Trying for a Baby Part 7

Kitten_Pie

We tend to be quite close, he has been my best friend since I was 12 so we have grown up being very open with each other.

bigzippy

Kitten_Pie wrote: »

We tend to be quite close, he has been my best friend since I was 12 so we have grown up being very open with each other.

Hurrah for close relationships!

I'd be lost without my DH now. He keeps saying how much he wants a baba, but then also telling me "you're enough you know/I'd still pick you/you're the most important/if it never happens for us, you're still enough" :A:o

If only I could sleep like him though. He actually fell asleep in the waiting room at the FS!!

Kitten_Pie

My OH says that too, but I know he is desperate to be a father. (I can see it in his eyes) although he didn't want to push me into trying again so soon after he is glad that I want to try too. It helps that we are on the same page.

bigzippy

Kitten_Pie wrote: »

My OH says that too, but I know he is desperate to be a father. (I can see it in his eyes) although he didn't want to push me into trying again so soon after he is glad that I want to try too. It helps that we are on the same page.

I see it in my dh too, plus the things he says and how upset he gets. I end up saying "sorry" to him all the time, not just apologising for not having managed to produce him some offspring yet (which he bowlocks me for ) but because I'm sorry he's hurting too...like when you say "I'm sorry for your loss" to someone, because you don't know what else you can say to express how sad you're feeling that they're so sad...sort of thing

He told me tonight that we've been invited to a friend's 30th (harder than a non big numbered birthday to skip out on :cool:) in the next week or so... Now I'm not a particularly party/large gathering kind of person; I don't like weddings for the same reason... But to add to this general feeling of wanting to emigrate so I've a decent excuse to miss such occasions, is that he married his wife at least 6 months after we got wed, almost split up within the first 6 months, and she is now at least 6 months pregnant...(and he keeps sending my dh scan pics over email, out of the blue ) ... I just can't see myself managing this one... :cool::o

Is anyone else this gathering-phobic? :huh::o

Kitten_Pie

I know what you mean, I find myself saying the same and did so before we lost the boys too.

I find the hardest thing at the moment is facebook, I know at some point someone is going to announce their pregnancy, I almost dread going on at the moment and that is the only way I am communicating with most people. I haven't been to any large groups, I went to a friends party at the weekend but only went because I knew 4 of 8 guests had cancelled.

Big ((Hugs)) with regards to your friend. My brothers girlfriend is pg and they have been together less than a year, don't live together and he had to borrow money off my baby sister to pay his bills recently (he is 37) It just seems unfair that we have a great relationship and were more than prepared (despite earning less than him between both of us) grrr

I read a quote the week we lost the boys which seemed to sum up how I felt (I can't remember the exact quote but it was similar to the below):

"It seems unfair that fate would allow me to find my soulmate only to break his heart."

sexymouse

Morning all!

Sending hugs to you all!

Welcome to the newcomers.

Well I'm in 2ww, so nothing happening here at the moment. I've got my assessment centre interview thing this morning (9.30-12), and then I'm invigilating at 12.30. Then this evening, we have our agency Christmas quiz and carvery, so busy day today.

Hope you're all well, and that those having tests are ok too.

Great news about the IVF QQ - hope DH can make it back for you! You'll get your BFP in no time at all - we'll have lots of baby qs.

Well I'd best be off to wash my hair and make myself presentable. Was up late researching their policies, so hope I remember stuff that's useful.

sexymouse xx

Primmer

Sexymouse - good luck with your interview

Hugs to all who need them

Peak on cbfm but DH away so will have to hope Sundays bds were enough which I doubt!

tinkwings

Good Luck Sexymouse

Hugs to all those in need

CD1 for me today :mad:

Birdie85

Good luck with the interview Sexymouse!

Hope the counselling goes well today Kitten_Pie. That poem is beautiful, I'm sorry you're feeling abandoned by your friends (and OH's colleagues), it must be awful to have people avoid talking about the boys when that's all you want to talk about.

I'm so shocked about the reactions that you've seen towards disabled children Nikki and Claire! Absolutely terrible, how sad

Fingers crossed that Sunday's BD caught Primmer!

Hugs for CD1 Tink

OH was in a mood when he got in last night so no BDing for us; I have no idea what was wrong with him but he said 'Nothing' whilst pouting and I honestly couldn't be bothered to push him as it was probably some sulk to do with me and something I have or haven't done so I just left him to it, I actually stayed up later than I should have reading my book because he was doing that thing of obviously trying to sleep but struggling as my light was on but he was in a sulk and refusing to ask me to go to sleep so I quite enjoyed winding him up! Mwahaha! No sulk goes unpunished in my house!

emsbet

Big ((hugs)) Tink

xx