Valentine's Day - Do you bother?

Katyj_2

I don't think I would be too bothered not to get anything if it wasn't for every other person at work going on about what they got all day! It might sound shallow but last year I got nothing and felt quite upset because all my colleagues got lots of things and everyone was quite giggly all day. My boyf things its a load of commercial hocus-pocus / waste of money, but I would have at least liked a card! we then had a row that evening because I was feeling insecure - bit daft maybe, but I'm sure others can relate to the silliness of it. This year I've told him I want at least a card and we have arranged to go on a walking weekend to the Brecon Beacons the weekend after valentines, so hopefully no rows this year! We wouldn't go to a restaurant on the actual night because we think its a scam - rubbish food etc. and I prefer cooking / night in anyway. I guess the bottom line is that its all down to expectations and agreeing in advance with your partner what you're going to do to avoid dissapointment (and rows!)

Justamum

We don't bother with Valentine's Day - we can't be bothered with all the commercialisation. Actually we don't bother with anniversaries either - yet another rip-off. We don't have any money for cards and stuff anyway. If my husband bought me a bunch of flowers I would probably whack him with them for wasting the money! I'm not good with flowers anyway - I don't like it when they start dying, I forget to change the water so it goes all manky, and they stop looking nice after a few days.

Emmysmum_2

Kids get a treat dinner that night...sarnies cut into hearts with homemade bread tinted pink lol and veggie crisps on teh side They also get little fairy cakes we make together and put little candy hearts with messages on top. Then they go to bed early. DH and I enjoy a nice bottle of inexspensive Asda or Aldi wine, and have anice meal I have prepared at thet able set with candles, then we watch a dvd together. We prefer a nice snuggle on the sofa to a trite card and flowers that just fade!

ikkleosu

I know msot of my coupled up friends don't bother with valentines day, but i like it. I'm not into overboard mush but I do like to have a day to have some kind of solid proof of affection. (Something you can look at on those days when you want to kill each other).

Also my bf I have our anniversary (of our first date) on Feb 12th so we have a combined valentines/anniversary celebration. 1 pressie each, 1 card but he takes me out on our anniversary and I cook for him on velntines.

I'm not bothered with flowers or cuddly toys, I just like a card that expresses something.

xxdiddiexx

Well I'm a very new relationship (NY's Eve to be precise), so I am at a total loss as to what to do. I did suggest going out for dinner, but after having read most of the posts on here about over priced and awful food - I am somewhat dubious about that now.:o

laura_k_3

This will be my 3rd Valentines with my fiance, every year we buy each other a MASSIVE card (The kind that don't cost less than £10), and presents too, he usually buys me flowers, and we go out for a very lovely meal at our favourite restaurant at the time where I amuse him very much by getting ever so slightly tipsy The last couple of years he's also filled the room with candles and had 'our song' on the CD player when I've walked in the room.

lyric_grace

xxdiddiexx wrote:

Well I'm a very new relationship (NY's Eve to be precise), so I am at a total loss as to what to do. I did suggest going out for dinner, but after having read most of the posts on here about over priced and awful food - I am somewhat dubious about that now.:o

This happened to me a number of years back now, we had got together on NYE so by valentines day we hadn't said the love thing or anything, so I got him a card with no love words on it like "Be my valentine" or something, and he paid for a nice meal out for us both. It was okay so I suggest you do something similar?! Anyway that was then and this is now (a different man, but def "THE ONE!" we put a £5 spending limit on it adn try to get something unusual or out of the ordinary! Last year I got bright red slippers with hearts on which were £5 from tesco, they were perfect and I'm still wearing them now, with not much sign of wear and tear either, so a very useful present and I know how much he loves me when I put them on everyday! Gosh that sounds sickly!!
(goes to make sick sign with fingers down throat! I've turned into one of those people I used to hate when I was single!!!!:rotfl: )

Mark7799

Don't 'do' Valentine's Day (prices etc) but instead we 'do' "Dydd Santes Dwynwen" (the Welsh equivalent) on January 25. Great as the shops haven't yet caught on so prices all remain fairly normal!

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Got a feeling my gf is working a 'long day' this valentines (8am-8.30pm, A&E nurse hours are crazy) so i doubt we'll do anything on the day.

I'll book the nicest place I can think of for the weekend afterwards and take her out, as well as send an embarrassingly large bouquet of flowers to her emergency department

full-time-mum

ringo_24601 wrote:

Got a feeling my gf is working a 'long day' this valentines (8am-8.30pm, A&E nurse hours are crazy) so i doubt we'll do anything on the day.

Don't write the day off completely.

Consider cooking her a simple but nutritious meal. Make sure that you have a bath run for when she gets in, maybe fill the bath room with candles, her favouriite bubbles and maybe a glass of wine poured (or pot of tea if she'd rather) waiting on the side of the bath. Have a nice fluffy towel warming on the radiator.

As she comes in the door, you can tell her to go and have a soak in the bath and dinner will be on the table when she is finished.

I know it doesn't sound romantic in a couple together type of way but I'm sure that she isn't going to be in the mood for anything more and it will show how much you care. I would be over the moon if my OH put so much thought into it. If she wants time alone then fine but if she wants company, then you can join her in the bathroom with a glass of wine whilst the dinner cooks. (Sitting on the loo might not be the most romantic of places but what the hell!)