Did anyone Used to Get Smacked as a Child?

Person_one

lynzpower wrote: »

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I can see from every word that is written that your family life is a very fraught existence. I really hope you can find a way through this that does not involve hitting your 9 year old.

Lynz said it best, so I'm out.

ska_lover

Person_one wrote: »

Not really, Nasa is quite good at building rockets, Blue Monkey is really struggling with parenting her child. I don't think pats on the back and sympathy are all that helpful, some professional assistance might be but apparently its beyond the pale to even suggest that.

Oh, I am sorry, you are a professional? I didn't realise.

Here was me thinking that you were a childless and self opinionated! My bad!

ska_lover

Person_one wrote: »

At what stage of pregnancy do they hand you the secret parenting bible that nobody without kids is ever allowed to see?

Im sure as a professional, you would know that..

Zoetoes

Person_one wrote: »

Not really, Nasa is quite good at building rockets, Blue Monkey is really struggling with parenting her child. I don't think pats on the back and sympathy are all that helpful, some professional assistance might be but apparently its beyond the pale to even suggest that.

It wasn't being helpful, it wasn't even constructive criticism, it was goading.

RacyRed

Person_one wrote: »

Not really, Nasa is quite good at building rockets, Blue Monkey is really struggling with parenting her child. I don't think pats on the back and sympathy are all that helpful, some professional assistance might be but apparently its beyond the pale to even suggest that.

Actually, it shows that you were not ever smacked as a child....

You do not recognise boundaries even when you fall right over them.

:mad:

lynzpower

As for suggesting counselling - maybe better provisions for disabled children might be the better option so at least I would then be able to spend time with my daughter and have 1:1 with her in the holidays - instead of calling everyone to be told my son is not welcome there. Whatever option I take the other child is going to feel left out - counselling is not going to solve that.

Have you considered respite relationships, carers who will look after your disabled child in their home.

Person_one

RacyRed wrote: »

Actually, it shows that you were not ever smacked as a child....

You do not recognise boundaries even when you fall right over them.

:mad:

There are no boundaries on this site. People open up their lives and others delve right in, you see it all the time.

People are free not to post if they do not wish to hear differing opinions. I truly do hope that Blue Monkey finds a way for her family to be happy, it doesn't sound like the hitting is currently accomplishing that. Ganging up on me probably won't help either.

blue_monkey_2

lynzpower wrote: »

Have you considered respite relationships, carers who will look after your disabled child in their home.

LOL, you are joking right. Is this something you have read about? Have you ANY experience of trying to get respite care for a disabled child? You might read about it, but it's existance is almost non-existant. They have even withdrawn funding for our support group.

However, they are building a playgroud for diabled children about 30 miles away 'soon'. Which you have to pay to use.

RacyRed

Person_one wrote: »

There are no boundaries on this site. People open up their lives and others delve right in, you see it all the time.

People are free not to post if they do not wish to hear differing opinions. I truly do hope that Blue Monkey finds a way for her family to be happy, it doesn't sound like the hitting is currently accomplishing that. Ganging up on me probably won't help either.

Thank you for confirming my opinion that you don't recognise boundaries. You don't even understand what I'm talking about! :eek:

lynzpower

Yes I used to commission respite care all the time for parents.