (not holding things up by sitting on paperwork, refusing to agree a financial settlement etc).
You can do it yourself by downloading the paperwork from the court's website and submitting them. It would keep your costs down. You need to get the financial side of things signed off legally so that your ex husband has no comeback on you (nor you on him) at any point, making sure that you are properly off the deeds of the house etc. For this, a judge is likely to require that you have had legal advice prior to signing off a Consent Order.0 -
Little_RAY wrote: »We do have a house together, but we have already agreed that he will take on the house (there's likely to be more debt than profit anyway - as you'll read in another post of mine). We can sort out all the issues of divorce ourselves really - we live apart and have very separate lives already. The only joint financial consideration we have is the house, which is rented out at present.
I would welcome any advice that anyone can give me about how to go about a quick, cheap, simple divorce...
Thank you for reading.
A little bit of advice. You can do the divorce DIY for about £400. Down load the court paperwork from the internet, fill it in, sign and pay the fees at the court. Nay problem.
Do not however even dream of doing this unless your ex has actually sorted out the remortgage on the house and the property has been transferred to his name.
Go over the the Housing forum to read up on the complete nightmares that ensue when joint property ownership is not sorted out before the divorce is absolute.
For example, with little or no equity, he may not be able to re-mortgage at all. I doubt if he can remortgage whilst the property is rented out, except on buy to let basis.
You could find yourself liable in years to come for a substantial shortfall (if he stops paying the mortgage for example), excluded from benefits because of your property ownership and having no way of forcing a sale.
When does the existing tenancy finish?If you've have not made a mistake, you've made nothing0 -
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